In our daily life, we don't easily say the word death because we are very taboo about this word. Sometimes, in order not to say it, we will replace it with many other more obscure words. But we all know in our hearts that one day our lives will come to an end, and the lives of our loved ones will also come to an end.
Someone asked: Why do people cry as louder as possible when they cry after death? Because this is a great respect for the deceased, there are many factors. At the same time, crying is a major feature of our funeral customs. The funeral ceremonies run through the funeral ceremonies, and there are as many as several big scenes. The crying ceremony during the funeral is the most important.
So why do some people not cry or be sad after their loved ones pass away?
In the eyes of others, it is normal to cry and cry when a loved one has passed away, indicating that this person is very sad. People who do not cry or make trouble are usually regarded as indifferent by others, and those who do not cry are psychopathic or cold-blooded. ? In fact, this is not the case. Some people have done investigations on this group of people and showed that this is a psychological self-defense mechanism. Some people may take a week or two, or even longer, before he relaxes himself, and then it is possible to show sadness.
In psychology, people call this behavior "psychological and emotional isolation". The symptom of this situation is that when encountering something very shocking or extremely sad, our brain will subconsciously isolate emotions and consciousness. Even if the movements in our hands are not stopped, the brain is already in In the blank stage, you are unwilling to accept that things happen. With the passage of time, this situation will slowly subside.
This happens because of the self-protection function of the brain, and many people are in the period when their loved ones leave. , I don’t want to face it, and I don’t want to accept it, so I avoid this happening, thinking that I don’t believe it, then my loved ones have never left them. From the perspective of psychologists, they are insecure People.
After the death of a loved one, people generally go through a five-stage process, denial, anger, struggle, sadness and acceptance; from denial to acceptance, this is something everyone has to face. After hearing the death of a loved one, people will generally question this matter, and then they will feel angry. After the anger, a little calmer will wonder if they can fight for it again. When these things have no effect, they will Sadness; after sadness is acceptance.
There are also some people who have left the world after a long period of pain and suffering, or died normally according to the laws of nature. Leaving will not cause strong emotions among relatives. Because they have had a long time to accept this fact, leaving in this way is a good thing for them.
So relatives are not sad, but they are more willing to look at the departure of these relatives with a blessing mentality. They can get out of bad emotions relatively quickly, and at the same time they can appreciate the shortness of time and the preciousness of life. So they will speed up and devote themselves to their lives and work better.
Everyone reacts differently when facing this life and death.
In fact, death is always an irresistible thing for human beings and even all things in nature. It's just that human beings are more emotional than animals, and they will be particularly sad when their loved ones pass away, and crying happens to be a way to vent emotions. But not everyone expresses their sadness by crying.
Each has a way of expressing feelings, some people cry and dieCome, even fainted, but there are some people who are like fools who don’t cry or sorrow. Instead, a calm person is there in a daze, like a lost soul. In fact, the latter is often the saddest, and they can’t accept this. The fact of death cannot express the pain in the heart, and the whole person is blank, so it is so peaceful.
Conclusion: Everyone will have a time to leave. Sadness is certain. But life still has to go on, you can escape for a while, but you can't escape for a lifetime. The relatives have left, but we still have to survive in this world and become strong. The past has become the past. The important thing is to grasp the future and to cheer up and live a better life.
There are two kinds of human sorrow, one is uncontrollable sadness, and the other is inner calm sadness?
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