Book check-in day 132, 2022.7.5
People need to have the wisdom to be superior to others
To walk in society, you can do things only if you can do them, but doing things is not easy, because of the difficulties of the things themselves and the complex interpersonal relationships involved. Relationships can easily frustrate you in doing things. Therefore, if you want to be better than others in doing things and succeed, you need to master some skills.
Below I will share the five-character mantra that helps you to be superior in asking for help and doing things well! If you can understand it thoroughly, it will be easy to get things done and you will be popular. When asking people to do things, real masters often understand this five-character mantra that is superior to others. Learn it.
1. The mantra of the word "exchange": When asking someone to do something, you must know how to exchange benefits.
Before asking someone to do something, you must first figure out what benefits you can provide to the other party, or what kind of rewards you can provide after the other party completes the task. When you Once you figure this out, it will be much easier to ask for help and you can often win good popularity.
2. The mantra of the word "vote": Find out the other person's preferences and do what they like.
If it can best satisfy the other party's interests, but cannot satisfy them, then it is also a good choice to do what they like and satisfy the other party's preferences. , also helps to achieve the goal. To take a step back, even if the other party does not choose to agree to you for various reasons, he will generally have a good impression of you, at least win good popularity, and lay a good foundation for future interactions.
3. The mantra of the word "thinking": Know how to think in other people's shoes.
Think in other people's shoes. Think for others. Solve the problems that others worry about first, relieve other people's worries, and try not to cause trouble to others... If people see that you are so sensible, considerate, and have enough benefits, or can form a good relationship with you, then they are likely to agree to help you. This point actually emphasizes the power of understanding human feelings and sophistication, because one of the core of human feelings and sophistication is knowing how to put yourself in someone else's shoes.
4. The mantra of the word "ritual": things come true when you are polite, and you cannot do anything without giving gifts
Giving gifts, in addition to giving some substantial benefits first, is also a basic etiquette, showing your respect for others, and Your attention to things is an indispensable part of asking for help. It's easier to get things done if you're polite, but it's hard to get things done if you're rude. These are the most basic principles for asking people to do things.
5. The mantra of the word "going": What comes and goes, don't treat asking for help as a one-time deal
If you treat asking for help as a one-time deal, after the thing is done, you will ignore them, or when others ask you for help. , excuse yourself in every possible way, it is tantamount to ruining your popularity, and if you want to ask others to do things, it will be difficult to succeed.
People are generally taller than those who don’t ask for help. However, in order to survive and develop in society, many times, you cannot do without asking for help. This requires you to master the knowledge of asking for help and the art of doing things.
