The role of "wife", in a society like China that pays attention to family values, in addition to handling the "husband and wife relationship" and "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship", there is another thing to pay attention to, which is the "uncle-sister-in-law relationship" and "sister-in-law relationship". Sister-in-law relationship."
As the saying goes, the eldest sister-in-law is the mother, and it is a good virtue for the eldest sister-in-law to treat her brother-in-law and sister-in-law kindly.
We share a story about the relationship between Han Gaozu Liu Bang and his eldest sister-in-law.
When Liu Bang was a teenager, he was quite rebellious and often got into trouble. When
gets into trouble, he has to avoid being pursued by the government, so he often hides and runs around with a few good buddies.
No matter where I go, when it’s time to eat, I have to go home to eat.
Liu Bang didn't dare to go back to his parents when he got into trouble, so he took a few buddies to his eldest brother's house to find leftovers.
Liu Bang's sister-in-law looked down upon this brother-in-law very much - she felt that he was idle all day long and did not do his job properly, and was destined to never be successful, so she did not want to see him.
Therefore, every time she saw Liu Bang and someone coming in, she would deliberately scrape the rice basin to make a sound - meaning that the basin was empty and there was no food.
Liu Bang believed it for the first few times.
It’s time, he thought, how could such a coincidence happen! ——Every time I come, the food is all gone?
Once, he made a special trip and came back again. He sneaked into the kitchen to take a look and found that there was still a lot of porridge left in the basin. He understood that his sister-in-law just didn't want to entertain him and his brothers. ——Look down on him.
Later, Liu Bang rose up in the anti-Qin war, won the Chu-Han conflict, established the Han Dynasty, and became the first commoner emperor in Chinese history.
After the establishment of the Han Dynasty , Liu Bang made many princes with the same surname - his brothers, even cousins, and even distant relatives named Liu were all made princes or given land. However, only the eldest brother's son was not rewarded - the eldest brother had passed away at this time.
Liu Bang's father loved his eldest grandson very much, so he asked about this matter-why Liu Bang didn't make his own nephew.
Liu Bang said to his father: "I have not forgotten this nephew. I am angry that my sister-in-law did not have the kindness of a elder sister-in-law and looked down on me when I was down."
After expressing this knot, Liu Bang was relieved. —— Before his father could waste any more words, he named his nephew Genjiehou. Genjie[jiá] means "scraping porridge (basin)". ——Although Liu Bang no longer cares about this matter, these two words, as the name of the Marquis, still express his feelings about this matter.
[Brief Comment]
After the release of the third child, many female friends will have "brother-in-law" and "sister-in-law".
His age may be more than ten or twenty years different from his brother - there will be many things he is ignorant about. However, no matter whether this brother-in-law can become a talented person in the future, at least we are a family.
As a sister-in-law, you must learn to be tolerant and kind.
Companion Reading of Chinese History Volume 2 "Historical Records" Chu-Han Dynasty Family Chapter 181: How to get along with the relationship between uncle and sister-in-law - Don't be too kind and small. The content involves the original volume: "The Twentieth Family of King Chu Yuan" 
