There is a line in the movie "Ex 3":
"A qualified ex should be as if he is dead."
I buried him decently, and he buried me gracefully.
We just don’t love each other anymore. We feel that being together is not as simple and happy as before, and there is no bloody drama about being dumped.
I have always believed that after we broke up amicably, our lives would be like those of all former lovers, with no boundaries at all.
All contact information between us and information left on various platforms have also been deleted, except for the student union that maintains necessary work connections.
Until I looked at the
"Senior sister, can you show me your photo?"
"Senior sister, I just want to see what you look like"
"Senior sister, there is no need to pretend that you can't see it. Come on”
…
Video call declined
I had no intention of wasting time dealing with a girl’s little nonsense about being in love and caring about her boyfriend’s ex, but she bombarded me with messages one after another, and even the video call was rejected without noticing my attitude.
Maybe she knows that I don’t care about her, but she still doesn’t give up on my entanglement.
People pay attention to the relationship between their exes, but they rarely realize that their ex’s current relationship can also intersect with themselves.
To be honest, I actually don’t think there can be any bullshit fight between my ex and my current girlfriend. We just liked the same person, but I am in the past tense and she is in the progressive tense.
I can’t understand why a girl’s ex will never affect her current relationship, but a boy’s ex will always affect her current relationship.
Most girls are always on the fence emotionally, not letting go of any suspicious points or letting go of themselves who are emotionally consumed.
I finally replied to her, hoping that the matter could be resolved as soon as possible. At least I didn’t want to receive unexpected calls in the library or during club meetings.
"Junior sister, there is no need for me to show you my photos. Any conflicts between you and your boyfriend have nothing to do with me. We have broken up for two years and have no influence for a long time."
"But I found that he left Remember your past movie watching records, and if you say you don’t care about him, why don’t you delete his WeChat account?”
Maybe the current person cares about his ex, so crazy that he loses basic social etiquette and ignores the relationship between adults? The sense of boundaries that should exist.
She doesn’t seem to believe that just because we keep in touch on WeChat doesn’t mean that the old relationship will rekindle.
If a boy can be ambiguous with his ex when he is in love, then it is not worth the effort to love, right?
But girls who fall in love never understand that there is no need to redeem a man with an deviant mind. They always think that they can get back together with their lover by dealing with all the flowers and plants.
In fact, the opportunity for lovers to get along is the intermediary of love.
We cannot always think that when relationship problems arise, it is due to the intervention of outsiders.
I don’t know whether the two of them pulled me out to vent when they had a quarrel, or whether the junior sister was overthinking things for no reason.
I don’t know whether my ex really became a person who couldn’t handle his feelings in his relationship with his junior sister.
I have no time to care, and I won’t ask any more questions. After all, my junior sister contacted me using his WeChat account, so he won’t know about it.
It just depends on whether he is willing to deal with these things. I am not qualified to interfere with other people's feelings.
"How should girls treat their boyfriend's current relationship?" The 1.71 million views on the entry on Zhihu aroused my curiosity.
After watching most of the "incumbents" detail what they really care about, I suddenly realized how wary my junior sisters were about me.
I know that if I keep imagining that my boyfriend is in love with a girl, and even the good things between us have happened to another girl, this kind of past and reality cannot be separated, and the chaotic emotional entanglement will make me sad. “Incumbents” are trapped in a painful cycle.
At this time, if the boyfriend can accompany her patiently, make his position clear, and clear all ties with his ex, I think the girl will be able to experience her boyfriend's gentle love in time.
Isn’t this the sense of security that the current generation wants?
is so simple, but many boys always think that they have a clear conscience and ignore the small details that girls care about.
I remembered that during my previous internship, I was talking to a male colleague about his emotional experiences. He mentioned that a beautiful girl chased him when he was studying. Although they had no emotional follow-up, they only remained on the list without chatting for many years.
But he said, "She is also very beautiful now."
His boastful tone made me uncomfortable, so I blurted out, "Does your girlfriend know that you haven't deleted your romantic partner?"
"It's not a romantic partner. No, we haven’t contacted each other. There’s no need to talk about it. We’ll have another quarrel then. "
It seems like that, but it doesn’t seem to be the case.
As a girl, the most taboo thing in relationships is to have reservations.
He keeps people who have had emotional entanglements in the past. Even if there is no real progress, it will always make girls feel resentful.
Don’t boys understand? Yes, he knew that his girlfriend would be angry, but he did not choose to delete this buried hidden bomb, but not to let her know.
The disappointing boys are probably those who maintain their affectionate persona and think that they have done enough, but they do not know that they have chosen balance in a love that requires bias.
People always preconceptionally think that the current spouse is too jealous and suspicious of his ex, but we forget that these emotions arise from the boyfriend and originate from the boyfriend's attitude and handling method.
Girls don’t have to worry about whether their current love for them overlaps with that of their ex. They are already a thing of the past.
Be confident, if you are not loved, then he does not deserve your love.
Article Source: Cauliflower Dish
