Sometimes I feel that all living beings are ridiculous, and sometimes I feel that I am hopelessly naive.
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I wonder if you sometimes suddenly fall into a very anxious state: you are not interested in anything, and feel that nothing you do is boring?
I often feel like this.
I once thought it was due to the nature of my work. Friends who follow me should know that I have not gone to work for almost two years. I have been idle at home, writing by myself most of the time, and reading, playing guitar, and playing games in the rest of the time.
Freelance (freelancer) for such a long time, in fact, I slowly discovered that the status of freelancers is not as good as outsiders say. Everything is free and you can control everything by yourself.
Freelancers need to have a very high level of self-motivation. If you are not such a person, you will be easily wasted if you are given freedom every day.
This lifestyle also has a big flaw, which is to stay away from the circle. Of course, I am a person who doesn’t like to be in any circle, but the circle I am talking about refers to a certain group, a company, and an industry.
After you stay away from these people, you will tend to make simple judgments in everything you do.
Of course it is very comfortable not to deal with annoying people, but if you don't see the heart-breaking things for a long time and concentrate on doing your own things, although your life is logically consistent , your heart will become single.
Sometimes I feel that all living beings are ridiculous, and sometimes I feel that I am hopelessly naive.
When you see people around you who are younger than you, catching up with you one after another, and even more powerful than you, your anxiety will suddenly hit you like the night wind, catching you off guard and lingering.
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So how do I treat my anxiety?
First of all, I think you need to make it clear that the most important thing in this world is yourself, your health, your happiness, and the value of your existence, not anything else.
The reasons why many young people are anxious, generally speaking, are nothing more than two: lack of money and lack of love.
The result is that you are helpless in the face of high housing prices; you don't like the job you do, but you don't dare to resign casually; you don't get what you like, and the people who get it don't like...
When you are stuck in an emotion, If you can't extricate yourself, it's easy to get into trouble. When these emotions build up, any little thing can become the straw that breaks the camel's back.
At this time, you need to have a loving attitude. Survival is the most important thing. There is endless work, endless money, there are many people who are better off than you, and there are also many people who are more miserable than you.
Don't feel wronged, you are not the only one who wants love and money but cannot get it.
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After unifying the world view, let’s talk about methodology:
(1) Reading
I know that reading has been mentioned many times. We understand a lot of general principles, but some small emotions are difficult to control.
Many friends will say, I also know that reading is good, but I can’t stand it. I have no patience. I can only read 10 pages of a book. I also received a message from a reader a few days ago. He said, President, I really envy you for your ability to express yourself. It feels very refreshing, but I can't read other books.
When this happens, it's generally not your problem, but the book's problem. It's because you haven't discovered what book you should read. If you don't find the fun, you just regard reading as a task. Of course, doing tasks is painfully.
Regarding reading, I think you can read this article - "Why I Don't Recommend You to Read Classics".
(2) Playing the guitar
I am talking about playing the guitar because I like it. This is my hobby. Everyone should have a hobby of their own.
Nowadays, I feel that many people live unhappy lives because they always like to show qualities in their circle of friends that they actually do not possess.
Many people have extremely low self-esteem, but they are extremely eager to tell everyone that I am a person who lives a good life. They live in their own fantasies and live in a world that touches them.
They post about their overtime work, fitness, and various plans, thinking that they have grown by making plans. In fact, they do not dare to stop and face their own hearts, so they keep themselves busy anxiously.
But I hope you can live a more fulfilling and happy life in real life than in the circle of friends, and have one or several projects that you are truly passionate about, even if it is planting flowers, raising ants , or knitting sweaters.
(3) Playing games
For many boys, their interests and hobbies may not be as extensive as those of girls, and they don’t like doing manicures, nor are they good at playing guitar or doing literature and art, so playing games is the best way to soothe their souls.
Many people actually have a big prejudice against the word "game". They usually think that playing games is a waste of time, and being addicted to games will delay study and work. In fact, many people's demands for playing games have changed now. Enjoying games is just a matter of time. On the one hand, and on the other hand, it’s for socializing.
A lot of unhappiness and anxiety actually come from comparison.
Converting it into motivation is a good thing. People need competition and comparison. If you go to a bigger company or a bigger city, you will find that there are really many good people in the outside world. People who live in small places and lack competition always feel that their talents are not appreciated. They lack opportunities to realize that they are actually mediocre.
If comparison cannot be transformed into motivation, it will turn into jealousy or even hatred. For the person you hate, the harm will be less than half, and the most painful thing is yourself.
depends on your own choice.
