We cannot say that there are many temptations in today's society. In any era, there are temptations for people. It is difficult for people to resist temptation. Most people's resistance to temptation is far from a kind of self-discipline, but rather they dare not.
Betrayal is an act, in fact it is a choice. It is a choice that weighs the pros and cons.
Making a choice that benefits oneself but harming one's partner is called selfishness; making a choice that benefits oneself but destroys other people's families is related to morality.
So if we can start from the issue of "people", it may be more helpful to see the truth behind it.
The same goes for finding a marriage partner. Here is a good suggestion: don’t just look at how good he (she) is to you, but also observe whether he or she has a conscience and morality. When the passion fades, you can still control yourself. After all, when your hormones are bursting, there is no reason for the other person to treat you particularly badly.
It is said that today's marriage is fragile and sensitive, and more and more people no longer have the same loyalty as before. Why?
In fact, in the final analysis, there are no more than four reasons for people's infidelity in marriage!
- 1. When you are full, you will have plenty to do.
If you live a happy life, how can you cheat? In fact, on the contrary, life was going very well. At least, the economic conditions are relatively good.
When people are hungry, they always have only one worry: how to fill their stomachs. But after filling my stomach, my worries become more than one and become countless. All kinds of needs, wishes, and desires followed. In front of these things, I couldn't resist them at all.
People in the past lived in poverty and lacked resources. Most of them had no time to consider things other than life. The focus of the couple's lives was making money.
thinks about how to make money every day, to escape from a poor life, and to have less quarrels.
When there is not much material lack, higher-level desires will appear, including spiritual, emotional, and physical. This will inevitably lead to increased conflicts between husband and wife, who are not satisfied with the status quo and yearn for better things.
Therefore, when you are full, you will easily have trouble. People are insatiable and have endless desires. If you really have a bad life, how can you still have such leisure and energy?
- 2. Intrinsic needs.
Husband and wife are an intimate relationship, and it is also a relationship of interests. Of course, this interest does not necessarily refer to material things, but also includes the balance of the most intrinsic needs. Therefore, the imbalance of the most inner needs is also one of the fundamental reasons for internal conflicts and betrayal.
For example, a man never gets the appreciation, understanding and support from his wife at home. In addition, his wife always criticizes him, belittles him, ridicules him, and denies him. The frustration that occurs in his heart will make him feel that he is the worst person in the world.
In this case, he will be very confused and lonely. He really needs a woman who can recognize him and help him. It doesn't matter whether he loves this woman or not. What matters is that this woman can recognize his value.
can fill the missing parts deep in his heart and the missing parts in his marital life to a great extent. Such a woman will be something he cannot refuse.
Many extramarital affairs seem to be temptations from the outside world, but in fact they are mostly caused by conflicts within the marriage.
- 3, the passion of the picture.
can't stand the loneliness, just looking for a stimulating feeling and taking a chance.
Passion and romance are not the norm in married life, ordinaryness and suffering are. No matter who you marry, after three or five years, the passion will fade away. In addition, family life is also crowded, noisy, and has all kinds of trivial matters that you have to face and deal with.
It is easy for people to feel tired and discouraged, and thus yearn for the freedom of the outside world too much. When meeting a good person, it is easy for the heart to have ripples and thoughts.
So a large part of the reason is just that I can’t stand loneliness. It's just that people who cheat are not willing to admit it, so they find various reasons for this, and they find fault with their partners and the unfortunate parts of their family life. Why? The reason is very simple, in order to appear that his betrayal is excusable.
Perhaps, this is human nature, it depends on who can take care of themselves.
- 4, distorted values.
People today begin to receive various inspirational education from family, school and society when they are young. No one will extol the glory of labor anymore. Instead, they will only emphasize that if you don’t make it well, this is the end.
Therefore, the distortion of values will gradually occur, making young people become more and more impetuous. They have no idea what they want, and they are unable to have a clear definition of happiness. What is the most important thing? It will also make young people become more and more vain and lose the correct direction in life.
In fact, they do not have a correct and positive life belief. In this case, it is naturally impossible to have a reverent heart towards marriage.
From this point, we can know that many young people today are beginning to pursue selfish happiness?
abandons one's own responsibilities to pursue so-called happiness, does things without considering the consequences, and completely depends on one's own mood, just like a child playing house.
If they like each other, they stay together. If they don't, they separate. Everything has completely become a matter of whether they like each other and whether they are happy or not.
In fact, people can easily lose their reason and become impulsive and blind because of vanity. No matter what I got, I still couldn't calm down in my heart. I always felt that something was missing, so I kept enjoying it, and in the end I didn't get anything that could sustainably satisfy me.
The more this happens, the easier it is to feel lonely and eventually lose yourself. Only in the most ordinary and simple life can people get infinitely close to the true meaning of happiness.
Marriage is your own choice. You must be responsible for your own choice. Whether you have love regrets or material regrets is your choice. You have no right to regret it.
Something that is particularly gorgeous will only brighten the entire sky at that time, and will soon fall into endless darkness. Don't be blinded by these things, see through the appearance to see the essence, you will be happy for a moment and regret for the rest of your life.
--END--
