# Riding the Wind and Waves Life# The previous article talked about the insight analysis technology in psychological counseling. This article will talk about the communication and expression technology in psychological counseling. As mentioned earlier, personnel physics feels mor

As mentioned above, personnel physics feels more suitable for a large-scale, comprehensive aspect, so I changed it to goals, implementation and principles.

goal

What is the goal of communication? Exchange opinions, seek consensus, eliminate barriers, and seek consensus. Many of the unhappiness, embarrassment, frustration, failure, and misfortune in life are mostly related to unsuccessful communication.

There is a famous Parkinson's Law called, the vacuum caused by the failure to communicate will soon be filled with rumors, misunderstandings, nonsense and poison.

This is the overall goal. For consultants, the goal is that one more sentence will be verbose and one sentence less will be vague. The consultation dialogue should focus on quality, not quantity.

implementation

There are many channels for communication and expression, such as text, voice, and body language. Different parts of the body often express different information, and different placements have different emotional implications.

What is high emotional intelligence? First of all, you have a high awareness of your own and the other person's emotions, and you can clearly and accurately perceive your own and the other person's emotions. Secondly, you can express the emotions of two people well.

People are eager to be seen. When a person feels that he is respected, supported, understood, and accepted, it will be easier to open his heart and accept you into his world.

Under normal circumstances, communication and expression are natural and come naturally, and two people are relaxed and happy. Some people also say that nine times out of ten, life will be unsatisfactory and you will encounter some obstacles.

There are some common barriers to communication and expression, such as physical barriers, which are the wrong body parts to express emotions; psychological barriers, poor communication, and being shy and silent. A language barrier means that it is difficult for two people who speak different dialects to speak together.

Cultural differences, status barriers, and barriers in numbers. Originally, one-to-one communication can be very good, but suddenly it becomes one-to-seven, or one-to-eight, and then the conversation may be divided into several parts.

When communicating, first understand from within yourself, see your own obstacles, and try to overcome them. The process of human cultivation and growth is a constant interaction with one's own heart.

Next is the communication and expression skills. How can you turn a seemingly beautiful scene into your own heart and turn it into your own skill?

The first thing is to master the basic knowledge, then to master the skills and methods, and finally to keep training. I talked about the basics before, and now I’m going to talk about some techniques.

The first is the technique of concentration, which means to listen to the other party with full concentration, carefully observe his subtle emotions and body changes, and respond positively.

Listening with concentration means staring at the other person and leaning forward slightly. Every word the other person says is entering your ears. Nod and smile from time to time to show that you recognize what the other person is saying.

Pay attention to the other person and carefully observe his emotions, facial expressions, body postures, including changes in voice, intonation and speed. How does it feel to feel the other person's words carefully and convey them to your heart?

You can also try the substitution method. Put yourself into the perspective of the other person. If I were him, under what circumstances would I say this, and how would I feel when I said this?

Listening skills, listen carefully to what the other party is saying, restrain yourself from interjecting, and do not judge the other party's narrative based on your personal values, unless it involves legal issues.

In this technique, the first thing to do is not to interrupt, and to control your desire to interrupt. Secondly, when listening to the other party's speech, do not use your own values ​​to judge.

Because once you have a judgment, you will have emotions, especially negative emotions, and you will not want to talk to him. It will interrupt communication. In communication, be tolerant and open.

Silence technique gives visitors the opportunity to be alone emotionally or to reflect cognitively. It has two functions, one is the suggestion function, and the other is the empathy function.

There are two kinds of silence at the same time, one is confrontational silence and the other is reflective silence. Timely silence can make people feel the other person's understanding.

Timely pauses and silence can make the other person feel that they are thinking and listening carefully to what the other person is saying. Used well, it can be a very high-quality response.

The catharsis technique allows the other person to vent out their long-held emotions and worries. Negative emotions and worries are like cotton nested in the heart, which will continue to expand; at the same time, they will be blocked in the heart, making it impossible for your heart to communicate happily with the world and lose connection with others.

If you have the opportunity, you can use some methods and exercises to completely release your inner emotions and worries. This is very helpful for a person's emotional stability and peace of mind.

discusses techniques to help the other person think positively about the sources of frustration and confusion they face. It is required that during the conversation, ask more questions and comment less, inspire more and preach less, encourage the other party to speak more, talk less about personal opinions, ask more open-ended questions and less closed-ended questions.

is based on discussion and aims to inspire. Help visitors think about the problems they encounter from different perspectives, inspire them to make generalizations, and strengthen their ability to think independently.

Confrontation skills are to raise objections and promote the improvement of the other party. Raise objections to a certain way of thinking to push the other party to re-examine the life frustrations and psychological confusions they face, and to overcome one-sidedness and subjectivity in cognition.

This method is not to question and belittle the other party, but to enlighten and motivate the other party. What we pursue is to ask without judging, know without suppressing, and promote the other party's self-examination and acceptance.

Clarification techniques are designed to help clients clarify the internal and external reasons for a specific emotional thinking behavior, trying to see the blindness and ambiguity in motivations, and increase their understanding of themselves.

The clarification technique is probably a few words to dispel the clouds and see the heart. Increase one's understanding of self. I think this is a very meaningful and valuable thing.

That’s it for the time relationship. Some of the opinions come from "Basic Psychological Counseling Techniques". Thank you for your appreciation. Welcome to leave a message for consultation.