Due to the nature of his work, Li Lifeng often codes until midnight, which Li Lifeng's wife Wang Lina (pseudonym) is used to.
Whenever his mother-in-law Qiao Ping (pseudonym) sees him, she would tell Li Lifeng with concern: "Don't do it too late, your body won't be able to bear it."
But Li Lifeng felt that his mother-in-law didn't care about him at all. Instead, he complained to his wife: "Your mother What's the point of saying this? Shouldn't I still write code? "
Wang Lina had just given birth to her second child. She was exhausted from the torture of two children every day, so she didn't pay much attention to her husband's emotions. .
Unexpectedly, when his youngest daughter was six months old, Li Lifeng suddenly left without saying goodbye. He not only drove away the car, but also took away all the gold jewelry the couple bought when they got married.
Wang Lina contacted Li Lifeng many times, but Li Lifeng refused to communicate. It was not until half a year later that Li Lifeng filed for divorce. He proposed to return the 200,000 down payment to Wang Lina, and the house would be his, and the two children would be raised separately.
Wang Lina was confused and realized that Li Lifeng really wanted to divorce, but Wang Lina loved Li Lifeng deeply, and the child was still young, so she wanted to give her child a complete home, so she found a mediator, hoping to mediate With the help of the members, the broken home was restored.
The husband accused the woman of being "abused"
The mediator then helped Li Lifeng and Wang Lina mediate. When asked by the mediator, Li Lifeng bluntly stated that he lived with Wang Lina and her parents and lived an inhuman life.
It turns out that Li Lifeng and Wang Lina are both from Jiangxi. Their families are hundreds of kilometers apart. When they got married, Wang Lina said to Li Lifeng: "Let's buy a house here. My parents are young. When the time comes, You can help us take care of our children."
Li Lifeng, who was deeply in love with Wang Lina, agreed to Wang Lina's proposal without hesitation. Then the two got married and bought a house with the help of Wang Lina's parents.
After the house was renovated, Li Lifeng and Wang Lina moved in. Later, Wang Lina gave birth to her eldest daughter Xiaonuan (pseudonym). In order to facilitate the care of the child, Wang Lina's parents moved in with them.
Li Lifeng said that at the beginning, his father-in-law and mother-in-law were quite polite to him, but later he slowly discovered that he was just a money-making tool. When he needed money, he was his son-in-law. At other times, he was worse than a dog.
Wang Lina was confused by Li Lifeng's words. She asked puzzledly: "Why do you feel this way?" The mediator on the side said in surprise: "Can you give some examples?"
Li Lifeng said, I don't like it. The smell of cigarette smoke. At first, my father-in-law went outside to smoke in the corridor, and then he just smoked at home. The ash pellets were everywhere, which made me uncomfortable just looking at it.
Li Lifeng also said that when my wife was pregnant last year, I took her to relax. She insisted on taking her mother and her aunt, and I agreed. I carried all the luggage when we went, and when we took the subway, , I stood opposite her mother, and finally waited until there was an empty seat. I just wanted to go over and sit down to rest, but her mother pushed me away and asked her aunt to sit over.
Before Li Lifeng finished speaking, the mediator said: "The girl should have been allowed to sit first, especially since she is your elder."
Li Lifeng said angrily: "Then what do I mean to her mother? That's right. A worker? "Does she treat me like a human being?"
Wang Lina said: "These are all trivial matters. My mother said she didn't let me sit down until she saw you."
The mediator also said: "These are all small things." Are trivial matters the reason why you ran away from home while your wife was breastfeeding?"
Li Lifeng said: "I couldn't survive a day at their house. I told my mother about my situation and she asked me to go home, so I Just leave."
The mediator said: "Is it good to go home?"
Li Lifeng said: "It will be good to go home. My mother will prepare delicious food for me when I am tired. I peeled the fruit and put it in front of me, and she never interrupted my work."
Unexpected conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
The mediator said: "You have been away for six months, have you thought about what to do with your wife and children? "
Li Lifeng was silent and didn't speak. Wang Lina on the side choked and said: "When he left, our little daughter was only more than six months old. After he left, he stopped giving us living expenses. I really had no choice but to look for a job everywhere. My mother helped with it. "
Wang Lina also said that after he left, I called my mother-in-law. I said that I had never done anything to feel sorry for him in so many years, and I had no conflicts with my mother-in-law. Why did I do this to me and my children?
Wang Lina's words Before he finished speaking, Li Lifeng said: "My mother has always had a problem with you. The first time you went to my house, you found fault with my mother. "
Wang Lina was stunned by Li Lifeng's words. She smiled bitterly and said to the mediator: "The first time I went to his house, his mother made a winter bamboo shoots boiled sausage. They are all made with sausage and fried winter bamboo shoots, which is more delicious this way. "
Wang Lina repeatedly emphasized that she did not mean to find fault with her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law was very unhappy at the time.
Li Lifeng said: "The first time you came to my house, you thought the food my mother cooked was not delicious, and you also said how this dish should be. Of course my mother would not be happy if I did. "
According to Li Lifeng, his mother was furious at that time and directly told Wang Lina that your mother's cooking was delicious and asked your mother to cook it.
The mediator asked Li Lifeng: "Don't you think your mother's reaction at that time was a bit excessive? "
Li Lifeng bluntly said that he did not think it was excessive. On the contrary, he felt that Wang Lina had not bought anything for his parents in so many years and rarely went back to see them. He felt that it was not worth what he had paid.
Li Lifeng also said that he After knowing that he was not doing well, his mother asked him to divorce. Now that his wife wanted him to go back, he was in a dilemma.
In order to understand Li Lifeng's mother's thoughts, the mediator answered her phone on the spot.
Li Lifeng's mother said. , I have never been optimistic about this daughter-in-law. All the money in the family is earned by my son. As a result, I asked my son to buy an air conditioner for me, and she divorced my son.
Li Lifeng’s mother also said: “I. I have two sons, and I gave everything for them to go to college. Now my wife has cerebral infarction, and she doesn’t even ask. I really don’t think it should be, and it’s okay not to have such a daughter-in-law. "
Obviously, Li Lifeng's mother supports Li Lifeng's divorce.
Her husband keeps 190,000 yuan in his possession.
When she mentioned money, Wang Lina's tears flowed down as if they were broken. Then she said something unexpected.
Wang Lina said that one morning, when she got up, she found that her husband's computer was not turned off, so she went to check it, but she saw the chat history between her husband and his brother. In the chat record, Li Lifeng asked his brother not to tell. Wang Lina's parents gave him 110,000 yuan, plus 80,000 yuan of private money that he had saved.
This unexpected discovery made Wang Lina tremble with anger. She immediately went to Li Lifeng to ask what happened, and Li Lifeng realized that he had kept it secret. When the mediator asked Li Lifeng whether what his wife said was true, he didn't give any explanation. It's because he feels that he has given too much, and if there is no way out, he will collapse sooner or later.
Li Lifeng also said, I really can't accept living with them. When my mother-in-law takes care of the children, the children take care of them. The cakes were all over the bed, and she didn't clean them up. I really felt disgusted that I would support such a person until his death.
My husband is easily influenced by others.
Li Lifeng's words aroused strong dissatisfaction from the mediator. The mediator first accused Li Lifeng. He shouldn't have run away from home and filed for divorce while his wife was breastfeeding.
The mediator then pointed out that Li Lifeng was too well protected by his mother, which caused him to not only have a glassy heart but also have "prince disease". If he wanted to solve the problem, he had to start with himself. find the reason.
At the same time, the mediator also asked Wang Lina to not only care more about her husband, but also her parents-in-law, and go back to see her two elders more often if she has time.
Perhaps the mediator's words touched Li Lifeng. He stood up, walked to his wife, hugged her and said, "I was wrong. I shouldn't have left you and the child. We will live a good life in the future."
Li Lifeng's actions made Wang Lina was very moved, and she responded: "Okay, let's live a good life."
But the hug from mediator Li Lifeng gave the mediator new worries: "You are a person who is easily influenced by others. In the end, you are a person who is easily influenced by others." Do you dislike your daughter-in-law or does your mother dislike your daughter-in-law more?"
Li Lifeng said frankly: "It's my mother who doesn't like her."
The mediator said: "Marriage is yours, and your life is yours. You must be clear about what you want, and you cannot tell your mother everything. Adults must learn to report good things but not bad things, so that your mother will think that your marriage is happy, otherwise she will interfere with you. "
The mediator's words aroused Li Lifeng's thinking. He said that he would definitely pay attention to it in the future and would do a good job in bonding between his mother and his wife.
Wang Lina said that she would personally apologize to her parents-in-law and would visit them often in the future.
Conclusion:
As the saying goes, "If you have money, don't marry a remarried woman, and if you don't have money, don't be a door-to-door son-in-law." It means that a person who has money cannot marry a married woman, and a person who has no money cannot become a door-to-door son-in-law.
In real life, those who choose to be a door-to-door son-in-law are either because of poverty or because of true love. Li Lifeng in the story frankly admitted that he was willing to become a door-to-door son-in-law at Wang Lina's house because of love.
But this love has been stained beyond recognition in the fireworks of life. As a man, he should earn money to support his family, not to mention when his wife is pregnant and giving birth to children, he should do his best to support the family and provide for his wife and children. Caring.
But Li Lifeng walked away and filed for divorce while his wife was breastfeeding. Obviously, his actions were not only unreasonable but also illegal.
Li Lifeng plausibly accused himself of being "abused" by his wife and her parents, but the things he said were trivial and unconvincing.
And Li Lifeng's concealment of his wife's secret treasury was the trigger that triggered the conflict between the couple, but he did not seem to realize that this was a matter of principle.
Wang Lina thought that she and her mother-in-law had never had any intersection, so there was no conflict at all. However, Li Lifeng, as a middleman, passed on every bit of life to her mother, which caused the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to become deeper and deeper. .
In fact, regardless of whether he is a son-in-law or not, a man has multiple roles: son, husband, son-in-law, etc. If he wants family harmony, a man must not only be a bridge of communication to maintain the relationship between his wife and his mother, You also need to have a strong mentality and enough tolerance to get along with your father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Only in this way can the family be happy and happy for a long time.
