Northern Shaanxi is a place with thick loess soil and rich customs. On this yellow land in July, it was still very cool in the morning, but at noon, there were very few pedestrians on the street. The fiery sun is like a big steamer, slowly emitting hot steam. Especially for young

Northern Shaanxi is a place with thick loess soil and rich customs.

On this yellow land in July, it was still very cool in the morning, but at noon, there were very few pedestrians on the street. The fiery sun is like a big steamer, slowly emitting hot steam.

Especially for young people who don’t go out much, going out in the middle of the day will leave deep marks on their skin. Whether it is the neck or the arms, it will feel like it has been sunburned, with black patches and white patches, and the marks are particularly obvious.

If a family is having a funeral at this time, it will be really hot beyond words.

The custom of burial still continues in northern Shaanxi. Whenever there is a funeral, relatives at home, as well as relatives and friends in the same family, will come together to help.

The host family also pays to hire some bands for weddings and weddings. In our place, these people are generally called "players". When guests are invited to a banquet, the "blowers" will blow hard, and two large speakers will transmit the sound to nearby villages.

The daughter and daughter-in-law mourned. They will cry when Chui Shou picks up her mother's family. I also cry during the wake. Some children will cry too sadly and ask the younger generation to help them up.

There really is a time when it comes to being filial! In this world, many people have the regret that "they want to support their children, but they don't care for them", but they are also faced with practical difficulties. After the children get married, each has his or her own world. A mother has many children. Some children live a prosperous life, while others live in embarrassment. We are so far apart, the price of a train ticket or an airplane ticket can force people apart.

While chatting with my mother, I smiled and said, "Mom, I won't cry when you pass away." My mother smiled, and then responded, "If you don't cry, others will laugh."

I remained silent for several minutes. After pondering for a while, I thought about this question in my mind: On the day when the old man passed away, crying in front of everyone, is it a sign of filial piety?

That is also a kind of filial piety, but I think it is for outsiders to see. In many places in rural areas, after the death of an old man, the daughters cry very sadly, but if you try to ask them how long it has been since they came back to see their mother, they will definitely remain silent.

time is the best answer. True filial piety is performed when the elders in the family are still alive. No expensive gifts are needed, just a phone call, a delicious meal, and a short companionship of one or a few nights.

Fulfilling filial piety is very simple, but it is also very difficult! I saw that when my grandma was about to die, several aunts at home hurriedly fed her peaches, saying that she had never eaten them before and hoped to have a taste of these fruits before she passed away. I can understand their mood, but I also feel a little angry and confused.

In the past few days, my husband's grandfather passed away, and my mother-in-law was the only child who stayed with him to the end. Grandpa has three daughters and three sons.

My aunt is the eldest child in the family. She has been living in the countryside and has been with the dirt in the mountains for decades. All her family's savings come from this. When she was taking care of her grandfather, apart from cooking, the rest of her time was basically spent on the land. Either farming or hoeing.

My second aunt lives in Jiayuguan, Gansu Province all year round. She went home very rarely, and this year when it was her turn to take care of the elderly, she did not come back due to various reasons. But this time, she didn't even see her grandfather for the last time.

My third uncle lives in Shenzhen. He has been naughty since he was a child and has been living outside. He has only one son at home. But judging from his outfit, he wasn't doing well either. A week before his grandfather passed away, he came back to take care of him for a week. As soon as he left, he heard the news of his grandfather's death. Somewhat distressing. Although

has three daughters and three sons. But my grandfather did not live a very happy life in his later years. Due to long-term paralysis, he could only live on the kang in the cave dwelling. There were also several times when I went to the ground and the back of my head was bruised by the hard cement floor, causing me to bleed a lot.

It is a blessing that my grandfather, who is over eighty years old, has passed away. At least you don't have to suffer anymore.When he was young, my grandfather was said to be a carpenter with a clever mind and could also sing yangko and hum a minor tune. Although he lived a poor life, he gritted his teeth and raised his six children.

In his later years, my grandfather often guarded the four-hole cave dwelling alone. Sitting alone on the street of his home, looking at the passersby, waiting for the return of his children.

Now, the only old man who guarded this four-hole cave dwelling has left this place that was once full of joy and laughter. There are memories of his life here. And these memories are destined to be slowly erased by the years or even fade out of people's memories as time goes by.

Just like the people in the village say. This courtyard place will also be closed in the near future, empty and empty.

The old man’s departure will never be forgotten. However, those deep feelings related to the love between children and grandchildren are deeply imprinted in the hearts of the family, and eventually people call it "memories".