As the saying goes: "Men should get married when they are older, and girls should marry when they are older." But one of my daughters is 36 years old and doesn't even have a boyfriend. No matter how much I try to persuade her, it's no use. I have no choice but to die in the end. force.
Later, my daughter got married, and the stone in my heart fell. She was no longer the focus of the villagers’ after-dinner chats. But not long after the comfortable life passed, I lived with regret every day. For the sake of face, I forced my older daughter to get married and have children. The worst decision I've ever made in my life. Why did Aunt Chen say that? Let's take a look below to see what happened?
Crying person: Aunt Chen/70 years old
My wife and I are out-and-out farmers with two daughters. We don’t have pensions like others to provide for our retirement, and we don’t have large savings to support ourselves. We can only provide for our retirement. Rely on two daughters.
have two daughters, but they have different personalities. The younger daughter is outgoing and loves to play since she was a child. After graduating from high school, she went out to work and got married and had children as soon as the legal age for marriage came. Although she did not live a wealthy life, But there is also a moderately prosperous standard of living.
My eldest daughter is introverted and has been well-behaved and sensible since she was a child. When we were busy with farm work, she would help out at home and do whatever we could, such as washing, cooking, cleaning, and going to the fields to help with farm work. Her academic performance ranked first and second in the class. , until we graduated from college and later worked, we didn’t have to worry about it.
After my eldest daughter graduated, she stayed in the city where she went to college. As soon as she graduated from college, many matchmakers began to come to introduce her to her. After graduation, she was asked to get married and have children. College was not in vain. She should go out and have a career first. , my wife and I will have to rely on her for our future pensions. It was too late to get married at 30, but I rejected them one by one.
My eldest daughter also lived up to my wife’s and my expectations. She was very competitive. After graduation, she entered a good company. When she was 29 years old, she said to her: “She is already the youngest director in their company.” My wife and I Very happy.
People in our small rural area get married relatively early, so my eldest daughter has not yet gotten married at the age of 28. I often hear people pointing fingers at my wife and me, saying that my wife and I are selfish, and we still don’t let my daughter get married at this age. Why are you marrying me? When you say that no one wants my daughter or there is something wrong with her, I just smile and don't care. I feel that they are just taking carrots and not worrying, and they are just jealous that I have such a good daughter.
When my eldest daughter turned 30, I had a very serious talk with her. Now that she has achieved some success in her career, it is time to put marriage and childbirth on the agenda. If it is too late, she will become an advanced maternal age, which will not be good for her health. Okay, the eldest daughter said okay, she knows, she will take care of it, and told me not to worry. The eldest daughter has always been the pride of my husband and me. Her sensible nature also makes me feel confident that she must have her own plan for getting married. However, what I didn't expect was that my eldest daughter has achieved some success in her career. However, after she was born in her 30s, she was still focused on her career. She didn't even have a boyfriend, and her marriage and childbirth were not in sight. This became a concern for me.
I look at my 36-year-old daughter, who is giving us more and more pocket money, but as long as my wife and I don’t ask her about getting married and having children, she doesn’t mention a word about it, and she doesn’t wait for the news of her getting married and having children. , in desperation, I had to leave my wife and move to the city where my daughter works to live with her.
When I lived with my eldest daughter, I quickly married myself for her. No matter how much I tried to persuade or scold me, it was of no use. No matter how much I cried or made trouble, it was useless. If this continues, don’t say that I will support us in our old age. What if she I have never gotten married. In the future, my wife and I are no longer together. What should I do if she gets sick? What should I do when she gets old? In order for her to get married and have children as soon as possible and have a family, I really have no choice but to force her to die.
This trick is really effective. In less than 3 months, my eldest daughter brought a man home and told me that she wanted to marry Xiao Hong. Xiao Hong is 5 years younger than my daughter, although her job and salary are not as good as mine. Daughter, but she looks clean, tall, and polite, which is pretty good.
The parents of both parties sat together to discuss their child's marriage. It was obvious that Xiaohong's mother was a bit dissatisfied with my daughter's age and her peasant parents like us, but the marriage was settled smoothly.
My wife and I happily prepared the dowry for our eldest daughter. Now that our eldest daughter is married and has settled in the city, I feel relieved.
My eldest daughter gave birth to a granddaughter more than a year after we got married. My in-laws were originally dissatisfied with my daughter, but now my in-laws, who favor sons over daughters, were even more dissatisfied. It turned out that my daughter was going to a confinement center for confinement, but she was strongly opposed by her in-laws, saying that she could take good care of my daughter and there was no need to spend that money. When they knew that my daughter was giving birth to a girl, the baby during the confinement period would basically be mine. My daughter takes care of herself. Even three meals a day, she either orders takeout or cooks them in the kitchen, while my son-in-law doesn’t care.
My eldest daughter finished her maternity leave and planned to return to work. She wanted her mother-in-law to help take care of the baby, but she was rejected. She also asked for a nanny and was rejected. I wanted to help, but my mother-in-law sent me away because she had no place to live.
Later, the eldest daughter wanted to extend her vacation to the work unit, but was rejected by the work unit. The eldest daughter had no way to return to the family. One time, my daughter came back to me with her child and said, "Mom, I want a divorce. Please help me take care of the child. Okay." "?" Seeing that the child is so young and the daughter has just been married, the divorce turned into a second marriage. Plus the daughter is so old and has a child. Who else wants her?
When I thought of this, I immediately objected. If you want a divorce, you don't want me to live. I comforted you by saying that you have always been sensible, you are also a leader in the company, and a group of people can handle it. You should just follow her more, and your son-in-law will earn more. There are quite a few. As long as you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law and the family gets along harmoniously, there will be no problems in your life if you don’t work. The child is still so young and she needs a father. For a woman, children and family are more important than anything else. important.
After that, our eldest daughter called us less and less, came back to see us less often, talked less, smiled less, and became much thinner. Although she felt distressed, at least she still had a family behind her, and she returned to the family. The eldest daughter must be sensible and handle the relationship between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well.
Until one day, we received a call from our son-in-law and heard that our daughter had jumped from the bridge. My wife could still hear that a kind person rescued her in time, but she fainted.
I later learned that my eldest daughter had suffered from postpartum depression symptoms since she gave birth to her granddaughter. In addition, the relationship with her mother-in-law not only did not ease, but actually got worse and worse, and my son-in-law coaxed her from the beginning to later. She often comes home very late, or even doesn't come home at all. In addition, my wife and I always think that we are doing it for your own good, which drives her to a dead end.
