Many people have happy marriages, husband and wife love each other and are harmonious, their children are sensible and filial, and their families are harmonious. They are an enviable happy family. However, some couples are always arguing, complaining, and blaming each other, which makes the relationship so tense that they want to divorce. In fact, many times, such couples do not have many conflicts, but because they communicate poorly and misunderstandings are not resolved in time, as time goes by, more and more problems arise, reaching the point of being uncontrollable. Many wives say that their husbands like cold violence, but the husbands feel that their wives are too bad-tempered and not gentle.
If two people can act calmly, be good at communication, and think about problems from each other's perspective, they will know that some conflicts do not exist at all.
Just like the couple below, it is the lack of understanding and communication on both sides that causes so many problems. The wife is filled with resentment and accuses her husband: You are dysfunctional. So what happened between them? Why does a wife accuse her husband of his shortcomings?
Since her husband was always reluctant to touch her and would rather play with his cell phone than have an intimate relationship with her, Chen angrily called the mediator to let the mediator know what her husband was thinking. Chen said she slept in a large bed, but her husband would rather make a floor bunk than sleep in the same bed as her.
Chen said that her husband is 30 years old this year, but she no longer needs a woman. She doesn't like women, she only likes mobile phones and doesn't want to sleep on the bed, so she tricks her husband into sleeping on the bed every time. After all, she is as old as a wolf and needs love. But my husband refused to eat this at all and even insisted on sleeping in a different room every day. Unbearable, Chen broke up with her husband and strongly demanded that her husband fulfill his responsibilities as husband and must nourish her love.
But the husband said that he had no feelings for his wife because he couldn't stand his wife's temper. The husband said frankly that his wife scolded the people he caught every day and was in a very low mood. Since the child was born, his temper has gotten worse and worse. He kept arguing and nagging every day.
Chen said that her husband plays games all day long, does not like women, does not touch himself, or there are women outside. The mediator said that no man can stand his wife's endless nagging. If he wants his husband to put down his cell phone, put down his computer, and be around him, it still depends on his wife's efforts. Chen doesn't think so. She felt that her husband did not care about the family and had no sense of responsibility. She just longs for love and care, but her husband doesn't care at all about his feelings. But for the husband, even if he wants to care about his wife, he can't bear all kinds of accusations from his wife, so he still chooses to carry his mobile phone.
The husband said that his wife suffered from depression , but the wife accused him of suffering from autism , and even said in front of everyone that the husband did not like women because of dysfunction. As soon as he opened his mouth, the husband couldn't bear it. He said bluntly: I just saw your face, I didn't feel you. You are too noisy.
The mediator saw that the quarrel between the two was getting more and more intense and said that since you both felt that you had psychological problems, you suggested that you all go to the hospital for a check-up. If this is the case, you can also prescribe medication to the patient and treat it as soon as possible to avoid affecting the relationship between the couple. In this regard, the husband said that there was nothing wrong with him and that he did not need to be checked. It was the wife who wanted to get tested. Finally, with the coordination of the mediator, the wife also promised to change her temper in the future, and the husband said that the wife could control her temper and spend more time with him and take care of him.
Netizen opinions:
Some netizens said: This wife looks like a complaining woman, nagging and blaming her husband every day. What husband can tolerate such a broken-mouthed woman? Must be avoiding her. Some netizens said: In fact, a woman's temper depends on her husband's attitude. If the husband has enough care and patience for his wife, the wife will be gentle and considerate.
Some netizens said: This couple is self-centered, lacks understanding, and cannot communicate. In fact, as the Cold War intensified, so did the relationship between the couple.One didn't want to talk, and the other couldn't stop talking. How can such a life go on?
Americanism Association: It can be seen that this couple actually cares about each other, because even if they quarrel like this every day, they do not want to divorce, which shows that they are still unwilling to end the marriage in their hearts, but they do not know how to repair the relationship between husband and wife. So they just put down this spear and this shield and let it get louder and louder.
If Chen did not complain about her husband every day, but gave her encouragement and appreciation, when her husband saw her admiring and admiring her in this way, he would definitely be very enthusiastic about her, be willing to have intimate behaviors with her, and give her love and care.
In fact, there are many things between husband and wife. Someone said, no big deal. As long as you think more about each other's position, think more about each other's feelings, be more tolerant, understand more, and communicate more, there is nothing you can't do.
