When a girl falls in love, if she is rushing to get married, it is best to find an honest man to marry, and her life after marriage will be more solid. This is what many old people often advise young people. Maybe this kind of words is more suitable for the 1960s and 1970s. I thi

When a girl falls in love, if she is rushing to get married, it is best to find an honest man to marry, and her life after marriage will be more solid. This is what many old people often advise young people. Maybe this kind of words is more suitable for the 1960s and 1970s. I think it is not suitable for such a fiercely competitive contemporary society.

My cousin graduated from college and worked in a state-owned enterprise. She met her current brother-in-law through someone else's introduction. She works in the same factory as her, not in the same department. My brother-in-law is a very honest person, and I could see it the first time he went to my uncle’s house. He does not speak easily . Whenever he speaks, he will look at his cousin out of the corner of his eye. This is a sign of lack of confidence and he is afraid that he will say something wrong.

My cousin once expressed her worries: This boyfriend is too honest and will not have much development in the future. But the eldest aunt is very satisfied with this son-in-law. She said that if a woman marries an honest man, she will be the master of the family and will not suffer any disadvantages.

My cousin got married like this, and only after the marriage did she realize that most honest men have a powerful mother behind them. His husband has to ask his mother for instructions on what to wear every day. When his mother asks him to beat the dog, he would never dare to scold the chicken. He is just a " mama boy ". His mother-in-law has to take care of everything in their small family. For one thing, she also had a lot of conflicts with her mother-in-law because of this.

It is said that "men are in charge of the outside world and women are in charge of the inside". This cousin-in-law is and cannot make decisions inside or outside.. My cousin had outstanding work ability and was promoted to deputy director. However, my brother-in-law was about to be transferred to a remote branch. There was only one place for external transfer in my brother-in-law's department, so the leader decided it was him without even thinking about it, probably because he usually talks best.

The cousin said: "You usually work conscientiously and diligently, why do you have to do something so bad? You go find leadership theory theory." But my brother-in-law said: "Forget it, I am a leader, my arm is twisted. But thighs, it’s the same wherever works, just stay away from home, that’s fine. "

married an honest man and made me angry every day. My cousin really regretted listening to her mother.

It’s not just about marrying a daughter. Parents usually educate their children to be honest, do things down-to-earth, marry an honest person, and be an honest person. The reason why parents often educate their children in this way is because they are honest in their hearts = Kindness is actually two different concepts. You can raise your children to be kind, but you must not raise your children to be too honest. Boys and girls are the same.

People who are too honest are easily bullied because most of them do not have strong principles.

I guess everyone agrees that honest people are easily bullied. Honest people don't know how to refuse. They would rather live an uncomfortable life than compromise.

There is a saying in our hometown, " always pick the weak ones when eating persimmons." Honest people are generally not principled, and are prone to compromise and retreat, so bad things can easily come to you.

Isn’t there a saying that is quite popular now? Please bring a bit of edge to your kindness. We can be kind, but we must also have principles in doing things.

Faced with provocation from others, honest people don’t know how to respond?

Some children are often bullied by others. There are many ways for them to save themselves when faced with bullying, such as telling their parents or asking for help from teachers. However, most of them just suffer in silence, giving bad people an opportunity to take advantage of them and do bad things. sense of accomplishment. Therefore, when bad children bully others, most of them will choose more honest children to attack.

By raising an honest child, parents may feel a sense of accomplishment when their child is young, "Look, my children are so obedient."But when children grow up and cannot cope with life's troubles independently, they will have a very difficult time. Therefore, I advise everyone to not to raise their children too honestly.

Parents should learn to let go and let their children learn to solve the difficulties in life on their own.

Strong and brave children are not born with such qualities, but in life, they create a good educational environment for their parents. For example, let the children practice making their own decisions in their own affairs, and cultivate the children to become independent. people. Children's abilities in all aspects require experience to grow, such as food, drink, housing, transportation, study, and making friends. Parents gradually let go of their hands to protect their children. Don't make their children's living circle too comfortable or too safe. We want our children to experience success and Failure to gain experience in solving problems.

Parents should allow their children to say "no" and let their children become a person with a bottom line.

Most of the parents of children who are too honest have relatively strong parents. The children have no say at home and the chance of refuting their parents is almost zero. If children develop a habit of accepting other people's opinions, they will not dare to refute them.

We should allow children to say "no" to their parents, so that children can learn to refuse others. When he becomes a bottom-line and principled person who can bravely refuse people and things he doesn't like, he will be less hurt by the outside world. .

When children are young, parents are their children's protectors. When children grow up, they must protect themselves. When parents grow old, children must also take care of their parents. Let the children become a slightly sharper person, and their life will be better. Wonderful.