Written by: Ning'er [Original content, personal collection and forwarding are welcome] Many people born in the 80s and 90s are only children, and now there are also many young people who only have one child. The pressure of raising a child is less for an only-child family, but it

Written by: Ning'er [Original content, personal collection and forwarding are welcome]

80. Many people born in the 1990s are only children, and now there are also many young people who only have one child. The pressure of raising a child in an only-child family is less, but it is also easy to be missed, especially the one-child family. There is a pair of parents around me who gave birth to two sons. They have often said since their children were young: "Let your son find an only daughter, and he will save ten years of struggle in the future."

In the blink of an eye, her two sons have arrived and are talking about marriage. At the age of , these parents still think about letting their son marry their only daughter every day, so they are always too lazy to do anything. As a result, the eldest son cannot afford the bride price because his family is poor. He is now in his 30s and has not yet married a wife. The second child listened to his parents' advice and found an only child. As a result, the woman's family allowed him to marry into his wife's family. He usually lived with his wife at her parents' house, and the child they gave birth to had the woman's surname. The key is that the woman's parents have notarized their property before marriage, and the wedding house bought for them also bears the names of the woman's parents, which has nothing to do with the man. In the end, the parents, who had hoped that their two sons would live forever, ended up in vain and were completely slapped in the face.

Parents of only children are not stupid, they will save something for their daughter in advance.

There are quite a lot of only children now. Since some people can think of "eating out the family", wouldn't the parents of an only child not think of it? Therefore, many parents of only children will save their daughter in advance. After all, no one is a fool. Just like the parents of the only daughter mentioned above, they asked their daughter to have their property notarized before marriage and buy a wedding house for their daughter in advance. However, the names on the property certificate do belong to both of them and have nothing to do with their son-in-law.

In addition, there are also some parents of only daughters who are rather unique in doing things, and will encourage their daughters to "leave the father and keep the son." After the daughter gets pregnant and gives birth to a child, if the son-in-law is a good person and everyone gets along well, if the son-in-law is not good, for example, he thinks about being destitute every day, takes advantage, and does not care about the family, etc., they will find a way to wait until the child is young. When both parties are divorced, the child will usually be awarded to the woman. In this way, he not only has offspring, but also does not have to worry about the family property from his son-in-law, killing two birds with one stone.

Parents who always want to get something for nothing will easily raise children with incorrect views.

And from an educational perspective, if parents are like the parents who encourage their sons to marry their only daughter and live in poverty every day, and they only want to get something for nothing every day, then education Children who come out are also prone to have incorrect views. Because parents are their children’s first teachers, their words and deeds have a huge impact on their children.

Once a child is like his parents and thinks about getting something for nothing, he will not study hard or work hard, but will only want to rely on others. In the end, it is easy to accomplish nothing.

Instead of worrying about other people’s property, it is better to think about what you can leave for your children.

Therefore, if parents worry about other people’s property and letting their son marry an only daughter will save them ten years of struggle, it is better to work hard and save more property for their children. This is It is more reliable and more secure than letting your children please or deceive others. After all, what can get through coaxing is always more real than what can rely on to work hard on their own without so much peace of mind, or it can be something left by their parents.

Of course, if possible, it is best to encourage children to study hard, work hard, be self-reliant, and create wealth and a better life through their own efforts. In this way, if you don’t rely on anyone, you can live with more confidence.

Today’s topic: Netizens, what do you think about parents encouraging their sons to marry their only daughter, which will save them ten years of hard work in the future?

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