Zhuang Diexiaomeng/Seeing the Essence through Stories An Original Emotional Illustration Worth Your Attention/Sourced from the Internet He Xingfu married Wang Qinglai, a smart and capable rural girl married to an honest rural youth. In the eyes of outsiders, they are a perfect ma

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He Xingfu married Wang Qinglai, a smart and capable rural girl married an honest rural youth.

In the eyes of outsiders, they are a perfect match and have complementary personalities. They are simply a match made in heaven.

In fact, they are not a good match at all.

Everyone said that the Wang family had been blessed for eight lifetimes by marrying a daughter-in-law like He Xingfu. Everyone praised their happiness, but no one felt that she was living a miserable life.

The suffering of happiness is more like rowing with pig teammates. She skates forward alone and never gives up when encountering strong winds and waves. The people around her not only do not help, but also accuse her of being too stubborn.

They are people in the same boat, but they are not in the same boat.

He Xingfu's marriage is not happy, and it all comes down to the fact that she married an honest man.

I thought she was honest and honest.

Happy’s mother once said to Happiness: “When I agreed to marry you to Wang Qinglai, I valued his honesty and practicality.”

Wang Qinglai is indeed a seemingly loyal and honest person. This is something everyone in the village can testify to. Yes, not just him, their whole family is very honest.

Being honest means being loyal and reliable. This is probably a misunderstanding that many people have fallen into.

There are always people who think that girls must find honest and honest men when they get married, because they are not frivolous and are the stuff of life.

In everyone's opinion, a woman's marriage is equivalent to her second reincarnation. If you meet a bad man, you will suffer a lot for the rest of your life; but if you meet a good man who loves others, your marriage will be happy.

Compared with those men who do not do their job properly and spend all day having fun, men who are loyal and considerate of their families are indeed the first choice for husbands, but the word "loyalty" does not mean being honest.

Loyalty is a kind of character, and honesty is a kind of performance.

An honest person in everyone's eyes: introverted, good at compromise, never offends others, and will swallow it even if he is wronged.

And such people have actually violated the loyalty and down-to-earthness that everyone originally pursued.

Actual weakness and incompetence

Wan Heirloom once said to Xingfu: "If you were as honest as your family Qinglai, how could you have caused so many troubles?"

It can be seen from this that in his mind, Wang Qinglai was also an honest person. Someone who can be manipulated by anyone.

Such people not only suffer the consequences, but also have no ability to protect their families. To put it bluntly, they are weak and incompetent.

Wang Qinglai's weakness is most vividly reflected in the matter of Lucky being married.

His sister-in-law was bullied like this, and he didn't even dare to breathe.

Lucky said she was right. She shouted so loudly that everyone in the house heard it, and Wang Qinglai outside the house couldn't have missed it.

He just pretended not to hear, and the reason why he was like this was because he was weak and was afraid of offending others.

This is not the most terrifying thing. The most terrifying thing is that he knows that something has happened, that Lucky has been very seriously hurt by this matter, and that Wan Chuanjia’s behavior is hateful, but he still thinks about making big things into small things. .

Xingfu just wanted to find an explanation for his sister. Not only did he not help, he also blamed Xingfu for being too stubborn.

An honest person in people's eyes is often a weak and incompetent person. He is not as diligent as everyone imagines. On the contrary, he is timid, cowardly and incompetent, and has no ability to protect his wife and daughter.

This should be the most intolerable thing about honest people. Women mostly marry to find someone to rely on, and such men are unreliable from beginning to end.

A woman who marries an honest man is asking for trouble.

From a happy marriage, we can see that once a woman marries an honest man, the rest of her life will be like asking for trouble.

1. No one stands up when bullied

People often say that a man should stand up to heaven and earth. Even if not everyone has the ability to stand up to heaven and earth, at least he has the ability to support a family.

As a husband and father, he is fully obliged to protect his wife and children, but for an honest man, he is not born with this ability.

When someone in his family is bullied, he will not think about standing up for it, but he will be afraid of making things worse and attracting revenge from others.

In such a situation, he will choose to endure it and let his family endure it too.

People like this have a mantra, which is that suffering is a blessing. However, human nature is a very scary thing. In this world, people who are good are always bullied, and horses who are good are ridiculed.

Your repeated concessions will only make things worse.

2. Husbands are timid and find it difficult to take on big responsibilities

Most honest people do not have much ability. They have an honest personality and are timid in everything they do, and they do not know how to change their lives. People like

usually live their lives in a well-behaved manner, and at the same time, they also live their lives in poverty.

is just like Wang Qinglai, if he had not married a wife like Xingfu, perhaps his life would have been even more miserable.

He likes farming, and he only knows how to farm. Besides farming, he has never thought of any other way out.

A common problem among many honest people is that they cower all day long, muddle along, and dare not and cannot take the lead.

And among those men who are getting better and better in life and can achieve success in their careers, none of them are honest people.

3. Honest outside, stubborn at home

Many people don’t really understand honest people. They think that honest people always look like that, honest and friendly, and have a good temper. In fact, this is just a misunderstanding.

An honest person may not be honest when he returns home. On the contrary, a large number of them show a side at home that is unimaginable to outsiders.

is easy to bully outside and will only shrink back when things happen, but at home he has a very bad temper.

This is the norm for many honest people.

From a psychological point of view, if a person often encounters oppression, his heart will be particularly unbalanced. As long as he has an opportunity, he will try his best to explode.

An honest man is timid and fearful on the outside, because he cannot deal with those people, so he can only behave with his tail between his legs and act submissive, but in his heart he is actually very aggrieved.

will be completely different when he returns home. Both his wife and children are relatively weaker than him, so he will vent all the bullying and resentment he suffered outside on his wife and children.

This is actually a very scary thing, and this is the main reason why many women are unwilling to marry honest men.

Regarding husband and wife, people often compare the husband to the sky and the wife to the earth. If you want to be a woman's sky, you must have certain abilities, but honest people happen to be unable to take on this important task.

When living with honest people, it is almost impossible to find someone to rely on. A woman can only be her own support, and she has to take the lead in everything. This kind of life is miserable.

Zhuang Diexiaomeng/original author of the emotional column

May your life be full of surprises, may your happiness come as expected