After the lockdown in Shanghai was lifted, the divorce registration office was full of appointments. There were many people who wanted to divorce. I was one of them. We had been in cold war for many years before the epidemic. Getting along during the epidemic made the two of us lose the last remaining hope.
On May 20th, after two months of being closed at home for 60 days, I finally left home. I knew that what awaited me would be a 14-day quarantine, but I had no hesitation. As long as I could leave, I was willing to endure it. I could see Hope after quarantine, but if I had stayed, I might have gone crazy.
The moment I drove on the road, I felt liberated. I felt extremely relaxed and happy. I couldn't help but send a short video of outside the car to my friends and shouted: I am liberated!
A friend said that Shanghai is almost unblocked. If you go out now, Shanghai may be free before the quarantine is over. My friends all thought that I left because I couldn't bear the confinement, but this was just a small reason. I didn't panic when I was locked up at home. I was always busy before, but now I have time to read the books I have always wanted to read, study the courses I have not completed, and adjust. It's not a good thing to do it yourself.
The fundamental reason why I was in a hurry to leave was this home. I really couldn't stay, not even for a moment. The atmosphere in my family was so depressing that I almost exploded on the spot.
Since my son went to college abroad, although my wife Anzhen and I live under the same roof, we are like strangers, barely talking to each other, busy with our own things, and just go home to sleep at night.
An Zhen is an only child with good family conditions and her parents dote on her, which leads to her always being self-centered. Her father is a leader. After graduating from college, her father arranged for her to work in an agency with a relaxing job and good benefits. An Zhen looks ordinary. She may have taken a liking to me because of my image. Of course, I also got a good job because of marrying her.
After having her son, An Zhen said that it was very hard for her to give birth and she couldn’t bear to raise the child. I could only ask my mother to take care of the child. The only thing she did was come back from get off work to entertain the child. I did everything else. My mother was in charge, and I felt sorry for her hard work. I would help the family with housework when I had time. But later, after I quit my job and started my own business, I rarely had time to take care of the house.
Anzhen doesn't care about family affairs, but she is very picky and often dislikes my mother for not being able to do this or that. I told her that if you don't feel good about it, just do it yourself. She thinks I don't protect her, so she often She never quarrels with me when she's angry with me, won't talk to me when she's unhappy, keeps a cold war with me and my mother, and makes me admit my mistakes every time. I coax her many times before she gives up. This has been like this for a long time. I was also tired, so sometimes I just let her go. She would never bow her head, and there would be a long period of indifference.
Anzhen only sees herself and cares little about her children. She sees me as superfluous. She doesn’t ask when I come home late and doesn’t care if I don’t. In all these years, she has never bought me a car. She never cared about my life. If I told her I was sick, she would tell me to go to the hospital for a checkup, and then nothing would happen.
My son started attending an international school after graduating from elementary school. He lived on campus and only went home on weekends. My mother also returned to her hometown due to health reasons. I will arrange a day every weekend to spend time with my son, take him out to play, and eat what he wants to eat. For my family, my responsibility is to pay for all the expenses of the family, including buying a house, my son’s tuition and daily expenses. It seems that I don’t need to do anything else.
Anzhen’s favorite thing after work is dancing. She joins a dance team and often practices dance with a group of women who are similar to her. Sometimes they go shopping and eat together. She eats breakfast and lunch at work and often skips dinner, saying she wants to stay in shape. I have my own company, which is not big, so I have to do everything by myself. If I don’t go on a business trip, I will come home late every day. Fortunately, the company hired an aunt who cooks, which solves my problem of eating. It’s not that I don’t want to go home, but There was no food to eat even when I got home.
Husband and wife were originally the two closest people in the world, but as we lived our lives, we seemed to be inseparable. We barely maintained our marriage just for the sake of our responsibility for our children.
The whole city of Shanghai is closed down. Two people who have not lived together for a long time are locked in a home. The first thing they have to face is their extreme discomfort. They have no job, cannot go out, and have no way to escape. How can we live like this? , it’s really frustrating and unwilling, and they torture each other every day.
At home, life has become our top priority. After our son left, the kitchen became a decoration and the fire was never turned on. Almost all the food left in the kitchen was expired. There was nothing to eat. An Zhen was not in a hurry. She would eat snacks when she was hungry. But I couldn't. I am the kind of person who can't stand it without eating. I could only ask the community security guards for help. I used to give them some snacks. I have a good relationship with tobacco and alcohol, so I asked them to bring me some food back, which solved the food problem we had at home.
Having not cooked for many years, I could only cook something to eat. When it was ready, I asked her to come out to eat. She took a few bites and asked how she could make such unpalatable food. As soon as I heard this, I became angry and got angry with her. , telling her how hard it is to get these foods. As a wife, she doesn’t care if the family doesn’t have food. Now it’s not easy to have food. Why is she so picky?
That time, I seemed to have vented all the grievances that had been stored in my heart for a long time. An Zhen is really a terrible woman. When I got angry, she didn't say a word or leave. She raised her proud head and looked at me coldly. That kind of disdain made me feel how unreasonable and pitiful I was.
After venting, I returned to my room, feeling desolate in my heart. I asked myself, is this the marriage I pursued desperately? Is this the partner I want to share my joys and sorrows with?
The closed days are like years. Although we are in the same room and do not interfere with each other, there will always be times when we meet, and I feel like there is always a dark cloud over my head, which often makes me breathless.
I bought food and put it in the refrigerator. I would cook it myself when I was hungry, and she would find something to eat by herself when she was hungry. I just kept going day by day, and after two months, I still didn’t see any hope of lifting the lockdown. I started to feel anxious, and suddenly felt that I had to leave, otherwise I would have problems.
hurriedly contacted the neighborhood committee and got a reply that he could go out but could not come back for the time being. He also arranged where he wanted to go and spent a day completing all the procedures. It was already evening and he didn’t want to wait for a moment. He simply packed up his things and drove off. .
Many problems that have not been seen and solved before have been exposed. For the sake of my children and my own face, I chose to compromise and suppress my emotions because I had a job and friends to buffer me from. However, during the long-term closure of the epidemic, When we get along, her selfishness, her lack of understanding of me, makes me feel chilled. Now that my children are older, I am middle-aged and halfway through my life, and I don’t want to wrong myself anymore.
There was no cheating, no domestic violence, and no financial disputes, but my marriage was still killed. I filed for divorce, and An Zhen didn't object. We agreed to go through the formalities after the epidemic was over...
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Narrator: Mr. Sheng, male
Age: 48 years old
Occupation: Private enterprise owner
The whole city of Shanghai is closed down. Two people who have not lived together for a long time are locked in a home. The first thing they have to face is their extreme discomfort. They have no job, cannot go out, and have no way to escape. How can we live like this? , it’s really frustrating and unwilling, and they torture each other every day.
At home, life has become our top priority. After our son left, the kitchen became a decoration and the fire was never turned on. Almost all the food left in the kitchen was expired. There was nothing to eat. An Zhen was not in a hurry. She would eat snacks when she was hungry. But I couldn't. I am the kind of person who can't stand it without eating. I could only ask the community security guards for help. I used to give them some snacks. I have a good relationship with tobacco and alcohol, so I asked them to bring me some food back, which solved the food problem we had at home.
Having not cooked for many years, I could only cook something to eat. When it was ready, I asked her to come out to eat. She took a few bites and asked how she could make such unpalatable food. As soon as I heard this, I became angry and got angry with her. , telling her how hard it is to get these foods. As a wife, she doesn’t care if the family doesn’t have food. Now it’s not easy to have food. Why is she so picky?
That time, I seemed to have vented all the grievances that had been stored in my heart for a long time. An Zhen is really a terrible woman. When I got angry, she didn't say a word or leave. She raised her proud head and looked at me coldly. That kind of disdain made me feel how unreasonable and pitiful I was.
After venting, I returned to my room, feeling desolate in my heart. I asked myself, is this the marriage I pursued desperately? Is this the partner I want to share my joys and sorrows with?
The closed days are like years. Although we are in the same room and do not interfere with each other, there will always be times when we meet, and I feel like there is always a dark cloud over my head, which often makes me breathless.
I bought food and put it in the refrigerator. I would cook it myself when I was hungry, and she would find something to eat by herself when she was hungry. I just kept going day by day, and after two months, I still didn’t see any hope of lifting the lockdown. I started to feel anxious, and suddenly felt that I had to leave, otherwise I would have problems.
hurriedly contacted the neighborhood committee and got a reply that he could go out but could not come back for the time being. He also arranged where he wanted to go and spent a day completing all the procedures. It was already evening and he didn’t want to wait for a moment. He simply packed up his things and drove off. .
Many problems that have not been seen and solved before have been exposed. For the sake of my children and my own face, I chose to compromise and suppress my emotions because I had a job and friends to buffer me from. However, during the long-term closure of the epidemic, When we get along, her selfishness, her lack of understanding of me, makes me feel chilled. Now that my children are older, I am middle-aged and halfway through my life, and I don’t want to wrong myself anymore.
There was no cheating, no domestic violence, and no financial disputes, but my marriage was still killed. I filed for divorce, and An Zhen didn't object. We agreed to go through the formalities after the epidemic was over...
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Narrator: Mr. Sheng, male
Age: 48 years old
Occupation: Private enterprise owner
