When two people are together, if they really love someone, they will accept it no matter how strong the other person is. At the same time, they still think that the other person is assertive.
When someone doesn't love the other person, even if she is not strong, she will be said to be opinionated, weak, boring, and unmotivated.
I went to the divorce registration office and looked at the various reasons. In the end, I found that in fact, there is no question of whether a woman is strong or not, it is just a question of whether the man loves her or not.
When he loves you, all your shortcomings will become advantages. When he doesn't love you, the advantages that everyone praises will also become the shortcomings in his mouth. It's that simple.
incident review: Five months ago, Xiaojing (pseudonym), who had just divorced, reunited with her junior high school classmate Wang Zhongyi (pseudonym) by chance.
Because the two had a crush on each other when they were in junior high school, when they reunited and learned that the other was also single, they decided to stay together and spend the rest of their lives together. After
confirmed their relationship, their relationship became better and better, and two months later they decided to get married together. But they did not inform their parents when they obtained the certificate, and they obtained the marriage certificate secretly.
Afterwards, Wang Zhongyi’s mother Li Guiying (pseudonym) accidentally discovered that her son had obtained a marriage certificate with the divorced Xiaojing behind her back and was very angry. She did not agree to the marriage.
She asked her son to divorce Xiaojing because she could not accept the divorced Xiaojing no matter what. Soon after, Xiaojing found out that she was pregnant, but her husband Wang Zhongyi disappeared without a trace. She was very worried.
After several unsuccessful searches, Xiaojing had no choice but to find a reporter, hoping to find Wang Zhongyi with the help of the reporter, and then discuss and solve the problems between them.
In the community of her mother-in-law's house, the reporter, Xiao Jing and her group saw Li Guiying who was walking downstairs. Li Guiying was very angry when she saw Xiao Jing.
She immediately turned around and left. Xiaojing hurriedly walked over and tried to hold Li Guiying to prevent her from leaving, but Li Guiying didn't care that Xiaojing was pregnant at this time, so she immediately threw Xiaojing's hand away.
Many neighbors then came over to watch. When the reporter asked Li Guiying why she treated Xiaojing like this, Li Guiying told the reporter that she had opposed her son being with Xiaojing from the beginning.
Because Xiaojing married her son with a pregnant belly, Xiaojing's belly looked like she was four or five months pregnant, so they suspected that the child in Xiaojing's belly was not their son's.
At the same time, they also felt that Xiaojing's purpose of getting together with her son was not pure, so they firmly opposed the marriage, but Xiaojing was unwilling to let go and kept pestering them.
Xiaojing then explained that she and Wang Zhongyi were junior high school classmates and each other's first love, so they decided to stay together for the rest of their lives after they reunited. She really wanted to spend the rest of her life with Wang Zhongyi.
But she was not with Wang Zhongyi for impure purposes as her mother-in-law said, and she was pregnant for more than a month, not four or five months as her mother-in-law said.
She is just fatter, and her belly is usually quite big, so her belly is more pregnant. If her mother-in-law doesn't believe what she says, she has the B ultrasound results of the doctor's examination for her, and Doctor's diagnosis.
No matter how Xiaojing explained, Li Guiying was still unwilling to believe everything she said. At this time, the neighbors of Li Guiying's family gathered around, and everyone told the reporter that Xiaojing was not as weak as the reporter saw.
Because Xiaojing and the Li family had a heated argument a while ago, Xiaojing came to their community almost every day to cause trouble. In order to force Wang Zhongyi to come out and resolve the matter, Xiaojing drove to the bottom of Li Guiying's house and then honked the horn desperately.
As a result, the neighbors were noisy. Then the security guard and Li Guiying came to persuade Xiaojing, hoping that she would stop this behavior. Unexpectedly, Xiaojing locked herself in the car and refused to come out.
At the same time, she did not stop her behavior. Moreover, Xiaojing came over early every morning and banged on Li Guiying's door desperately. The neighbors were unbearable and all of them complained about this.
So in their eyes, Xiaojing is not only grumpy, but also extremely rude. Xiao Jing was very angry when he heard his neighbors commenting on him.
She replied to the neighbors of her mother-in-law's house: "You really stand and talk without pain. Originally, Wang Zhongyi and I had agreed that their family would give me a gift when we got married, but they gave me a deposit certificate . This is not Are you deceiving people?"
"I originally had a good relationship with Wang Zhongyi, but after he returned home, she didn't agree with our marriage. She asked Wang Zhongyi to divorce me. Since then, I can't find Wang Zhongyi."
The neighbors were very angry after hearing what Xiaojing said. They gathered around and criticized Xiaojing, but Xiaojing and the reporter had no choice but to leave Li Guiying's community.
In order to confirm that Xiaojing was only more than one month pregnant, the reporter then accompanied Xiaojing to the hospital for another examination. The final examination results showed that Xiaojing was indeed pregnant for more than one month, and she did not lie.
Xiaojing then told reporters that the reason why her belly was so big was because she had undergone appendicitis surgery before. She did not hide it, and the Wang family knew about it.
Xiaojing told reporters that she sincerely wanted to be with Wang Zhongyi, so she eagerly hoped that reporters could help mediate between her and Wang Zhongyi.
Later, accompanied by reporters, Xiaojing and her group came to Wang Zhongyi’s work unit to look for him. Finally, under the persuasion of the unit leader, they met Wang Zhongyi himself.
Wang Zhongyi immediately filed for divorce from Xiaojing as soon as they met, and bluntly said that he would insist on divorce even if Xiaojing was pregnant, because the two of them had no buffer period for falling in love, so they got married in a hurry.
After getting married, he found that Xiaojing was completely different from the one he knew when he was in junior high school. At this time, Xiaojing was not only impatient, but also very strong. Wang Zhongyi bluntly said that this was not the result he wanted.
So he wanted to divorce Xiaojing no matter what, and he kept persuading Xiaojing to go to the hospital to abort the child in her belly. Wang Zhongyi even said that he would rather go to a real prison than continue to live with Xiaojing.
Xiaojing was very angry after hearing what Wang Zhongyi said. She never thought that Wang Zhongyi would treat her and her unborn child like this. She was so angry that she walked over and slapped Wang Zhongyi constantly. The reporter saw this and had to take them away. The two pulled apart.
Wang Zhongyi then begged Xiaojing to let him go, but Xiaojing insisted on giving birth to the child. Even if she raised the child alone in the future, she would have no regrets.
Wang Zhongyi then said that if Xiaojing insisted on giving birth to the child in her belly, he agreed to compensate Xiaojing every month, but the premise was that Xiaojing could no longer disturb his life.
Seeing that Wang Zhongyi had decided to leave, Xiaojing couldn't help but burst into tears on the way back. She said that no matter how hard it was in the future, she would give birth to the child and raise it by herself.
Xiaojing said bluntly that she never dreamed that she would be abandoned as soon as she became pregnant. She knew that she and her child still had a long way to go and it might be difficult, but she would definitely go on with no complaints. regret.
She agreed to divorce, but if Wang Zhong did not fulfill his promise after the child was born, she would definitely use legal weapons to protect her and her child's rights, and the mediation ended in failure.
Conclusion: Women must keep their eyes open before getting married, and must not easily believe in men's sweet words. Because in real life, what a man says well is not as good as what he does well.
A man, if he truly loves you, all your shortcomings will be advantages in his eyes. He will not give up your relationship or marriage easily because of someone in the family.
If he truly loves you, he will never let you suffer any injustice. When his family objects to the two of you being together, or when his family makes things difficult for you, he will definitely try his best to protect you. Give you enough sense of security.
If a man doesn't love you, even if you do very well, you are worthless in his eyes. Rather than saying that a woman is strong, it is better to say that a man does not love this woman enough.
So there is no question of whether a woman is strong or not, there is only the topic of love or not. If you don’t love, you don’t love. Don’t make so many excuses for yourself. This shows that you have no sense of responsibility and have problems with your character.
Since we chose to be together in the first place, we should trust each other and face all the problems together, instead of just letting the wind and rain come and abandoning our wives and children.
This is not the behavior a real man should have. If you don’t love you, you can let go, but don’t attribute all the faults to the other person. After all, if there is a problem in a marriage, both husband and wife are responsible. The so-called slap in the face can’t make a difference. reason.
It can be said that Xiaojing in the article showed her pregnancy when she was just over a month pregnant. To be honest, she was quite innocent. Because the belly of an obese person is indeed much larger than that of a woman of normal weight.
Even if she is not pregnant, the belly of an obese woman will look like she is pregnant, so we cannot use the fact that her belly shows pregnancy during the month of pregnancy as an issue.
To be honest, this is very unfair to the woman. We should believe the hospital's test results and the doctor's statement, rather than speculate alone.
article/Huang Xiaoguai
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