If you want to be able to communicate with ease, you must be a person with high emotional intelligence. You need to know what to say and what to say will offend others. When greeting someone, your title is important. If you yell appropriately, people will give you a smile. If you yell inappropriately, they will give you a blank look.
Yesterday, on the playground, a young colleague (less than thirty years old) was playing with her two-year-old baby. I passed by an old colleague (in his fifties), and the old colleague said hello: The baby is so cute. The young colleague told Baobao that it would be better to call him aunt. The baby said nothing. My old colleague smiled and said that calling her like that would scare the baby. The baby has never seen such an old aunt. The young colleague immediately answered: What should I call you? Sister? Suddenly, the situation was extremely embarrassing. I quickly said haha and smoothed things over. My old colleague was very angry. In terms of age, we are completely at the level of grandma. It is not too much for a child to call her grandma. I tried to comfort myself, maybe my colleague wanted to make us look younger by naming her children.
I think it doesn’t matter what you are called. If you are called Chang’e , you will not be able to ascend to heaven; if you are called principal, you will not be promoted. But the minimum courtesy and respect are still required. Some colleagues are very considerate in their work and tell their children to greet everyone they meet at school like this: Hello, teacher!
The difficulty of naming is related to the difficulty of distinguishing roles. In the past, when meeting people, you could directly address them as eldest sister or aunt. When walking your baby, feel free to ask, is this your son or is this your granddaughter?
Nowadays, with the birth of a large number of second and third children, you can't open your mouth casually when it comes to names, otherwise you will get into trouble. In the past, the mother was of the right age, but now she may be the mother of three children at the age of becoming a grandmother. It’s also possible that what appears to be the mother is actually the grandmother. Isn’t it a little messy?
Today’s young generation is either unmarried and infertile; or, having more children means more happiness. I saw a mother who was born in 1991 on Douyin. She got married at the age of 19 and subsequently gave birth to five daughters. If her eldest daughter also gets married and has children at her age, she can become a grandmother before she is forty years old. Nowadays, some fifty-year-old women still have a second child. Tell me, is it a little difficult to distinguish the roles?
I also gave birth to a child at an older age. When the child was more than one year old, I was in my hometown and went to take a bath in a public bathroom. There was steam inside, and the bodies were all white, and the faces could not be seen clearly. An old lady next door was teasing my son while taking a shower, and asked me: This little baby is so cute, must he be your grandson? I almost fainted, and it was inappropriate to ignore him. I smiled and said, it’s my grandson’s father. The old lady looked at me and said nothing, probably chewing on the relationship.
In the past, when we met strangers and wanted to ask for directions, we could call them "Miss" or "Comrade". Now, if you call me that again, I'm sure people will give you a blank look. In recent years, when greeting strangers, it has become popular in our area to call them "Master". This is used by both men and women. It is very safe.
I went to Qingdao before, and the tour guide told us that when we see a young girl, we should call her " 小嫚" (xiǎo mān), usually with the pronunciation of er, which sounds like mer. It sounds very delicious, and I feel it is so interesting.
My hometown is in Northern Jiangsu. There, older men and women are called "Big Brother" and "Big Sister"; young men and women are called "Little Big Brother" and "Little Big Sister".
In Nanjing dialect, in the past, beautiful girls were called " Panxi" and young boys were called "Pandong". Now they are called "boys and girls".
Friends, what do you call young men and women? Welcome to share!
