Cheating has never been the exclusive domain of young men and women. In today's society, the elderly are also the main group of cheaters.
When Blue Fang dealt with extramarital affairs cases, he encountered many cheating men who were over sixty years old.
And the objects of these men's affairs were not young and beautiful mistresses, but women of the same age.
Many first wives cannot understand why men who are so old cannot spend their old age peacefully and insist on cheating.
can’t understand it either. Mistresses are not too young anymore, and those with children are not afraid of embarrassment and insist on being a third party.
can’t understand it even more. The cheating man and his mistress not only don’t want to break up, but also want to get divorced and stay together?
Is it because of love that a man cheats on his mistress? In fact, they all just get what they need.
This cheating case is a case that Lanfang successfully solved for the original wife Ms. Wang some time ago.
Ms. Wang and her husband have been married for thirty years, and both of them are in their sixties.
Last year, Ms. Wang went out to buy groceries in the winter. The road slipped and she fell, causing her fracture.
Her son and daughter felt sorry for Ms. Wang and knew that the cheating man could not take care of her, so they took her home to take care of her.
Originally she asked the cheating man to go with her, but the cheating man was unwilling because he felt that the children were busy with work.
How could he have time to take care of Wang? Madam, if he goes along, he has to take care of her, so he has to stay at home alone.
The cheating man stayed at home for more than three months. After Ms. Wang returned home, she found that he had cheated on her.
How did Ms. Wang discover this extramarital affair? Because she was away from home for three months and was too tidy when she returned home.
Although their children come to clean the house once a week, she knows cheating men too well.
It is impossible for a cheating man to take care of himself so well, let alone clean up by himself.
In addition, a man who originally did not like to exercise and just lay on the sofa and play with his mobile phone after dinner all day,
suddenly became obsessed with square dancing. Ms. Wang became suspicious, thinking that her husband was someone outside.
I don’t blame Ms. Wang for directly suspecting her husband of cheating because she doesn’t have enough trust in her husband.
The reason why she directly suspected it was because her husband had an extramarital affair when he was young.
The mistress is a young lady, but because the mistress has a bad reputation, the cheating man and the mistress are just having fun.
The cheating man has had enough fun, and the mistress wants more money and even wants to be in a position. The cheating man is not willing to lose a few boxes of the mistress.
Ms. Wang initially suspected cheating men, thinking that the mistress should also be such a woman.
As a result, when I later found the mistress, I found out that it was not the case. This time, the mistress was a woman whose husband died of illness.
And the mistress was not young either. She was over fifty years old, and her child had just gotten married and was living alone.
lives in their community and is known as an honest and responsible person.
The original wife didn’t understand why a cheating man would cheat on this mistress, let alone why the mistress would become a third party.
After she found out, she asked the cheating man to break up with his mistress, but the cheating man was unwilling to do so.
She also went to see the mistress, but the mistress actually said that the two of them had true feelings and couldn't break up.
Not only that, the cheating man actually had the idea of divorcing and marrying his mistress.
Ms. Wang is afraid of the impact of divorce on her children and feels embarrassed, so she is unwilling.
But the cheating man was very persistent, and Ms. Wang had no other choice, so she came to Lan Fang for help.
Lan Fang first helped his original wife, Ms. Wang, to answer questions. What did the cheating man and his mistress think?
First of all, it is the psychology of the mistress. In fact, it is very simple, just to find someone to rely on in his later years.
The mistress is widowed and her son is already married. She does not live with her son. She will inevitably feel insecure when she is alone in her later years.
At this time, a cheating man appears. The conditions are good and he is willing to divorce the mistress and marry the mistress to provide security for the mistress. .
This is very tempting for a mistress, because it is not easy to find a woman in her fifties again.
Therefore, the mistress and the cheating man are together to protect themselves in their later years.
The second is the psychology of cheating men. Obviously, they want to find a free nanny to take care of themselves.
From what Ms. Wang said, it can be seen that cheating men are used to being taken care of by others, and they enjoy being taken care of by others.
He is about the same age as Ms. Wang. When he reaches his sixties, he may feel unable to do many things.
At this time, he will feel that he needs more care. Ms. Wang was injured in an accident, which made him feel that Ms. Wang may not be able to take care of her.
So in When Ms. Wang was not at home, he went to find another person who he thought could take care of him.
As soon as he and his mistress got together, he asked his mistress to help clean the house. The purpose of the cheating man was obvious.
The mistress is also very sympathetic to his wishes. She is a very virtuous woman and has no objection to taking care of him.
As for Ms. Wang, the value to the cheating man is no longer so high, so he wants to give up.
Finally, what should Ms. Wang do? To be honest, Lan Fang rarely advises people to divorce.
But in this case, the cheating man does not deserve forgiveness because he is too selfish.
His marriage to Ms. Wang has always been unilaterally contributed by Ms. Wang, and he is not only devoid of gratitude.
When he felt that Ms. Wang was no longer of use to him, he could find a new employer without hesitation in the short term.
Then if you don’t care about the relationship between husband and wife, you will divorce Ms. Wang. Such a cheating man is unreliable.
Ms. Wang’s children are very kind to her. She can rely on other than cheating men in her later years, and there is no need to get entangled with cheating men.
If you are worried about your children losing face, you can make an agreement with the cheating man that you will divorce the cheating man but not publicize it to the public.
Of course, the conditions for divorce can be made more stringent and try to get as much property as possible.
Ms. Wang did not make a choice at the time, but her children discovered the abnormality.
insisted on getting her a divorce, because all the children knew about the extramarital affair of the man who cheated on her, and it was very harmful to the child.
She did not expect that the cheating man would do it for himself when he was old. She would also cheat, so the children didn't want their mother to continue to endure for her. In the end, Ms. Wang divorced the cheating man and took 70% of the property. The cheating man had a high pension and did not fight for the property.
However, divorce is not the end of this case. Some time ago, Ms. Wang came to Lan Fang and said that the cheating man would come back and beg his forgiveness.
Because the mistress used his pension to subsidize his son, although he took good care of the cheating man,
all the money was given to the mistress’ son. The two people had no money to spend, and their quality of life plummeted. The cheating man couldn’t bear it and wanted a divorce.
As a result, the mistress's son ran to threaten the cheating man. The cheating man regretted his mistake and went to find his own children.
The original wife's children said that they could provide pension money, but they would not help the cheating man seek forgiveness from his original wife.
The original wife also came to Lan Fang to thank her, and felt that the divorce suggestion was right.
Lan Fang shared this case, not to encourage the first spouse who was cheated on to divorce.
Rather, I would like to tell the original spouses that you should understand the relationship between a cheating man and his mistress, and understand your own bed partner.
Not all cheating men deserve to be forgiven. Sometimes divorce is a relief for you.
If you encounter cheating and don’t know what to do, you can follow Blue Fang and send you a private message to chat about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
