Human life is short and hurried, and the people you meet are all destined to be good by God. And couples who can spend this short life together will naturally have an even more wonderful fate, and they deserve to cherish each other and protect each other throughout their lives.
But in this era, divorce seems to be a common and trivial matter. It seems that if there is a small problem in the relationship, the couple will divorce as soon as they say it, leaving almost all the previous relationship behind. But is this really the right thing to do?
incident review: There is such a couple who are also thinking about whether to divorce, because recently they both feel that each other does not pay enough attention to themselves, and the relationship between them is not as strong as before, and they often even find various reasons to avoid themselves.
2 even had a more serious misunderstanding. Both husband and wife said that they were too busy to date each other. Unexpectedly, the two turned around and bumped into each other in a restaurant.
When the couple looked at each other, the hearts of the friends eating at the same table were lifted. Seeing the tense situation between the couple, the friend advised: "You two should control your emotions, don't make trouble outside, and make the argument again when you go back."
Friends helped to smooth things over, explain things, and liven up the atmosphere at the scene.
It turned out that the husband had a party that day, but he was afraid that his wife would say that he ate nonsense every day.
In order to avoid conflicts between husband and wife, he finally chose to hide the incident. The wife is the same. She is afraid that her husband will always say that she spends money indiscriminately, so she finds an excuse to offend her husband, but she never expects that they will meet in a restaurant.
At that moment, both of them felt embarrassed and in a very bad mood. They even kept eating carelessly, recalling why the relationship between husband and wife had reached this point.
That night, neither meal was eaten well. In the end, the wife and husband went home together, and neither of them said anything along the way. It wasn't until after returning home that the wife took the initiative to cook noodles for her husband, and when the two of them sat down to eat, they finally decided to have a good talk.
The wife's emotions burst out uncontrollably at that moment. She looked at the man aggrievedly and expressed all the dissatisfaction in her heart. It turned out that the wife did not not love her husband.
It’s just that the husband always finds various reasons to go out drinking, and usually doesn’t accompany her and the children. Naturally, the wife feels aggrieved, and she can’t help but have a bad attitude towards her husband. The gentleness before marriage no longer exists.
The husband also took the opportunity to express his grievances. In fact, he always wanted to escape from the family because his wife was usually too overbearing and would not be as gentle as before.
Men are all equally attached to the gentle land, and as time goes by, they become more and more unwilling to communicate with each other.
After the two explained everything clearly, they realized that the problem between them was not that serious at all. In the final analysis, they just hoped that the other party could take more care of themselves and really take themselves at heart.
After that day, my wife changed a lot. She learned to be as gentle as she was before she got married, and no longer embarrassed her husband. The husband also began to be willing to go home. The family often talked and laughed, and the conflicts in the past seemed to no longer exist.
Author's point of view
The constant conflicts between husband and wife must be caused by communication problems. After all, if the husband and wife really had no feelings for each other, they would not have gotten together in the first place.
In the final analysis, two people have been together for a long time, and the freshness of the past no longer exists, which leads to the emergence of this phenomenon. But the lack of novelty does not mean that the relationship between husband and wife no longer exists.
It's just that they need to live in a different way, to transform each other from lovers to relatives.
Many times, everyone will make a mistake, uncontrollably using sharp words to hurt the people closest to them, but not knowing that the key to the problem lies within themselves.
Sometimes we learn to put ourselves in someone else's shoes, and many conflicts will no longer exist. I hope all couples can learn to understand their significant other, give each other a certain amount of tolerance except for issues of principle, and do not take away the firmness that made them choose to be together in the first place. Forget the belief, because if you leave the other person, you will probably never meet anyone better than him.
