I have been disappointed enough, and it’s time to leave.
In fact, there will indeed be a lot of disappointments in life and marriage, but most of the time we endure it for the sake of our family or children, until the disappointments become more and more serious, and when we can’t bear it anymore, our little emotions will explode. Life is not easy for anyone.
The wife returned to her parents' home with her daughter, never thinking of never returning.
Wang Sheng (pseudonym), 46, has been with his wife for 22 years. Now his eldest son is in his 20s and his youngest daughter is 9 years old.
Speaking of which, Wang Sheng is an electrician. He usually works in other places and earns about 9,000 yuan in salary every month. After the salary is paid, he will transfer 6,000 to 7,000 yuan back to his wife.
After all these years, Wang Sheng does not have his own house. The couple rents two rooms in Yongtai Village, Fuzhou.
In July last year, Wang Sheng returned home from working out of town. However, his wife was very angry and threw all his things out.
The reason why Wang Sheng came home was because he heard from his friends outside that his wife was having an affair, so he came back anxiously to stare at his wife.
But Wang Sheng’s actions caused the relationship between the couple to decline rapidly, and the quarrels between the couple became more and more frequent. What Wang Sheng did not expect was that in March this year, his wife returned to her parents’ home with her daughter, and even made the house better. Everything was moved away, and what was left were things that my wife didn’t like.
Moreover, his wife also said that she no longer has feelings and wants a divorce. This makes Wang Sheng very difficult to understand. They have been married for 22 years, how can they say that they have no feelings if they have no feelings.
It should be said that Wang Sheng is also mentally at work. He couldn't stand it when his wife was around, but when his wife left, he felt empty again. Now he wants to win back his wife. As long as her wife is willing to come back, he can go out to work immediately. , after all, the village doesn’t make much money.
As long as his wife can come back, he doesn't want to care about whether his wife has an affair. As long as his wife is at home, the family will be complete. With a family, he can live the rest of his life.
As the old saying goes, many people learn to cherish only after losing it, and in Wang Sheng, this sentence was also vividly interpreted by him. If I had known this, why bother in the first place?
But in the eyes of his wife Liu Wen (pseudonym), Wang Sheng’s character is hard to describe. Liu Wen told the mediator that Wang Sheng was a domestic violence man. Just this morning, Wang Sheng had come to her. If it hadn’t been for Wang Sheng Sheng's sister stopped her, and Wang Sheng's fist had already hit her face.
Last year, Wang Sheng also beat her until her nose was bruised and her face was swollen. What made Liu Wen even more embarrassed was that Wang Sheng would make a fuss every time she drank too much in the middle of the night. As long as she didn't agree to live as a couple, Wang Sheng would Sheng would also fight with fists and kicks, but she couldn't bear it anymore, so she took her daughter and hid back to her parents' home.
Wang Sheng quickly explained that he had never beaten his wife. Ever since he heard that his wife was having an affair, the quarrels between the couple had indeed increased every day. There had been pushing and shoving during the quarrels, but there had never been real domestic violence. Wang Sheng Sheng suspected that his wife was in love with someone else, so he wanted a divorce.
When the affair was brought up, Liu Wen was very angry. If she had had an affair, her life would not be so miserable, and she would definitely live a better life. In Liu Wen's view, Wang Sheng is just suspicious and listens to other people's nonsense. , if he talks to someone of the opposite sex, Wang Sheng will say that he has a relationship with someone else and ask him if he has any evidence.
In fact, Wang Sheng did not have any evidence. He just heard what his friends said. Many people said that his wife was having an affair. The reason why he believed his friend was because his wife was very angry after he came back. When he left, his wife Just very happy.
However, Wang Sheng also said that before hearing about this incident from his friends, the relationship between him and his wife was pretty good. Although there were quarrels, they were not so extreme.
However, his wife Liu Wen still doesn’t think so. She said that her relationship with Wang Sheng ended more than ten years ago, and it was not broken because of the affair. Now she has seen through Wang Sheng.
Liu Wen also admitted that Wang Sheng did give her some living expenses before, but not much. Since Wang Sheng came back in July last year, she has not made a penny since she spent all day outside playing cards.
Liu Wen's eyes turned red when she mentioned what happened more than ten years ago. At that time, her family's conditions were very tight. When her father-in-law passed away, Wang Sheng didn't have much money to bury her. At that time, her salary was only five or six hundred a month, so she was frugal. He finally saved 5,000 yuan, but Wang Sheng secretly took the money away and took his brother-in-law to play cards and lost everything.
Speaking of this, Liu Wen felt heartbroken. More than ten years ago, 5,000 yuan was already a lot of money. He could bear to use it to play cards and lose. He never thought that this was the result of his hard work and frugality. of.
When her eldest son was 6 years old, she wanted a divorce, but considering that the child was still young, she kept tolerating it. However, her tolerance and tolerance did not allow Wang Sheng to correct his shortcomings. Instead, he is still heavily in debt.
At this point, Wang Sheng finally understood why his wife wanted a divorce. However, Wang Sheng also expressed his position. In fact, he only owed ten or twenty thousand yuan. As long as his wife was willing to give him another chance, all these shortcomings would be eliminated by him. If you are willing to change, your wife will agree to all the conditions.
I woke up, I want to live for myself
As the old saying goes, you are not afraid of giving opportunities, but you are afraid of being given opportunities again and again, and not being cherished again and again. Obviously, Liu Wen is not willing to give Wang Sheng another chance. Yes, because in the past 22 years, she has given Wang Sheng many opportunities to make corrections.
Liu Wen has five sisters in her family. Her father is a coolie and has no skills, so the whole family has suffered a lot. She met Wang Sheng at that time, and she just took a fancy to Wang Sheng's skills to support the family, so her life should be better. .
Unexpectedly, after 22 years of marriage, he now doesn’t even have a place to stay. He doesn’t know where to go every time he celebrates the New Year. Wang Sheng only has a small shabby house in his hometown, and no one has lived in it for a long time.
In fact, Liu Wen, who was pregnant, discovered Wang Sheng’s habit of playing cards not long after they got married. However, she was already married and pregnant with a child at this time. She thought Wang Sheng could change it, but she thought too much. , some habits cannot be changed, and nature is hard to change.
Before this, Liu Wen had never thought about divorce for the sake of her children. After all, her children were already so old, so she could just live in a muddle. However, her 35-year-old sister passed away last year, and Wang Sheng’s suspicions were compounded. , which made Liu Wen completely change her mind and wanted to end this unfortunate marriage.
In Liu Wen's opinion, her sister is just like her, she is reluctant to eat or wear clothes, and she is devoted to her family. Last year, her sister was seriously ill and was hospitalized in Shanghai. She stayed with her for 8 days and 8 nights, but she still left. She You are only 35 years old. Is it worth it to risk your life just for the sake of your family?
The death of her sister was a big blow to Liu Wen. She also saw her own reflection in her sister. Life is short, why should you make do with it? She said: I have woken up. If you don’t live for yourself, you are harming yourself. , I just want to live for myself once and don’t want to continue this marriage.
Although everyone is trying to persuade me to make peace but not to break up, I understand this. Every time we had a quarrel before, my parents would persuade me to go back, but this time I don’t want to listen to anyone’s advice. I feel that people should live for themselves. Wang Sheng I also said that he is not willing to divorce, and he will hold me back if he does. It doesn't matter. Even if we don't get divorced, I don't want to live with him.
Liu Wen hoped that Wang Sheng would stop disturbing her life. Since returning to her parents' home, she has been living with her 9-year-old daughter. She takes her daughter to and from school after work. However, Wang Sheng always makes trouble again and again, even at her workplace. They all went to make trouble, resulting in her now not even having a job.
At this time, the mediator respected Liu Wen's decision and at the same time persuaded Wang Sheng that the person who tied the bell must untie it. If you want to win back your wife, you must correct your own shortcomings. This correction is not for others to see. It's about changing it for yourself. Only by truly correcting your mistakes can others accept you again.After some persuasion by
, Wang Sheng once again stated that he would go out to make money as soon as possible to pay off the foreign debt, and he would not go out to play cards or drink in the future. Regardless of whether his wife went back or not, his mission now is to make money and help his son start a career. , buy a house or a car.
Don't wait until you lose it to regret it.
In fact, many people will lose themselves and don't know what they want. They don't cherish it when they have it. They will regret it after losing it, but it is too late.
For Wang Sheng, this was the case. After 22 years of marriage, due to his various bad habits, the marriage went downhill and eventually reached the point of being broken.
Logically speaking, Wang Sheng also has a craft and his salary is not low. If he devoted himself to his family and had been married for so many years, he would not have no place to live and leave his wife and children without a fixed place. This is A failed father, a failed husband, unable to provide materially, and mentally injured, no one can accept it.
I hope Wang Sheng can understand that to save a marriage, you need to be sincere and actively correct your shortcomings, instead of saying that you have no basis for all kinds of entanglements. This will only make people hate and disgust. Opportunities are often reserved for those who are prepared. Man, otherwise it would be useless if I gave it to you.
It is not difficult to see that the last straw for Liu Wen was her sister. She died at a young age of 35. From her sister, she may be able to empathize, so she feels that all the efforts are not worth it. , thus wanting a divorce.
In my opinion, Liu Wen’s idea is understandable and supportive. After all, there is really no need to make do with an unhappy marriage. Many times we make do with marriage for the sake of our children. In fact, a make-shift marriage may not be good for children. Not necessarily a good thing.
In the final analysis, marriage requires both husband and wife to respect each other and trust each other. Only when husband and wife are of the same mind can they create a beautiful life and be able to make a profit. This is the original intention of marriage.
What do you think of this? Everyone is welcome to express their opinions and give different voices, thank you.
