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[The 55-year-old father-in-law has been married for the third time to a 33-year-old young wife and has given birth to a son. How should he adjust his mentality as the eldest daughter-in-law? 】
Let’s briefly summarize the central idea of this netizen’s contribution:
The 55-year-old father-in-law got married for the third time, to a 33-year-old young wife.
and also gave birth to a son.
According to this netizen's description:
This 33-year-old new mother-in-law is "very scheming" at first glance.
After I got married and gave birth to a son, I wanted a house, a car, and money all day long.
You must take a nanny with you when you go out. The contributor of
said: I can’t stand it, I don’t bless you, I’m super upset!
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Actually, when I read this submission, I really laughed while reading it. The contributor
, because her essay is written from the perspective of a daughter-in-law, let’s call her “daughter-in-law.”
This submission is full of flaws, let’s break them down one by one.
1. "She is very scheming."
In the eyes of this daughter-in-law:
The new mother-in-law who married her father-in-law is "very scheming at first glance", and the father-in-law is "possessed by evil spirits"...
I really think it is so funny, with this "very scheming woman" "Isn't it your father-in-law's wish to get married?
throughout the article describes a man in his fifties as an innocent boy who seems to be less than ten years old. Co-authored by
People in their thirties are "scheming women", and your father-in-law in his fifties is "naive and possessed by evil". Please don't make me laugh to death, okay?
We are all adults, why are you pretending to be a pure white lotus?
Don’t even think about it, why would a relatively young woman in her early thirties want to marry your father-in-law, who is in his fifties?
She got married and gave birth to a son to her husband. What do you think she wants?
The daughter-in-law also accused the new mother-in-law of "wanting a house, a car, and money." So what else do you think the new mother-in-law can want besides these?
Is it because of your father-in-law’s age, or because of your father-in-law’s sincerity?
Everyone knows things well, so there is no need to pretend anymore.
2, "No need for father-in-law's help."
Let’s talk about the daughter-in-law herself.
The daughter-in-law said:
"My husband and I have already lived independently and do not need the help of my father-in-law."
However, the words between the lines are full of resentment towards this new mother-in-law who is super able to spend money, and she almost bursts out.
I think you are not as free and easy as you say, and you don't "need my father-in-law's help".
If you are so concerned about your new mother-in-law spending your father-in-law's money, aren't you just worried that your father-in-law will have less money to give to your husband in the future?
Moreover, the new mother-in-law also gave birth to a new son for the father-in-law. He is so young and will have a lot of money to spend in the future.
This is what makes the eldest daughter-in-law most anxious.
Nowadays, children are not raised casually. In such a relatively wealthy family (according to the submission information, there is a nanny at home),
it requires careful and rich upbringing.
This 33-year-old new mother-in-law, at first glance, is the type who will definitely not let her mother and son suffer.
I want to say:
My eldest daughter-in-law, if you are really as free and easy as you say, you don’t need the help of your father-in-law in your life.
doesn't covet his property, so it has nothing to do with you what kind of wife he marries.
If you have a good relationship with your new mother-in-law, it will be good; if
you can't stand it, then just treat her as a normal relative and occasionally move around as a courtesy.
Why do you jump up and down in excitement here, saying that people are scheming and want this or that?
said Po Tian, that is your father-in-law’s wife.
As a couple, how much the husband wants to spend on his wife and how to spend it are all their own business.
3, "crossing classes".
There is another point that the eldest daughter-in-law can't stand her new mother-in-law:
thinks that she is from a rural area, while their family is from the city.
Therefore, when a new mother-in-law marries her father-in-law, she crosses class boundaries, and she does not rely on her own efforts.
This sentence makes people laugh all the time:
What class are you in? Living in the city means you are superior to others?
Are rural areas inferior?
From this perspective, you are truly a family.
are all so snobbish and blind to money.
4. "How should I adjust my mentality?"
The eldest daughter-in-law felt that the 33-year-old new mother-in-law married her father-in-law for the sake of their family's money.
But is it wrong to make money?
Then doesn’t your father-in-law also like other girls to be young and beautiful?
If your father-in-law doesn’t think of someone who is young and beautiful, would you be happy to find someone who is also in his fifties?
A woman in her thirties married to a man in his fifties says she is not interested in money. Think about it for yourself, do you believe it?
Who is nobler than the other.
In fact, what the eldest daughter-in-law is afraid of is that the son born to her new mother-in-law will take away the family property (which should originally belong to the eldest son alone).
This is where she is most worried, afraid, and disgusted. Everything else is just a cover and doesn't matter.
But I think there is no need for the eldest daughter-in-law to adjust her mentality.
Because she doesn’t care what her mentality is, whether she accepts it or not. Anyway, it is a fact that her father-in-law married a new wife and gave birth to a younger son.
It's better not to say anything, don't be a monster, don't annoy your parents-in-law, and when the family property is divided in the future, it will belong to your family or yours.
After all, the eldest son is also his biological son, so it is impossible for a father to not give him a cent.
Discussion
55-year-old father-in-law has been married for the third time to a 33-year-old wife and has a son. The eldest daughter-in-law expressed strong opposition. What do you think about
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