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If you weren’t a single mother and child, if you weren’t urging marriage without much love, if your boyfriend hadn’t asked your mother to live with you all the time, and if your boyfriend hadn’t asked you to pay living expenses to her mother after marriage, I would think this is normal operation.
Really, under normal circumstances, since the son and daughter-in-law eat at the mother-in-law's house, why don't they pay living expenses? Why should mother-in-law support daughter-in-law?
Even if the daughter-in-law cannot go to work due to various reasons such as pregnancy and childbirth and has no money to pay living expenses, it is the daughter-in-law's significant other or son who should help her pay the living expenses.
Why should a mother-in-law support a daughter-in-law? Why does the daughter-in-law think it's natural to live in old age, and why does she feel aggrieved because her mother-in-law asks for living expenses?
Think about it for a moment, if you were a mother-in-law, would you be willing to raise a daughter-in-law?
must not be willing, right? Maybe the daughter-in-law is required not only to pay living expenses, but also to pay rent, and to take on some housework.
Since we all live together, we must jointly bear the household expenses, living expenses, rent, water and electricity bills, housework, etc. Only in this way can we live together in a long-term and peaceful manner.
However, from your description, I feel that the relationship between mother and son is unusual!
Your boyfriend does not regard you as his significant other, the other half who needs him to take good care of the family together, but as an outsider who inserts himself into their family halfway, a woman who needs to be wary and not take advantage of his family.
This is a bit interesting! It feels like the relationship between mother and son is unusual. It should be even more deformed than the mother and son in the average single-parent family!
Actually, I think this kind of family is really not suitable for marriage. It would be better for them, mother and son, to live a good life and stop harming other women!
If you feel that there is a shortage of people to carry on the family line, you can consider letting the mother have another child to make up for the shortcomings in the family and form a normal family structure.
If you feel that children born from illegal incest are too likely to be deformed and the risk is too high, you can consider surrogacy or buying sperm!
This situation at your boyfriend’s house feels very abnormal. It’s probably a big pit!
And because your boyfriend requires you to live with your mother all the time, unless you get divorced, it feels like you will be the third party intervening between mother and child for the rest of your life.
I guess you will feel particularly aggrieved and helpless after marriage, because you are obviously the wife of Ming Media, but why are you like a third party at home who destroys the relationship between mother and child?
This kind of married life is really worrying. If you are a compromise person and don't mind the unusual relationship between mother and son, or you think you can snatch your boyfriend back from your mother-in-law, it doesn't hurt to give it a try.
However, in the end, it is estimated that he will have a broken head and live a life of helplessness, or he will not be able to get the custody of the child after the divorce! Even your children are misled by your husband and mother-in-law and treat you coldly.
Therefore, it is recommended that you think carefully and carefully whether you really want to intervene between mother and child as a third party? Do you really want to be squeezed and bullied by mother and son for the rest of your life?
Think about it, mother and son who have been living together, because of your intervention, the mother feels that she has been replaced by her daughter-in-law in her son's heart and has fallen out of favor, so she targets you in various ways?
And this son obviously values ​​his mother very much and has made proper arrangements for her future life.
I just need a woman to raise children, so you guys rushed to get married without having a proper relationship!
It doesn’t matter whether this woman is you or someone else. Their mother and son just want a normal family recognized by society. A woman who is easy to handle and raising a child can make the family look normal.
really recommends that you carefully consider whether to enter the trap!
Even if she wants to fall into the trap, she still asks not to live with her mother-in-law! Your husband's salary will be handed over to you, and it will be arranged by your family.
Both parents are treated equally. You cannot listen to your parents in everything, nor can you blindly stand on the side of your biological parents.
However, even if there is an agreement, even if the other party compromises, you'd better hire a private detective to see if there is an ambiguous or secretive incestuous relationship between your boyfriend and his mother!
