Article | Miaomiao
Introduction:
In today’s society, the ratio of men to women is imbalanced. Many older single men have never been able to find a partner. No matter what a woman’s appearance and conditions are, she can find a husband casually. This is why some women don’t The reason for worrying about getting married.
Not all women are worried about getting married. Men also have certain requirements for their marriage. When a woman puts forward excessive marriage requirements, a man may rather stay single for the rest of his life than marry such a woman. There are some women around us who are very realistic. They think that because of their superior conditions, they should be favored by men. However, the actual situation is that they are poor in all aspects and are still arrogant. Even if such a woman marries back home, she may not be able to win. It will also bring bad luck to the family.
There is a 55-year-old single retired woman next to me. Her conditions are very good. She has a house, a car and savings, but the men around her are shaking their heads at her and unwilling to date her. This woman Single women never understand why they are not as good as those women who are not as good as her in every aspect, even though they are good-looking and have good conditions.
As for why this woman is single, let’s continue reading.
From the self-report of the 55-year-old Aunt Cao:
My surname is Cao, and my name is Cao Wenshu. I am 55 years old this year. I was born in a privileged family environment. My parents are also the children of high-ranking officials. I grew up with a golden key. The learning environment is much better than that of other children, and their studies are going very smoothly.
Economic conditions can really change a person's destiny. Although my academic performance has not been very good since I was a child, my parents were willing to spend money to train me. They enrolled me in various peiyou classes since junior high school. At that time, I was in peiyou Under the teacher's education, I gradually learned a lot of knowledge. Although the progress was very slow, my parents were already very happy.
I am the youngest child in the family, and I have an older brother. My parents love me and my brother very much. I grew up in a loving family. My grandparents are also very good to me and my brother. We are a family. We are very happy together. My parents usually discipline me as they please, but I will not do anything that would embarrass my parents.
After successfully graduating from college, my parents arranged for me to return to the local area and asked someone to find me a stable job. With the help of my parents, I slowly and quickly rose from a clerk to a corporate executive. .
In addition to the help from my parents, I am also very hard-working and willing to work hard. I usually work overtime and stay at my job. My parents finally see me growing up, but they did not educate me in vain.
I met my future husband at work. He was my client. After a period of dating, I felt that his personality was very stable and he was tall, which was my type. When my husband and I were together at the time, I was the one who took the initiative. When I pursued him, my husband was moved by my sincerity and we successfully held hands with him.
A year later, I brought my husband home. My parents also recognized my husband very much, approved of our marriage, and promised to give us a big house as a gift after we get married.
Because of my spoiled personality, it became even more prominent after I got married. When I get along with my husband, I only consider my own feelings. If I’m not happy, I lose my temper. After being the king of the house for a long time, my husband also lost interest in me. Patience, especially when I have been wronged at work, I will take out all these grievances on my husband when I get home. At first, my husband will comfort me carefully, but as time goes by, no man can stand my kind of behavior. temper.
I also have no patience when it comes to educating my children. I yell at my children when they make mistakes, and even the relationship between my children and me has become alienated.
I am usually very busy at work and occasionally take some time to spend with my family. But when something goes wrong when I go out, my face immediately changes. I lose my temper no matter what the occasion. People around me also come to watch the joke. My husband I felt so embarrassed that I took my child and left alone. When I got home, my anger was still there and I smashed all the appliances and furniture in the house.
Because my husband’s family is poor and not as well-off as mine, my husband has always endured my bad temper during our marriage. However, I did not realize my mistake and kept yelling at him during our marriage. I yelled and even made physical attacks on him. My husband finally couldn't bear it anymore and filed for divorce from me after my child entered high school.
My children and I usually have a bad relationship. After the divorce, my husband also asked to take away the children. At that time, I was busy with work and agreed to hand over the custody of the children to my husband. I thought that I could live freely on my own without anyone restricting me. It’s really nice not to have to take care of children.
After the divorce, I even felt a little happy. I felt that I had nothing to do and I could do whatever I wanted every time I went home. No one was nagging me. However, I felt very lonely when I lived alone. After all, I was with this man. After living together for many years, I have more or less certain feelings.
There will always be some troubles in work and life, especially when a woman living alone is irritable and unable to control her emotions. Without someone to vent to, I will vent all these emotions on my employees. I am usually very harsh on my employees. I thought that only if everyone obeyed my management would they do a good job. Unexpectedly, I turned out to be a vicious woman in everyone's eyes.
Over the years, I have been focusing on my work. I am usually under a lot of pressure and retired from my job when I was 50 years old.
I thought that I would be able to enjoy a good life in peace after retirement, but retirement is not as easy as I imagined. I go in and out alone without anyone to talk to. I am usually busy with work at work, and every day I lived a very fulfilling life, but now I am living alone, very lonely.
When I was at work, I only interacted with colleagues, and I was a very serious leader. I didn’t have any close friends, let alone good friends. After living alone for a while, I had the idea of finding another wife. idea.
I thought that I had good conditions and a good family background, so I would be a hot commodity in the marriage market, but I didn’t expect that I would become a hot commodity. I didn’t want the other person’s money, I just wanted him to have a heart that loves me. I think This is a very basic requirement.
I went on a blind date with several men. They were very nice to me at the beginning, but after a long time of contact, they all started to stay away from me. I didn’t understand either. My own conditions are not bad. I have a house, a car and a pension. These men are just leaving me alone. I don’t want such good conditions, but I want to find other women. How am I worse than other women? Is it because my conditions are harsh? I think the requirements I made are within the normal range.
Please help me see if these three requirements I have made are excessive?
First, I have been in relatively good conditions since I was a child and have a strong personality. The other party must be able to tolerate my personality.
I have been favored by my parents since I was a child. My ex-husband divorced because he and I were not compatible with each other. So if I want to remarry, I must find a man who obeys me in all aspects. After all, my conditions are there. I don’t want to be like other women. I ask the other party to have a house and a car, but I must ask the other party to be able to tolerate my temper.
Secondly, even if I am remarrying, I must have a sense of formality. I must hold a high-end wedding for me and entertain relatives and friends on both sides.
When my ex-husband and I got married, we had a million-dollar high-end wedding. The scene was shocking. Even though I am now over 50 years old, I have to remarry decently and not just get together casually. I don’t want a house or a car, let alone a bride price, so I only have this small Require.
Of course, I am not asking for this for myself. The other person also has face in front of his family. I expect myself to be a beautiful bride at the wedding and then get together with my lover. It is a very romantic thing. A man must be able to let me Be the happiest woman.
Third, I want to find a wife with a pension of over 10,000 yuan.
Although I can let a man live in my house, it does not mean that I will support a man after we get married. I usually spend a lot of money on my pension. There is only enough for one person to spend. A man must be capable to match me.
After getting married, a man must pamper me. He must give me a sense of ceremony during holidays and give me small gifts. Of course, these small gifts cannot be too cheap. I have never bought bargains since I was a child. Men must have the experience. Only with a pension of 10,000 yuan can I be able to afford my daily expenses after marriage.
A man’s thoughts will be wherever he spends his money. A man must be willing to spend money for me to reflect his love for me. Financial ability determines the quality of life after marriage.
I think that my conditions are superior and single women of the same age cannot compare to me. It is not too much to ask for these few requirements. However, after hearing about it, the men who were dating me all said that I was wishful thinking, and some even called me an old man. The lion opened his mouth, I really don't understand what I did wrong.
No matter what a man thinks, as long as I remarry, I am not willing to lower my requirements. I believe that I will be able to find a man I like who agrees to these three conditions.
The three conditions put forward by this woman are very excessive. This woman failed in her first marriage because she was too self-righteous and too strong. She has to put forward these three conditions for her second marriage. It is obvious that no man would be willing to marry such a woman. By getting married, wouldn't it be like finding a burden for yourself, and your life will become a joke in the end?
