Adler once said: "Happy people use their childhood to heal their lives, and unfortunate people use their lives to heal their childhood."
The original family has a huge impact on everyone. In everyone's subconscious, there is an unsolved knot of the original family. With this knot into a new life, some people will be happy throughout their lives, while others will suffer deeply from it. !
Our original family has created our character flaws. As we grow older, we can only heal the damage of our original family through self-salvation!
First of all, we must see the limitations of our parents. We are born as humans and become parents without any training. We can only educate us with the way they were raised since childhood. Aren’t our parents people who have been deeply hurt by their original family?
Secondly, let go of your inner obsessions. When we don’t place hope on our parents to change, let go of the past and look forward, and focus on our own growth, we will be freed from the inside. There is no point in worrying about what has happened. We will never wait for our parents for the rest of our lives. Do we have to wait a lifetime for an apology? Letting go does not mean that we forgive, nor does it mean that we approve of this behavior!
Everyone has their own issues. I just focus on my own issues and grow myself. Letting others go is also letting yourself go. Since we know the impact of our original family on ourselves and our original family cannot be changed, then we should still work hard to provide for the future. Let’s create a beautiful native family for our children!
