Introduction
I believe that every old person will have such a worry in their old age, and this worry is where to put their savings when they are old. Although it is most reassuring to keep the money by yourself, it is very difficult for people to get old. It is easy to forget things, and it is also easy to be deceived, so in order to avoid being defrauded of the money, or forgetting the bank card password, and some elderly people have a lot of pension money, it is safe to keep a little by yourself.
In order to give yourself peace of mind, where is the most reliable place to put your money? Let’s listen to the personal experience of this 70-year-old man.
Uncle Xiao/79 years old
I am 79 years old this year. My last name is Xiao. When I was young, I was a very hardworking person, so I have saved a lot of pension money now. I calculated that I have 800,000 in my card now. Pension money.
With this money, I don’t have to worry about pension issues at all, and I don’t have to worry about not having money for medical treatment when I get sick, so I am really happy to have pension money. Not only do I have 20 cents, I also have 7,000 yuan a month to retire. Kim, so my life is good.
But since I entered my old age, I have had a problem, that is, I don’t know where to put my money.
I have three sons. I have not treated these three sons fairly, especially after the birth of my two younger sons. My attitude towards my sons has changed a lot, and I have given all my love to my two younger sons. Son and second son, the eldest son never got it.
Because my eldest son has a very introverted personality, doesn’t like to talk or can’t talk, and he’s not very good at reading. He can’t get first place in every exam. Although he’s already in the top ten, I’m still not satisfied because I’ve always been Everyone wants an excellent son, so that I can have face when I go out, but my eldest son always fails to achieve the results I want, so I am very harsh on him and will not share any good things with him. Everything was left to the second son and the youngest son.
In order to train my second son and youngest son, I spent a lot of time and money. Not only did I spend money to enroll them in cram schools, I also often hired some tutors to educate them.
Later, with my continuous efforts, my second son and youngest son also got good grades, and they were also good at talking. Every time they wanted something, they would say a lot of nice things. I was very happy after hearing this. So I love my second son and my youngest son very much, and I like them very much.
My wife also often tells me not to be too partial. As a parent, you must keep a balanced bowl of water, otherwise it will break your eldest son’s heart. Although my wife is right, I can’t listen to it at all. , I can't do anything good to my eldest son.
In my eyes, my eldest son is a useless person, so when I am angry, I will vent it on him, and whether he has done something wrong or not, I will beat and scold him, but even if In this way, the eldest son did not hold grudge against me too much, because his son is very kind-hearted and does not hold grudges or complain about anything.
Seeing that my eldest son had no reaction, I became even more angry and treated him worse and worse.
Later, when they grew up, I did not contribute money to buy a house for my eldest son, because I felt that my eldest son was not worthy, so he would not have anything that his two younger brothers had at that time.
But even so, my eldest son still did not complain. Instead, he would buy me gifts every holiday. Although the gifts he bought were not expensive, he would not be absent from every holiday, so he was very sensible and filial, but At that time, I didn’t know how to cherish at all. Instead, I disliked the things my eldest son gave me. He would throw them away in front of him. Although my eldest son was very sad, he didn’t say anything because he felt that he had been filial. I did it, so he has a clear conscience.
Later, as time passed, all three of my sons got married and started businesses. After they got married, I finally felt relieved, because I no longer had to pay for them or worry about their affairs.
When my youngest son and my second son got married, I gave each of them 250,000 yuan because I thought their marriage was the biggest event in their lives, so I had to make it grand for them. In order to prevent them from being stressed, I You have to personally pay for them.
But when my eldest son got married, I didn't pay a dime. Anyway, I told him: "Don't blame me for not paying for your marriage. I just did this to let you learn to be independent, so that you won't have to pay for your marriage in the future." There will be some behavior of gnawing at the elderly, so I hope you can understand me."
At that time, the eldest son said: "It's okay, I have money of my own, you can keep your money, and you can take care of yourself in the future. I don't need your money. "
After having my eldest son, I felt very happy. I instantly felt that my eldest son was quite sensible, but I don't know why. I just didn't like him. No matter how well he did, I would never be grateful to him. , will only feel that this is what he should do.
Later, in a blink of an eye, I also entered my old age. Since entering my old age, I have never thought about relying on my children to support me in old age, because I am the most unreliable child, and I still have a wife at that time, so I simply I don’t need anyone to support me in my old age. I have money and a wife. I can rely on these two to support me in my old age.
But who would have thought that my wife got sick and passed away later. After my wife passed away, I became an old man living alone. Although I said that I was rich and it was okay to live alone, but after living for a long time, I began to have some minor problems with my body. My memory is getting worse and worse. It is no longer as good as before. I often forget my mobile phone password and bank card password.
I am also often deceived by others, because many people like to sell nutritional products to the elderly door-to-door, and those nutritional products are all three-no products, but when they sell them, I listen with interest and believe them. What they said was false only after I bought it. Sometimes I feel stupid, but I can’t help it when I’m old, so I’m helpless.
But after being cheated several times, I felt that it was very unsafe for me to live alone because I was always being cheated out of money by others. If I continued like this, sooner or later, I would be defrauded of all my money, so I decided to put my All these deposits will be handed over to my second son and youngest son, so that I don’t have to worry about being deceived by others.
Originally I thought those two sons were very reliable, and they would take good care of it for me after I gave them money. But I didn’t expect that they spent 200,000 yuan in just one month. I was very angry when I found out, and then I I scolded them directly, saying that they didn't keep their word. They clearly promised to keep it for me, but ended up spending it.
After my two sons were scolded by me, they directly retorted: "Don't you love us all the time? You will support us in whatever we do. Why do you lose your temper and scold us when we spend a little money this time? Your money will belong to us from now on." , so you shouldn't blame me, you should understand us. Besides, it's useless if you don't keep it, so you might as well give it to us, so that we can reduce some pressure. By the way, you can leave in the future. If you can't move, go to Big Brother. Don't come to us. We don't have any obligations. Big Brother is the boss, so he has the responsibility."
When my two sons said this, I also saw their true colors. I thought I was. I was so kind to them, and they would repay me, but not only did they not repay me, they even took advantage of my pension money.
Later, in order to prevent them from spending all my money, I took my bank card back and went to my eldest son’s house.
When I first went to my eldest son’s house, I was quite worried that he would dislike me. But not only did he not dislike me, he also took the initiative to support me in my old age. At that moment, I felt very guilty for him. I had obviously treated him badly before. It turned out that he was the most reliable in his later years, so I felt very sorry for him at that time.
I also apologized to him at that time, but my eldest son said there was no need to apologize because he had never held a grudge against me. At that moment, I was particularly touched and understood that my eldest son would still be my support in my later years.
Seeing how filial my eldest son was, I directly took out my remaining 800,000 yuan deposit and gave it to my eldest son for safekeeping.
After my eldest son got the money, he didn’t say, “Don’t swear, you won’t touch my money. In order to prove that he is a trustworthy person, he even signed an agreement with me. I was deeply moved by my eldest son’s behavior.” I, from then on, also swore that when I reach a hundred years, all the money and house will belong to him, because he is the only one who deserves to have all this, and these things are equivalent to subsidizing the guilt I feel towards him.
Conclusion
Often the unpopular child is the most filial, so the elderly should not be too ruthless or overly partial, otherwise they will regret it one day.
