For middle-aged men, the age of falling in love has long passed. The thinking of these men is different from that of young men. They have already experienced the ignorant feelings of youth, and are also burdened with family and work pressures.
Therefore, the relationship between men and women that they look forward to most can actually be summarized in these nine words: no entanglement, no responsibility, and no greed.
Don't talk about love with middle-aged men, just talk about relationships. It may be more relaxed and free-spirited. Life is so tiring, so why do they need so much love? What they need most is relaxation and passion.
A non-entangled relationship, men like it most
The essence of the relationship between men and women, in the final analysis, is actually four words: each gets what he needs. Once what you want and what he can give you are not equal, then conflicts will inevitably arise.
A female reader consulted with me. After her divorce, she fell in love with a man who was in his thirties and already married. In the beginning, the two of them just had a simple date. As a divorced woman, she rejected the role of a third party from her heart, but because she was a good match with this man, she slowly began to fall into it.
The dating process for two people is actually very simple. It omits the sweet talk and the long walk on the Hudi. Sometimes it is a break during work during the day, sometimes it is an hour or two after get off work.
The other party's powerful energy allowed her to completely open herself up. This feeling was something she had never experienced in her previous marriage. Once a woman establishes a long-term sexual relationship with a man, she begins to consider a question unconsciously: Do I want to be with him?
After that, she began to use various means to try to destroy the other party's family. For example, after two people had a date in the car, she deliberately left a hairpin or an earring.
Men are alert and rational. Although I didn't communicate with her directly, I gradually stopped contacting her.
She felt a little lost and didn't know how to face this problem.
To be honest, between a man at home and a woman outside of marriage, there is no doubt that he will choose the former. They see the nature of relationships very clearly. A woman outside marriage is a delicious dessert. But if you eat too many desserts, you will easily gain weight.
It’s okay to sleep with you, please each other in bed, and be safe when you get out of bed. This is the mode of getting along with you that they most look forward to. Other than that, don't think too much.
Irresponsible relationship, the safest
A male fan occasionally talked to me about his extramarital experiences. He said that he has had many romantic encounters in the past few years, but he has one principle: he will never harm his family.
Some time ago, he met a woman. The other party has a family, but has a bad relationship with her husband. The two chatted for a while and had sex.
After that, their relationship lasted for several months. The woman seemed a little emotional and often sent him messages and phone calls.
Once, when he was taking a shower in the bathroom, the other party sent a voice message, which happened to be seen by his wife. Although it is just a very ordinary content, it is obvious that my other half has noticed it.
Since then, he began to slowly alienate each other. Two weeks later, contact was completely severed.
He said, There is actually no shortage of resources around me, but I am particularly disgusted with women who keep pestering me. The relationship is originally just a sleepover. I have a family and she also has a husband. Do we still have to have an eternal alliance?
In the world of men's love, there is an eternal logic: we can sleep, but don't fall in love with me.
They will not be responsible for a woman outside of marriage, nor do they want that person to destroy their family. Just have fun with the relationship and be happy.
A woman who is not greedy is the cutest
A man who had an extramarital affair for ten years once said this: I can give her anything, but divorce is impossible.
This man runs his own company, and his wife and children live in the county town. He has been working hard in the provincial capital city. That lover had been with him for ten years, bought her a car and a house, and lived with her most of the time.
Of course, my wife also knows that there is such a woman out there, but she seems to have acquiesced in this relationship.With his wife, they treat each other with respect, and at this age, he doesn't want to divorce and mess around.
The reason why this lover can stay together for such a long time is entirely because the other person will not destroy his family. Within the scope of his ability, he can give the other person material things and the two of them can get along happily. This is the best model.
The relationship that middle-aged men like most is actually the same, that is: freedom to come and go. We don’t need to be responsible for each other, and we don’t need to pester each other again and again.
When we are together, we enjoy each other; when we are not together, we are busy with each other. You have your life, I have my direction. We are like two ships in the dark night, illuminating each other but independent of each other on the vast sea.
