After a divorce, where is the best place for a woman to belong? Your own house or your parents’ house?
As the saying goes, after a woman gets married, she is an outsider in her husband's family and a guest in her natal family. It is difficult to integrate into a new family after marriage. Therefore, once a woman gets divorced, she will face the situation of being homeless.
Of course, the natal parents will feel sorry for their daughter and are willing to accept her. But there are other brothers and sisters in the natal family. Will those brothers and sisters who are married and have families be willing to take them in?
01. Living in her parents’ home after divorce
In the fifth year of marriage with her ex-husband, due to the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the couple had an unprecedented quarrel. In the end, Luo Ting, who could no longer compromise, chose to divorce and returned to her parents' home with her children.
At the time of the divorce, her ex-husband was still thinking of using the child as a blackmail, forcing Luo Ting to choose between having a child or a house. Looking at the child's pitiful eyes, Luo Ting finally chose the child and chose to leave the house.
After the divorce, Luo Ting had no choice but to return to her parents' home with her children. Of course, her parents felt very sorry for Luo Ting and her children, and were worried that they would be bullied outside. But my sister-in-law's face never looked good.
Although the younger brother didn't say anything, he has always been strict with his wife and obeyed his sister-in-law in everything. Luo Ting felt so lost and disappointed when she saw that her younger brother, who had earned enough money to support himself through college, married a wife and forgot about his mother and sister.
Even if her sister-in-law said something unpleasant and looked down upon the mother and daughter, Luo Ting would not dare to move away easily. Because she was alone, taking care of the children and working, she was simply too busy to cope with the situation.
02. My sister-in-law receives 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses.
Her parents are also in a dilemma. They are always yelled at by her sister-in-law. Every time this happens, Luo Ting feels very uncomfortable. I think back then, my brother's wedding house was only able to be bought with Luo Ting's financial support. But in the house she bought with her own money, Luo Ting still felt like she was dependent on someone else.
In order not to embarrass her parents, Luo Ting went out early and came back late, trying to save more money to buy a house and move out. After all, it is not a long-term solution to live with your children in your parents' home for a long time after divorce.
But before she could save enough money, her sister-in-law couldn't help it anymore and asked Luo Ting to hand over 2,000 yuan in living expenses every month. She also said that the 2,000 yuan in living expenses was due to Luo Ting's poor divorce. Otherwise, according to the market price, the rent for this house would be more than 3,000.
’s parents wanted to stand up and dissuade her, but their sister-in-law looked at her and they didn’t dare to act rashly. Seeing her parents being cautious in front of her sister-in-law, Luo Ting felt very uncomfortable, but her brother turned a blind eye to all this.
Thinking of the fact that she had quarreled with her ex-husband and spent a lot of money on her brother's wedding house for her brother's wedding house, now she was just temporarily depressed, but she was driven away by her sister-in-law in this way.
03. She took out the transfer and gave 5,000 to her sister-in-law, begging to keep it.
Originally, Luo Ting planned to turn a blind eye and not embarrass her parents, but her sister-in-law pressed forward step by step, so she had to get angry and take out her old money. The bills for rescuing my brother and the transfer records for buying a house.
It's okay if she doesn't do the calculations carefully. When she did the calculations, Luo Ting discovered that she had spent no less than 300,000 for her brother over the years. Some of the money was borrowed by my younger brother, but he has never paid it back. Some were borrowed by parents and have never been returned.
Since her sister-in-law was asking for living expenses, Luo Ting took out the bill without caring and said, "It's okay to give 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses, but you have to pay back these expenses." Anyway, you are all married and have become husband and wife. It is only natural that the husband's debt should be repaid by his wife.
As soon as Luo Ting heard that Luo Ting wanted her husband to repay her husband's debt, her sister-in-law suddenly became anxious and jumped up: You spent money on your brother's education and buying a house, what does this have to do with me? It’s not that I owe you anything, anyway, whoever borrows the money will pay it back.
Luo Ting had known for a long time that her sister-in-law would do this. She said nonchalantly, in that case, let’s use this house to pay off the debt. Anyway, I don’t have to buy this house, decorate it, and then pay off the mortgage. Spend less money and put more effort into it.
When she heard that Luo Ting wanted to occupy the house, her sister-in-law immediately gave in and offered to compensate Luo Ting 5,000 yuan. As for the old debts from the past, she was wiped out and she warmly invited Luo Ting to stay.
Seeing her sister-in-law change her attitude so quickly, Luo Ting felt very uncomfortable. But now she hasn't saved enough for the down payment, and she can't bear to watch her child wander around with her, so she can only squeeze the child into her parents' home.
Today’s topic:
Do you agree that after a divorce, a woman can take her children back to live with her parents’ parents?
