A reader wrote:
I am 25 years old, my colleague is 36 years old, and he is a married man.
To be honest, I can feel his care in my daily work and life, so at first, I just regarded him as a big brother, but after getting along for a long time, when I faced him, he took the lead on the emotional level. When it goes bad, I also go bad.
Many times, I have reminded myself: Being the third party in someone else's marriage is a very shameless behavior, but I seem to be used to his kindness to me.
In the end, I failed to hold on to the final red line, which made us cross the threshold.
The key is that after that, I became more and more dependent on him, but he started to avoid me intentionally.
This feeling is extremely painful.
Faced with my entanglement, he said: If you can be a sensible mistress, our relationship can continue, otherwise, we can only break up.
At that moment, I felt that he was extremely shameless and I was extremely shameless. During the period of
, I also tried to withdraw from this relationship, but it was particularly painful for me to see his figure or hear his voice every day.
In the end, I knew that the best way to get out of this bad mood early was to quit my current job and take practical actions. After
, I applied to several companies, but none of them went well.
I regret it very much now: back then, when he provoked me, it would have been nice if I could have chosen to refuse rationally.
Muzi Li Emotional analysis:
Remember: sweet words may not necessarily mean true love, but many women fall into this trap.
You also said: You also feel that it is disgraceful to be a third party in someone else's marriage. The key is, why didn't you show the rationality you should have at that time?
also: A person's ability is inseparable from the platform a person is on. Sometimes, you can have smooth sailing in a certain company, but you may not be so optimistic after changing jobs.
At the same time, some people need to be reminded: Regarding office romance, if you know it is a mistake from the beginning, please don’t start. Once the relationship is gone, the process of forgetting is really painful.
Who can you blame for what you are enduring now: Isn’t it the result of your own lack of restraint?
There is no regret medicine in the world. What can I do if I regret now? Don't have to bite the bullet and continue your life in the future. What
can tell you is that I hope this will make you smarter: I hope that when you encounter love again in your future life, you should at least meet a single man.
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