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Introduction: Only in my later years did I realize that children's filial piety is a "conditional" cause and effect!
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It is the fault of a son who does not learn from his teacher, and it is his fault that he does not teach his father!
As the first teachers of their children, parents’ words, deeds and teachings have an inseparable impact on their children’s lives. This includes children's filial piety towards their elderly parents.
In the minds of a large number of people, they all express:
All parents in the world are bad! Filial piety is a matter of course!
Indeed, in ancient times, it was rare to see "disobedience" and violation of filial piety in people's support.
However, as people's thinking continues to advance, people gradually discover that the relationship between children and parents is good or bad, and it does not escape the law of cause and effect.
How parents educate their children will determine how their children will grow.
Even the degree to which parents educate their children directly makes an irreversible decision for their own life in their later years.
Regarding the issue of children supporting their parents, I believe that many people agree with the statement "Don't persuade others to do good things without their suffering."
To be honest, some parents are really not supported in their later years, which is the seed of "self-inflicted" self-inflicted consequences.
From birth to adulthood, the kind of person a child will become has long been determined!
The older I get, the more I understand how important my past causes are!
Only in later years did I realize that children’s filial piety is a “conditional” cause and effect: whether children can be filial to their parents will have a “sign” the moment they live independently!
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Su Daqiang in " is pretty good " is a typical old man who is not popular. He has three children, but the filial piety of three of them has their own prerequisites for him.
Su Mingzhe is the eldest son in the family! I had excellent grades since childhood, and then studied abroad. It can be said that from beginning to end, the eldest son Su Mingcheng did not have much real time with his parents.
After the death of his mother, behind Su Mingzhe's impeccable filial piety is the most vivid embodiment of "far fragrance and near smell".
Su Mingcheng is the second eldest son in the family. He grew up with his mother's "praise" because of his eloquence. And because he was over-spoiled, he has been extremely arrogant since he was a child.
especially bullied his younger sister, and because he was never stopped, it triggered him as an adult, and he even sent his younger sister to the hospital because of his own selfishness.
The younger daughter Su Mingyu , from the heart, is the responsibility of the children, and it is also a "polite" response to family affection under the premise of the ability, which is the same as the true "you support me and I will support you in old age" "There was never any contact.
Moreover, Su Mingyu never spent any money from her family since she was in high school, but relied on herself to reach the peak of her life step by step.
Before Su Mingyu broke up with the family, she was beaten and scolded by her second brother who was as big as a baby and was regarded as a thorn in her mother's side. She never received any protection from her father.
Later, when Su Daqiang needed to be nurtured and supported, if it were not for the seemingly glamorous elder brother to support him, Su Mingcheng would most likely have sent his father to a nursing home.
At the end of , Su Mingyu took Su Daqiang to his mansion... and the family started a new chapter in harmony.
The plot is naturally heart-warming. But if you look at it from a realistic perspective, you will find that if Su Mingzhe had not gone abroad and Su Mingyu had not become a master on his own, Su Daqiang’s three children would definitely not have anyone to care about him!
Parents’ wrong education of their children is the attribution that causes three negative impacts:
affects their children’s conduct and outlook on life;
affects their children’s marriage and love relationships;
affects their children’s understanding of “filial piety” and their understanding of “filial piety”. exercise!
First: Children who are over-spoiled by their parents are the most defeated people
Su Mingcheng, the second son of Su Daqiang in "Everything is Fine", has always been regarded as the treasured child by his mother. Since he was a child, in order to win his mother's praise, he has said all kinds of nice things and done all kinds of "sensible" behaviors.
But in fact, these are over-indulged and over-amplified advantages.
Su Mingcheng, after living independently as an adult, still continued to "gnaw at the old age". It can be said that food, housing and food all come from the parents’ expense. However, he didn't feel anything wrong with it.
On the contrary, when anything happens, there is no responsibility at all.
It was because no one stopped me from beating my sister since I was a child. When I grew up, I still saw my sister only a few times after many years, and started to seriously hurt my sister again. He even beat his wife until she got divorced.
At work, I am not capable enough. In life, the old age continues. Emotionally, there is no concept of business relationship except for me and me.
A vulgar person who has no responsibility and responsibility must have a distorted outlook on life!
Su Mingcheng thinks that I always chew because my parents let me chew. What’s wrong with that? As for supporting the elderly, it is also due to the inability to disobey the pressure from my brother.
If Su Daqiang hadn't been born heartless, selfish, and cowardly, he might have died at his second son's house.
Second: The more children are ignored by their parents, the easier it is for them to work hard, but they tend to go to extremes in filial support.
Su Mingyu in "Everything Is Fine" has always been the "excess" presence in the family. And because she knew there was no one behind her, she kept working hard for her own life.
Although later on, Su Mingyu solved work problems for her eldest brother, vented her anger in the workplace for her second brother, and supported her father in her old age, but these are all very few people who exist in real life.
Human beings are advanced animals with their own independent thinking. Good or bad, it is stored in memory.
In real life, Su Mingyu must have been separated from his family forever!
As the saying goes: I don’t depend on you for my life, and you don’t even think of relying on me.
If Su Mingyu was not the leader of the three children, how could she have the right to speak and decide on so many things?
The more neglected a person is at home, the easier it is for him to work hard and become a brilliant person. However, such people are prone to polar opposites in their support:
or, the pattern is huge. Just be yourself, be filial and have a clear conscience;
or stay far away and don’t even think about taking up a dime of my energy, time or money!
In real life, there are two extreme psychology, the latter must be the majority!
People are accustomed to seeking their own bottom line in others, but repeatedly touching other people's bottom line.I don’t understand at all what the connection is between introspection of cause and effect!
In a sense, filial piety and feedback are caused by the causal interaction between two generations.
Some parents will say:
I don’t have much education, and I don’t know what kind of education is right!
Or:
It is really difficult to educate children. You don’t know what they are thinking in their hearts. It seems that nothing is right!
In fact, as long as parents can truly consider their children's feelings, you will know what "degree" means.
Children who are overly pampered will develop bad habits from an early age and must be properly controlled.
Children who are excessively ignored and suppressed will be sensitive, cowardly or extremely aggressive since childhood, so they need to be cared for reasonably.
Sometimes, a parent’s words directly determine the fate of their children and their own later life.
When people discover in their later years that their children's filial piety requires coercion or threats or material satisfaction to achieve their wishes, I am afraid that they have no choice but to accept the dismal results.
Everyone will grow old, and parents’ education is for their children and themselves.
For the elderly, some people live a long life and have good fortune, and some people really wish to be taken back as soon as possible!
The reason lies in the seeds you have planted.
However, realistic experience cannot make the decision for filial piety after all. After all, how you be yourself and feed back is also one of the ways to educate your next generation!
When you learn to feed back things regardless of past grudges, your children will also be fed a bigger picture. It is passed down from generation to generation and circulates from generation to generation. If you do more things without regrets now, you will have a good future without regrets!
Love is the purgatory of man in this world. Be it love or friendship, only when you meet the right person at the right time can you achieve success!
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Topic discussion: If your parents’ love for you is “unqualified”, will you ignore the past grudges? Leave your honest words in the comment area below.
