Zeng Guofan’s family motto says: The success or failure of your life is all about the virtuousness of your friends, so don’t be careless.
Friends are the relatives we choose. Their character and outlook determine the direction of our lives.
Therefore, you must be careful when choosing friends.
People who speak these four words must stay away.
Simple conversation, but with bad motives
A person will divulge his heart and soul to you as soon as you meet him, telling you many of his secrets. People like
must be wary.
You must know that everyone has their own inner defense line.
opens the defense line when he comes up and lures you in. Such a person must have another purpose.
This is the case with many modern "pig-killing plate" scams.
After only a few days of chatting, the scammer started talking about his unfortunate marriage and childhood shadow. After
defrauded trust, he started to defraud money.
The relationship between people must be progressive.
The reason why Jiaoqian talks about the depth of things is probably because of the approximation. Behind such approximation, there must be an ulterior secret.
Therefore, once you meet such a person, you should be careful and be cautious in dealing with them.
Those who talk about right and wrong but have a wrong mentality
must be right and wrong people.
A person likes to talk about right and wrong. Over time, his heart will become muddy.
If you talk about other people's rights and wrongs in front of you, you will talk about your rights and wrongs in front of others. People like
are walking contradiction-making machines.
Wherever he goes, he will bring conflicts.
As soon as you arrived at the company, someone sent you a message: Xiao Wang spoke ill of you yesterday. He said that you watched videos every day and wasted your time.
You will definitely be angry and have opinions about Xiao Wang, and your interpersonal relationships will begin to become tense.
On the one hand, it is Xiao Wang’s fault, but on the other hand, there is also a problem with the messenger.
Xiao Wang may be angry for a moment, but the messenger must have bad intentions. People like
should have as little contact as possible, so that they can have less troubles about right and wrong and live a comfortable life.
Picky and mean, interpersonal discord
We often see such people in life: picky and mean.
When I eat, I choose food that doesn’t taste good, and when I wear clothes, I choose clothes that don’t fit me.
At work, the environment is important, and in the restaurant, hygiene is important.
Wherever he goes, you can hear his faults.
is picky and complaining at the same time. People like
are detail-oriented and may be a good cashier or accountant, but it is difficult to become a good friend.
No matter when and where he likes to highlight himself and belittle others.
can't stand some tiny details, which can easily ruin the atmosphere and make people embarrassed. People like
are uncomfortable to get along with, so you should always be careful.
Instead of being cautious, it is better to stay away from it.
Words are high but deeds are low, and conduct is not good.
Confucius said: A gentleman is quick in his actions but slow in his words.
means that a gentleman should talk less and do more, and his words should be low and his actions high.
But some people say one thing but do another.
talks about benevolence, justice and morality, but in practice it is sneaky.
Teacher Zhao Yuping once told a story:
He went to meet a partner and talked about business, economics and philosophy on the stage.
But when we went out to eat together, the girl at the cashier charged us fifty yuan less.
This partner found out that he was undercharged and pulled Teacher Zhao away quickly.
said when he got off the elevator: I am so lucky today, I saved fifty yuan.
After the partner left, Teacher Zhao went to the bar to make up the money. The
cooperation was ultimately not negotiated.
People whose words and deeds are inconsistent are very scary. People like
cannot tell the difference between authenticity and authenticity, and cannot smell sincerity.
If you suffer from cooperation and make friends, it is better to stay away as much as possible.
Confucian Fengjun said:
The ancients said: The mouth is the door to the heart.
What a person says is often the true expression of his heart.
When interacting with people, you can roughly tell his character from what he says.
Don’t get close to people who often say these four things.
