interpretation of emotional topics will take you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional reliever, but you must know how to let yourself go!
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We once loved each other and made promises to each other. Why were we so reluctant to let go when we were finally separated?
After falling in love, are you the one who cherishes and sends blessings to each other when we are separated?
Are the treasures and blessings from
what you really expect?
can’t!
After breaking up, no one really wants the other person to live well! Because, if he lives a good life, he will not think of his own good!
In real life, when a relationship is still there, it is sincere to wish the other person well. Only in this way can you play a "good Feng Shui" role in the other person's heart.
After falling in love, once they are truly separated, there are almost zero people who sincerely wish each other well.
No one hopes that after separation, he will be completely forgotten by the people he loved.
In the blessings sent out with tears and heartache, I don’t know how many people are looking forward to it: Don’t forget, I have been in your world before!
In this world, there are only good gatherings and no good separation.
However, among many people who have fallen in love and separated, we have only seen countless negative emotions, but rarely seen that there are more people who are willing to examine their own failed past.
Some people love and get hurt every time. Every time it is heartbreaking, every time it is broken. Why?
does not have self-summary and self-thinking.
people must be good at summarizing and accumulating so that they can gain something in their growth. This is especially true when it comes to feelings!
Here, the author leads everyone into memories. Help people whose relationships have failed repeatedly and make a profound summary together.
Actually, there are 3 reasons why a relationship comes to an end! Easy-to-understand truths, you will be relieved and awakened after reading them:
1: Thinking too much about yourself
Yes, when facing relationships, people must first have the ability to love themselves before they can know what kind of person they are suitable for. Love, how to express the correct love.
However, loving yourself does not mean being selfish!
When many people love themselves in relationships, they magnify their selfishness infinitely and make it extremely obvious.
In many relationships that fall apart after deep love, we will find that the relationship between a man and a woman ends not because who is not good enough, but because who is not "good enough".
A person who is only willing to consider his own feelings is not necessarily a bad person, but he is definitely not a qualified good lover.
A good relationship is to live in harmony while ensuring mutual respect. Instead of asking the other party to pay for all their mistakes.
In relationships, some people are extremely self-centered and have double standards. In everything, I am only willing to perceive right and wrong from my own perspective, completely ignoring the feelings of the other party and the negative impact such behavior will have on the relationship.
In the end, once separated, the responsibility lies entirely with the other party.
The management of relationships requires mutual respect, empathy and transposition, so that both parties can feel at ease and enjoy a pleasant atmosphere. Emotional relationships will continue to heat up and stay together for a long time.
2: The creation of a sense of security is very low-quality
When two people are together, if they really apply the affection they talk about in practice, then the result of creating a sense of security must be a high-quality existence.
Otherwise, he talks about affection, but his actual actions never give the slightest sign of security. You say, when a person chooses a relationship, should he choose someone with whom his heart and mouth are aligned, or someone who only has one mouth?
Some people choose a relationship partner, but never allow their other half to get too close to them.In particular, do not limit yourself from crossing boundaries with other members of the opposite sex, and do not disturb your private space too much...
There are also some people who say they are deeply in love, but never make any actual efforts to manage the relationship...
This It's not love, it's just choosing to have an emotional relationship with a person for the purpose of some desire (maybe sexual, maybe material).
love, very pure and very direct. Although two people need "equivalent exchange" to be together, for those who truly love each other, what they exchange of equal value must be their own 100% sincere heart.
Whenever two people are together and the reception of emotional signals is weak, it proves that this is not a union for love. At least, it doesn't meet the standards of true love.
People who love each other will never get tired of getting along with each other. Maybe the other party's words and deeds will cause you to have bad emotions, but they will definitely convey and guide them well, and they will not use bad words to distance themselves.
keeps saying she is deeply in love, but does not show the slightest hint of security in her actions. Such a relationship is destined to have no good results.
3: Always willing to compare other people’s significant other with the person in front of you
A qualified lover will definitely not only see the flaws of the person in front of him.
Some people are in a relationship and are willing to compare the good qualities of others with the bad qualities of the person in front of them. Little did he know, he was actually the worst one.
A qualified lover must grow together with his significant other, encourage each other, and achieve each other's achievements. For yourself, keep correcting yourself.
In this world, no one is truly perfect. But there must be someone who is willing to work as hard as possible to make the relationship in front of him perfect.
When a person is unwilling to see the advantages of the person in front of him, he will inevitably magnify the shortcomings of the person in front of him.
Know that no one is a puppet. No one will be willing to live according to what you think under your harsh "preaching".
It is not selfish for a person to live according to the way he likes. He must force others to live according to his own standards, that is selfish.
When two people are together, of course there will be conflicts and differences, there must also be shortcomings on one side that really need to be corrected.
However, guidance and suggestions, as well as using reasonable methods to let him see the benefits of change, are definitely more effective than blaming and comparing others with him.
Between men and women, falling in love and breaking up are always a matter of course. If you can figure out the details in getting along, you will be able to avoid the possibility of breaking up.
Some people are separated for a lifetime, while some people still have no results after separation and reunion. The biggest reason is that we forget to summarize the past and examine ourselves.
In a relationship, whether you exert too much force or not enough force is the main reason for separation. The key is what kind of result you want. If you want to cherish the person in front of you, you can definitely go all out.
When a relationship has not come to an end after you have gone all out, you won’t be too entangled.
After all, people who accept the reality of the consequences are more likely to let go.
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Love is the purgatory of man in this world. Be it love or friendship, only when you meet the right person at the right time can you achieve success!
topic discussion: What do you think two people should pay attention to in the way of getting along when they get back together after breaking up? Leave anything you feel uncomfortable saying to others in the comment area below!
