Aunt Li's daughter-in-law just gave birth to a baby some time ago, and Aunt Li also gave birth to her eldest grandson, but she did not take care of her daughter-in-law during the confinement period. Wouldn't her daughter-in-law be angry? But Aunt Li felt that doing this was the wisest choice.
She successfully avoided a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As her parents are getting older, they do not necessarily have to do things personally for their son and daughter-in-law. Getting along with them also requires wisdom!
For some mothers-in-law, the birth of a child by their daughter-in-law is a huge joy. They must go to their son's home to take care of their daughter-in-law during the confinement period. However, now that the daughter-in-law has just given birth, Aunt Li chose to withdraw from her son at such a critical moment. Although she did not contribute to her daughter-in-law's small family, she contributed money.
Aunt Li can be said to be a very blessed woman in her life. When she was young, she married a husband who knew both coldness and warmth. After marriage, she gave birth to a son and a daughter. The son was sunny and handsome, and the daughter was They are so smart that many people in this family of four envy them.
Although Aunt Li has lived most of her life, her life has been smooth so far. Ever since her son found a girlfriend and was about to get married, Aunt Li's heart has been hit again and again. I suffered a lot of grievances!
Aunt Li's son is a tall, sunny and handsome young man, but the girlfriend he is looking for is not tall, she is petite, and she looks like a little bird!
In fact, Aunt Li’s dissatisfaction with her future daughter-in-law is not the most important thing. As long as her son likes it, Aunt Li has bought a wedding house and a car for her son. In this way, Aunt Li and his wife will have the money they have saved all their lives. There is not much left to spend.
Her son has also been working for several years and has saved some money. Aunt Li feels that her son is too ignorant. The family buys him a house and a car, but he is unwilling to spend the money he earns at home. Parents share some of the burden.
In fact, how did Aunt Li know that after her son established a relationship with his girlfriend, her son's salary card was already given to his girlfriend for safekeeping.
After Aunt Li learned about this matter, she felt a little unbalanced. The son she had worked so hard to raise was not as good as the girlfriend she had only known for a few months. It seemed that in the eyes of her children, parents It can never be ranked first.
The wedding house Aunt Li bought for her son and daughter-in-law is only about ten minutes away from the community where she lives by electric bike. After holding the wedding for her son and daughter-in-law, Aunt Li and her wife lived comfortably. Think about your life after retirement.
But when the son and daughter-in-law finished their honeymoon and went back to work, before they even started living their own lives for a few days, the son began to arrange tasks for his mother.
"Mom, you and my dad are retired now and have nothing to do at home. My wife and I both go to work during the day and have nothing to eat when we come back at night. Mom, you also know me. I haven't been in the house a few times since I was a child. The food cooked in the kitchen is too bad. Mom, can you come over and help us make dinner tonight?"
"Son, you are married now, why is it a problem to even eat now? You can't cook, and your wife can't cook either? I don't believe that two adults can't even eat at home"!
"Mom, look at my wife, how does she look like someone who can cook? If you are not willing to come and help, then my wife and I will have to order takeout every night!"
There is no mother in the world who doesn’t feel sorry for her child. When Aunt Li heard that her son and daughter-in-law ordered takeout every night, in fact, one or two meals occasionally is fine, but how can the body cope with eating takeout like this every day?
Aunt Li thought, forget it, I don’t have anything to do at night anyway, so I’ll ride an electric bike to my son and daughter-in-law’s house to help make dinner. It won’t tire me anyway.
But no one expected that when Aunt Li went to her son's and daughter-in-law's house to help cook dinner on the first night, she would be so angry with her daughter-in-law!
On the first night, when Aunt Li went to her son's house to help make dinner, she stopped by the vegetable market and bought some vegetables to take with her. That night, she made a plate of sweet and sour pork and a steamed pork ribs for her son and daughter-in-law. Fish , and two vegetables are fried. Aunt Li thinks that with fish and meat, a combination of meat and vegetables, her son and daughter-in-law will definitely be very satisfied with the meal!
When the son and daughter-in-law came back from get off work, they washed their hands and sat at the dining table to prepare for dinner. But at this time, Aunt Li saw her daughter-in-law suddenly holding her son's hand, and said sweetly,
"Husband, I used to be at home. When I was young, my mother would ask me what I wanted to eat before cooking every day, and then she would cook something for me."
The son smiled and tapped his wife's nose, pretending to be a little angry and said, "What's wrong? Aren't you satisfied with my mother's cooking? My mother's cooking is very delicious. If you don't believe me, try it"!
At this time, Aunt Li was unhappy. What did her daughter-in-law mean by what she just said? Is it possible that she wants me to be like her own mother, who has to ask her what she wants to eat before cooking every day, and then what food will I cook for her?
Why? You don’t regard me as your biological mother. I paid for the food with my own money and came to cook for you. If you have this attitude, then I won’t come next time. You are both adults and have already I got married and now I can’t even eat, and that’s not my fault!
Seeing that her son and daughter-in-law were sitting down to eat, Aunt Li was ready to go home. Could it be possible that she would stay and wait for them to eat and drink enough before helping them wash the dishes? Aunt Li doesn't want to let herself be so humble.
Walking to the gate, Aunt Li turned back and said to her son and daughter-in-law, "From now on, you two will eat whatever I cook every day. If you really can't get used to the food I cook, then I won't come here from tomorrow on." "!
"Mom, the food you cook is very delicious. I haven't eaten enough since I was a snack. Your daughter-in-law also likes it. Mom, you must come over and cook for us tomorrow night"!
Aunt Li's goal was achieved. She turned around and opened her son's and daughter-in-law's home. She didn't want to stay and disturb the young couple's life together. Aunt Li thought in her heart, since I came to help you cook, then I will do it. You eat whatever dishes are available, and you still want to be picky and picky. I’m not used to your bad habits!
In the blink of an eye, my son and daughter-in-law have been married for more than half a year. Aunt Li asked her daughter-in-law to learn cooking from her more than once, but her daughter-in-law said: I don’t want to learn to cook. I have lived in my parents’ family for so many years, and my mother didn’t let her. I learned to cook, and my mother never let me go hungry!
Time passed day by day. Maybe Aunt Li, a mother, felt sorry for her son, or maybe she was too sensitive. She found that since her son and daughter-in-law got married, his quality of life has plummeted!
Because my son and daughter-in-law’s home has always been a mess, the floor can go ten and a half months without being mopped, the garbage can is full, and I don’t even know how to throw it downstairs, and the clothes in the washing machine have been washed for two days. For three days, I would forget to take them out to dry, and the clothes that were left to dry on the balcony would not be taken in for a week.
And every night, the daughter-in-law instructs her son to do this and that. When a courier arrives, she asks her son to go downstairs to get it. When her daughter-in-law wants to eat fruit, she asks her son to go downstairs to buy it. What is the daughter-in-law doing there every night? Take a shower, apply facial mask, watch TV, play games, and sleep.
Aunt Li thought to herself, fortunately I don’t live with my son and daughter-in-law, otherwise I would be pissed off by them one day if I saw their young couple’s lifestyle!
In fact, this is how a couple lives, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer, one is strong and the other is willing to accept weakness. Aunt Li didn't say anything when she saw her son. As a mother-in-law, she wouldn't mind meddling in other people's business, so there was no need to offend her daughter-in-law.
So she helped prepare dinner at her son's house every night, and then Aunt Li left without looking back.
Originally, life went on like this, but when Aunt Li's daughter-in-law became pregnant, she truly realized that this daughter-in-law was really tormenting people!
After my daughter-in-law became pregnant, she said that she couldn't smell the smell of cooking fumes. When she smelled the smell of cooking, she couldn't help but feel nauseous and sick to death.
Next, when Aunt Li went to her son's house to cook, she asked her daughter-in-law to hide in the bedroom. She was cooking in the kitchen and closed the kitchen door so that the oil smoke could not escape. But even so, The daughter-in-law said she could still smell the fumes, and she directly asked her mother-in-law not to come to the house to help with cooking in the future.
How can this be done? Obviously, neither son nor daughter-in-law can cook, but now the daughter-in-law is pregnant again, and she can't even smell the smell of cooking fumes. A pregnant person can't order takeout all day long? It’s neither hygienic nor healthy!
There was really no other way, so Aunt Li came up with another trick. She cooked meals at home every day, put them in a thermos bucket, and asked her son to come home and take them back to her daughter-in-law to eat. This is really pitiful for the parents in the world!
After becoming pregnant, my daughter-in-law has become even more picky about food. Today’s food should be sweet and sour, tomorrow’s food should be spicy, and the day after tomorrow’s food should be oil-free. Aunt Li has been cooking all her life, but recently During this period of time, she was almost depressed by her daughter-in-law. Aunt Li really couldn't understand. Are young girls nowadays becoming so difficult to take care of when they are pregnant?
When her daughter-in-law was six months pregnant, she resigned from the company. She said that it was too hard for her to go to work every day with a big belly. She should wait until after giving birth to continue going to work.
But at this time, she made another request to her father-in-law and mother-in-law, asking Aunt Li and her husband to give her a subsidy of 2,000 yuan a month. Because she no longer works, she has no income. At this time, her father-in-law and mother-in-law should Give her some financial support.
In fact, my daughter-in-law didn’t want to work for a long time. After paying , five insurances and one housing fund, , she only received a salary of 4,000 yuan a month. She felt that this job was really boring.
Faced with the request made by her daughter-in-law, Aunt Li was naturally unwilling. You two have been married for such a long time. I use my own money to buy groceries and cook for you every day. I have never seen you in such a long time. It's okay now that you only have to pay a cent for living expenses. As parents, we have to give you two thousand yuan a month. Is this still reasonable?
But at this time, my wife persuaded Aunt Li to open more, "Look, our monthly pension is almost 10,000 yuan, and we can't spend it all. In the future, the money in our hands will not be all about our sons." In order to make life easier for my son, since my daughter-in-law asked for two thousand yuan, let’s give her two thousand yuan every month. As a mother-in-law, you must learn to be generous in the future. a little"!
When my wife said this, Aunt Li became extremely angry. Am I not generous? How can we be generous? Is it possible that parents work like cows and horses for their sons and daughters-in-law? Is this called generosity?
Soon the daughter-in-law is due to give birth. The son asked the mother to take care of the daughter-in-law during the confinement period. Aunt Li angrily said to her son, "Then you two should hire a confinement nanny. Your wife is really too much." It’s hard to take care of you”!
"Mom, look at what you said, don't you know how much money I make in a month? Now it costs at least 8,000 to 10,000 yuan to hire a nanny. It's not good for me to spend that spare money on my children. Is that so? You are idle at home anyway, so you can just do me a favor!”
Although her son said this, Aunt Li had already made up her mind. She would not take care of her daughter-in-law during the confinement period no matter what. She had already experienced how difficult her daughter-in-law was to take care of her.
After her daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, she would only become more picky. Aunt Li knew that her life would not be easy this month. She was really scared. Aunt Li was willing to pay any amount, as long as She doesn't want to see her daughter-in-law's face every day, no matter what!
The daughter-in-law finally went to the hospital to give birth. Aunt Li accompanied her son and daughter-in-law to the hospital. Her biological mother also rushed over. When the daughter-in-law returned to the ward after giving birth, Aunt Li immediately took out a big red envelope and handed it to her son. Daughter-in-law, no matter how much she spends on giving birth to a child this time, just give her 5,000 yuan first. This is her little wish!
Three days later, the daughter-in-law and the child were discharged from the hospital safely. The next step was the question of who would take care of the daughter-in-law during the confinement period. Of course, the son wanted his mother to stay and take care of the daughter-in-law, but Aunt Li was not willing to do anything!
When no one was paying attention, Aunt Li came to her daughter-in-law quietly. She said to her daughter-in-law, "Xiaohui, let your mother take care of you during the confinement period. Look at the food I cooked for you." I don’t like eating either, but your biological mother knows your taste and what you usually like to eat. I think it is the best choice to let your biological mother stay and take care of you during confinement.”
"What are you talking about? I just gave birth to a child, and you, the mother-in-law, don't plan to take care of me during confinement. So what on earth do you want to do? You are the child's grandmother"?
As soon as the daughter-in-law heard her mother-in-law say this, she immediately became anxious and spoke louder. She felt that her mother-in-law could say such words at this time, which was simply challenging her bottom line!
"I'll give you 20,000 yuan. If you don't want your mother to stay and take care of you, then you can discuss it with my son. You'd better hire a confinement nanny as soon as possible. I don't think I have the ability to take care of you." "!
Aunt Li saw her daughter-in-law looking like she was about to go crazy, so she immediately threw out 20,000 yuan. Before, her daughter-in-law only earned 4,000 yuan a month. This 20,000 yuan was worth her daughter-in-law's salary. Month's salary, she really doesn't have the qualifications to think it's less!
To be honest, Aunt Li can already use the word disgust to describe her daughter-in-law. The conditions of her own family are only average. The daughter-in-law is obviously not a princess, but she has the princess disease , and she is hypocritical. He is also difficult to serve. Aunt Li feels that even if you give your heart to her, they probably won't accept your favor!
Since things can be solved with money, why should I have to look at my daughter-in-law’s face every day? If my mother-in-law doesn't do a good job, then if your mother takes care of you, then there will be no problem, right?
When my daughter-in-law heard that her mother-in-law promised to give her 20,000 yuan, it was her turn to smile. She thought to herself that she would let my mother stay and take care of me during my confinement period. With 20,000 yuan, My mother has 10,000 yuan, and I still have 10,000 yuan left. It would be best if my mother-in-law is willing to pay, and I don’t want her to dangle it in front of me all day long!
Just like that, Aunt Li took out 20,000 yuan in cash, wrapped it in red paper, and delivered it to her daughter-in-law personally. In this way, everyone was really happy, her daughter-in-law was satisfied, and Aunt Li could be at ease.
What’s wrong with spending money on your daughter-in-law? In the future, all the money she and her wife will spend will belong to her son. Since this is the case, it is better to use the money wisely now!
Although Aunt Li gave her daughter-in-law 20,000 yuan so that she no longer had to serve her daughter-in-law during the confinement period, she still went to her son-in-law's house every three days and went to the vegetable market to buy some ribs for her daughter-in-law. Or a hen for the daughter-in-law to make soup. After all, the child her daughter-in-law gave birth to was also Aunt Li's biological grandson. How could she not feel distressed?
Gradually, Aunt Li realized that she was really wise in not choosing to serve her daughter-in-law in confinement this time. After she gave her daughter-in-law 20,000 yuan, when her daughter-in-law saw her mother-in-law again, she also had a look on her face. He smiled and screamed at her mother-in-law.
Moreover, the daughter-in-law is now taken care of by her own mother. They are mother and daughter, and they get along very harmoniously. Aunt Li’s son can go to work with peace of mind every day, and the house seems peaceful. Aunt Li feels that she The 20,000 yuan spent was really worth it!
As we all know, there is no blood relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Because of the relationship between the same man, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law finally become a family. Therefore, it is really difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along like mother and daughter. If you are not careful, you may offend one of the parties.
Therefore, in Aunt Li’s view, getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also requires some wisdom and skills. After all, mother-in-law is not the biological mother of the daughter-in-law. You don’t have to do everything yourself when it comes to your daughter-in-law’s affairs. If you can, do it, and if you can pay, do it. Pay money, as long as everyone is happy with the final outcome, then it's worth it.
Sometimes you clearly feel that you have taken good care of your son and daughter-in-law, but they just don’t buy it. What can you do? In the end, Aunt Li felt that she would definitely keep a certain distance from her son and daughter-in-law in the future. Only in this way can the two generations and the two families live in harmony!
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