As the saying goes, After a woman gets married, she is an outsider in her husband's family and a guest in her natal family. After getting married, it is very difficult for a woman to integrate into a new family.
Often married women do not have a home. Because the husband's family cannot integrate, the mother's family cannot return. Only when a woman builds her own little home, maybe a woman can have a shelter that is sheltered from the wind and rain.
As a mother of a woman, of course she should be able to relate to the difficulties faced by women. But some mothers are reasonable, but some are not. More often, they habitually squeeze their daughters to subsidize their sons.
01. It is natural for parents to respond to their daughter’s requests.
How other parents pamper their daughters is completely a fantasy for Mo Min. Because although she is the youngest daughter in the family, she has never enjoyed the preferential treatment of her parents.
Ever since she became sensible, what her parents have said the most is that you are a daughter, and sooner or later you will get married and start a family. When you are able, you should help your brother more. Otherwise, what will your mother-in-law's family do to support you after you get married?
So, after Mo Min started working, her monthly salary was basically sent back to her parents. The parents turned around and subsidized the brother to help him support his wife and children and pay off the mortgage. Mo Min knew her parents' favoritism, but she couldn't argue for herself, let alone sever ties with her parents.
Relying on Mo Min's obedient and filial character, her parents repeatedly asked for money, but Mo Min always responded. As time went by, parents took it for granted and asked for money more often.
However, the elder brother and sister-in-law pretended not to know that Mo Min, a biological sister, was subsidizing her natal family. Anyway, the money that their biological sisters honor their parents and their parents love to give them cannot refuse and they can only accept it one by one.
02. My sister-in-law gave birth to a second child, and her mother asked her daughter to give her 30,000 yuan: This is a meeting gift for your nephew.
Mo Min thought that after she got married and started a family, her parents would restrain themselves and would not keep asking for money before they were married to her. As a result, Momin was only a month old when her parents started asking for money, saying that her brother and sister-in-law's salary was low and they could barely support the whole family. If Momin didn't support her parents, her parents would really be homeless.
Mo Min was frightened by her parents' crying for poverty, and finally compromised and gave her parents 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses. Only then did her parents stop making trouble at her home. Momin's act of subsidizing her mother's family also met with complaints and dissatisfaction from her husband's family.
Mo Min thought that 2,000 yuan per month could be enough to send her parents off. But only a year and a half later, my sister-in-law gave birth to her second son. The whole family was very happy, and my parents even cried with joy. They thought that my sister-in-law was a great contributor to the family, and my brother finally had a child.
Mother was very happy to announce the good news to Mo Min, and also specified that Mo Min should not forget to give a big red envelope to her nephew when she comes to visit, at least 30,000 yuan. After all, this is a meeting gift for your nephew.
Listening to her mother's request, and thinking about her mother's preference for sons over daughters, Mo Min felt a little pity for her eldest niece, and even more pity for herself, a ATM machine who was sucked by her parents anytime and anywhere.
03. Daughter refused: I gave birth to a child, and my sister-in-law would not give me any money.
Mo Min explained to her mother that she had just given birth to the child not long ago, and she had little savings. 30,000 yuan was too much. She was now taking care of the child at home. I really can’t take it out.
The mother said disapprovingly, you have no income to take care of your children at home, but your son-in-law has a job, so let him pay 30,000 yuan. This 30,000 yuan is what you give to your eldest nephew. You can’t miss a penny. Your brother and sister-in-law are watching. I You and your father are getting older, and we are counting on your brother and sister-in-law in the future. You don’t want to be unable to return to your parents’ home in the future.
Mo Min became anxious and told her mother that this is the same thing. I gave birth to a child and my sister-in-law didn’t give me a penny. At that time, you defended your brother and sister-in-law, saying that their income was low and they couldn’t afford the money. You asked me Don't worry. Why now, when my sister-in-law gives birth to a second child, I have to get 30,000 yuan, not even a penny less? Mom, don’t kidnap me all the time and use my money to please your daughter-in-law.
Mother was also a little anxious about Mo Min's stubbornness. How could this be confused? The water thrown out by a married daughter will have to be supported by her mother's brother, sister-in-law and nephew in the future. If you don't please me now, if your parents are gone in the future, how can you ask others to support you? Without a woman from her mother's family, how can she live a good life in her husband's family?
No matter how nice her mother said it, Mo Min refused to take 30,000 yuan. In fact, she and her husband had already considered it. They would not give her a penny, which was not justified on a human basis, but they allowed her to take 30,000 yuan. She felt very sorry for her husband, so they finally agreed to give her 2,000 yuan. If the parents of the brother-in-law and sister-in-law dislike it, then they will not give any money. Anyway, she has long been tired of being this Brother-Fu demon.
On the day of the full moon, Mo Min took out 2,000 yuan, and was despised and reprimanded by the whole family. The sister-in-law's face also darkened, and she didn't give Momin any good looks. Her parents also scolded her, saying that she was unfilial and always disobeyed her parents.
Looking at the expressions of the whole family, Mo Min sneered, took back the red envelope confiscated by her sister-in-law, took her husband and children back to her home. Anyway, it's not that she didn't give it, but that her brother and sister-in-law didn't want it.
As for what will happen to her parents' family in the future, Mo Min doesn't want to worry about it anymore. She is really tired of using her hot face to stick to other people's cold buttocks.
Today’s topic:
Do you think Mo Min should sever ties with her parents?
Pinxia explanation: Analyze marriage emotions and teach you to understand human nature!
