My friend Xiaoyuan is still single at the age of 35. She is a very hard-working person and is a high school English teacher. Her hard work and responsibility have made her loved by parents in teaching. Not only that, she is also actively preparing for part-time postgraduate exami

In 2020, national data showed that there were as many as 240 million single adults in my country.

Why are there more and more single people? Is it because they don't want to get married? Still can't find a suitable partner?

In fact, the difference between singles is "active single " and " passive single". People who are actively single are mostly motivated and want to give themselves a better life through personal efforts; while people who are passively single cannot find a partner that matches their own conditions for a long time.

So, let’s talk about active singlehood first.

Nowadays, with the progress of society, women are becoming more and more independent, and their living abilities are getting stronger and stronger. In terms of real life considerations, the enjoyment of life is much higher than the life after being single.

My friend Xiaoyuan is still single at the age of 35. She is a very hard-working person and is a high school English teacher. Her hard work and responsibility have made her loved by parents in teaching. Not only that, she is also actively preparing for the part-time exam. Postgraduate . She will spend her after-school time reading, enrolling in calligraphy classes, learning soft-pen calligraphy, and constantly improving her thinking pattern. Regarding love, Xiaoyuan said: " Let fate take its course, but before we meet, I have to improve myself and become better!"

Being single allows women to have more time to focus on their own development and move towards their dreams. You want to move forward in life and experience the dual happiness of making money and spiritual enrichment. Regarding this, being single is justice, and it is better to improve yourself than to waste personal time and maintain a relationship that is not suitable for you.

Also with the progress of society, men's thinking has changed from "finding someone to live with" to "affording a future for their partner." In the past, you could find your partner with just a mouth, a matchmaker, and a gift. Nowadays, the pressure to secure future employment and buy a house has always surrounded life, so many men also choose to take the initiative to be single.

classmate Xiao Wang is still single at the age of 40 because he will be thirty years old after completing his PhD. The instability of the job required frequent business trips. My girlfriend couldn't bear the days of being together less and being apart more often, and eventually they broke up. Later, he planned to wait for his work adjustment and be able to provide the other person with a stable life before falling in love. Finally, at the age of 42, everything went as he imagined, he fell in love, and now he lives happily with his wife.

It can be seen from this that men's sense of responsibility is becoming stronger and stronger nowadays, and they understand that " the economic foundation determines the superstructure ", which provides a solid material foundation for a life of "raising the elderly at the top and raising the children at the bottom". For this, being single is justice, and it is better to be responsible for the future than to plan the future at will.

Next, let’s talk about passive singles.

Many men say: "I can't marry a wife because today's women either have too high standards for choosing a spouse, or the bride price is ridiculously high. Women's desires are too high and cannot be satisfied at all."

But there is no shortage of outstanding people in society. Men, their requirements for choosing a mate are no less than women's requirements for men. Men who say these words should think carefully, why can't they meet this requirement?

Therefore, the implicit meaning of the sentence "We are not suitable" is: unable to match our own conditions.

There is a 42-year-old female doctor in Shanghai who has eleven criteria for choosing a spouse: the husband’s family all have Shanghai registered residence, the husband’s parents’ pension is not less than 10,000, the husband’s annual salary after tax is not less than one million, and there are three houses in Shanghai’s inner ring with more than 200 Flat house etc. These eleven standards have undoubtedly scared off many men, and they have said: "This is not looking for a partner, this is clearly here to make a wish, and even the prince of Dubai can't satisfy it!"

But the female doctor proposed that she could meet the eleven standards herself. Therefore, the female doctor had to be passively single, but she also enjoyed being single.

Looking at men, there are hundreds of criteria for men to choose a mate that have been circulated on the Internet, ranging from the woman’s appearance, education, job, salary, whether she can share the pressure of raising a family, the situation of the RV, down to family, relatives, and whether she can be a man’s future career Paving the way... It turned out that the man who proposed hundreds of criteria for choosing a mate did not meet half of the conditions for choosing a mate, but there were still many supporters in the comments.

The term "well-matched" has been circulated to this day, but when used on women, it turns into a woman's lion's mouth.

Whether you are actively single or passively single, the single group is getting bigger and bigger, and the marriage rate is gradually decreasing.

After the epidemic, the divorce rate gradually increased. Due to the severity of the epidemic in Shanghai, three meals a day has become a luxury. The pregnant wife was reluctant to eat the remaining twenty dumplings, but her husband ate them all alone. He said, "I thought you didn't eat them," which chilled his wife's heart. It also resonated with many wives.

Being single means falling in love. How many people are hastily leaving the single because they are being urged to get married due to their age. Will such a marriage be happy? And many standards are just to be responsible for one's own feelings, not to be casual or casual, only to love yourself can you love others.

In this fast-paced era, we should not be in a hurry, slowly find the right person, slowly have a hard love, spend more time for the purpose of getting married, slowly understand the other person's character, and then slowly enter the relationship. The palace of marriage.

Slowly is a long time, long time is also brilliant, the years are long, the carriages and horses are slow, and I only love one person in my life.