It is only natural for a son to be filial to his parents. But in order to save his critically ill mother, would he not hesitate to be a filial son of a "shemale"? How should we comment on this heavy and tragic filial piety?
She took care of her loving mother and was willing to become a cross-dressing artist to earn money to support her family.
Lin Feifei, who was 27 years old at the time, was originally named Chen Hailong. His hometown is in the countryside of Meishan Town, Sanya City, Hainan Province. He has an older brother and an older sister. Because his father, Chen Tai, suffers from high blood pressure and cannot do heavy work, the burden of life falls entirely on the frail shoulders of his mother, Li Xiaolian.
In Chen Hailong's eyes, his mother is the greatest person in the world. In addition to working in the fields, she also took over beading work from an embroidery factory and did it at home. She was busy until 12 o'clock every night before going to bed. Growing up in such a family environment, Chen Hailong learned about filial piety from an early age.
When Chen Hailong was in junior high school, he won the second prize in the Hainan Province Youth Singing Competition. He originally wanted to apply for an art university when he grew up, but in order to earn money to support his family as soon as possible, he chose to apply for a technical secondary school. However, when he received the admission notice from the Hainan Provincial Grain School, his father suffered from high blood pressure and myocardial infarction and was hospitalized and owed more than 20,000 yuan in debt. Seeing that his brothers and sisters had dropped out of school to work, he also wanted to drop out of school to help his mother, but his mother forced him to go to school.
In July 1999, after graduating from technical secondary school, Chen Hailong applied to work in a hotel in Shenyang City. He majored in hotel management, but the job he got was as a waiter, with a monthly salary of only 600 yuan. He had no money left to honor his parents. In March 2001, after he fell in love with Xiaoli, a hotel foreman, he felt even more financially strapped. In order to earn money to get married, he had no choice but to bid farewell to his girlfriend in tears and go south to Guangdong to pursue a career in the world.
In September 2002, shortly after Chen Hailong arrived in Guangzhou, his fate took a turn for the better. A small hotel hired him as a lobby manager with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan! When his mother heard that he was finally promising, she gradually regarded him as the family's supporter, and no longer hid anything from him. Only then did he know that in the past few years when he was working, his father, who suffered from high blood pressure, had suffered multiple strokes. Each time he was hospitalized for as long as half a month and as short as three to five days. One attack cost the family thousands of dollars. Ten thousand yuan, which makes the family overwhelmed. Chen Hailong felt very guilty after learning about it. He deeply longed to make a lot of money and relieve his mother's stress.
On the evening of December 20, 2002, Chen Hailong accompanied his client to the Golden Coast Nightclub on Airport Road for entertainment. He accidentally discovered that the cross-dressing singer on the stage was actually his technical secondary school classmate! While reminiscing with this classmate, Chen Hailong couldn't help but express a bit of envy when he learned that his classmate's appearance fee was as high as 600 yuan per night. The classmate suggested: "You sing well and you are handsome. Why don't you quit your job and cheat with me! Let's make a lot of money together!"
Chen Hailong wants me to be a seven-foot-tall man who pretends to be a woman and performs on stage, isn't it? Is it embarrassing? The classmate immediately cited Peking Opera master Mr. Mei Lanfang as an example, and promised that as long as Chen Hailong cooperates with him to make a guest appearance, he will be paid 100 yuan per night in the initial stage. Chen Hailong's artistic dream has finally been activated. If I have this part-time job, wouldn't my monthly total income reach 6,000 yuan? With the mentality of giving it a try, he would appear on time at 10 o'clock every night at the nightclub where this classmate was going to perform. Depending on the needs of the performance, he sometimes appears as a man and sometimes as a woman, and his performance is extremely immersive. After seeing his cross-dressing performance, some nightclub owners persuaded him to give up his job in the hotel and specialize in cross-dressing. It happened that his mother called him at this time and said that the old house at home was going to collapse and asked him to send some money back to build a house. So, eager to make money to support his family, he resigned and prepared to specialize in cross-dressing performances.
On May 12, 2003, Chen Hailong officially performed solo at the Vitality City Nightclub in Huadu District, Guangzhou. He sang songs such as "For Whom " by Zu Hai and "Tell You Softly" by Yang Yuying, and won warm applause from the audience. At the climax of the performance, several male audience members brought beers to Chen Hailong from the audience, and one bearded audience member even took the opportunity to touch Chen Hailong's "plump" fake breasts.Suddenly, Chen Hailong felt so disrespected that he impulsively turned against the audience and started arguing with the audience. The performance was ruined! That night, the boss fired him because he couldn't adjust the atmosphere.
Chen Hailong felt very depressed, so he asked his classmates for advice and how to deal with such a situation. The classmate told him: "To put it bluntly, our business is for people to have fun! You must learn to pretend to be a grandson, not an uncle!" The classmate's words boiled down to one word, endure! Chen Hailong remembered it. As time goes by, his stage experience becomes more and more abundant, and his performance level becomes higher and higher. Each performance lasts less than half an hour, but the reward is as high as 500 yuan! A few months later, he used the money he earned from cheating to build a two-story building for his parents in his hometown.
emergency mother! A dutiful son can earn a lot of money by becoming a "transvestite"
However, the competition for being a cross-dressing artist is also fierce. Some people go so far as to suppress male secondary sexual characteristics and even take estrogen in order to be "red". Anyone with medical knowledge knows that excess estrogen in the human body is not only harmful to the body, but also seriously affects physical health, causing a decrease in immunity and loss of sexual desire. Chen Hailong also knows that taking estrogen is "effective", and there are even more effective methods, such as plastic surgery, but this is making money from his own body, which is too cruel! He would rather make less money than hurt his body.
However, the nightclub is so "abnormal". Although Chen Hailong's cross-dressing show is good, the on-site effect is not as popular as the "transvestite" performance, and his appearance fee is not as high as the "transvestite" performance. Chen Hailong was confused, so he asked his classmates for advice. The classmate smiled and said: "What's wrong with this? The price paid by a shemale is higher than yours! If you dare to be a 'transvestite', I guarantee that your appearance fee will be doubled! The 'transvestite' performance satisfies people's The psychology of curiosity . Who doesn't want to see something strange these days? "Chen Hailong finally "understood" and said, "It's not easy for them to make some money!"
After Chen Hailong's performance ended at 11 o'clock in the evening, I found 12 missed calls, all from home. He suddenly felt bad. He called back and found out that something had happened to his mother. At 7:20 that night, on his way to the embroidery factory to pick up the beading task, his mother was hit by a large truck coming from behind. The truck ran over her, causing two fractures in her right leg, torn skin and flesh, and severe injuries to her esophagus, stomach, lungs and other parts of her chest. However, the driver escaped...
She was sent to Sanya by well-wishers while she was dying... The Municipal People's Hospital immediately rescued her and notified her family based on her serious injuries. It was estimated that it would cost 300,000 yuan in medical expenses to cure her! The whole family was immediately confused. The unscrupulous driver escaped, and there were no witnesses at the scene to record the license plate number. The perpetrator could not be found. All the medical expenses could only be pinned on Chen Hailong, the only one who made money outside...
Early the next morning, Chen Hailong flew to Sanya. When he saw his mother at Sanya People's Hospital, the more than 20,000 yuan his family had paid had been spent, and the hospital was preparing to stop taking the medicine. He immediately took out more than 50,000 yuan from his bankbook and handed it over, so that his mother's rescue treatment could continue. However, this little money is not enough! Looking at his unconscious mother, he burst into tears and hurriedly called his friends to borrow money, but he could only collect tens of thousands of yuan.
At this moment, the owner of a nightclub in Guangzhou received a call from Chen Hailong and said: "I can lend you 200,000 yuan. But you have to have breast augmentation surgery and then perform at my nightclub. I will give you 200,000 yuan for each performance." Your 1,000 yuan! At the same time, you can also take time to perform at other nightclubs. It’s up to you how much you can earn. Only in this way, I won’t be afraid that you won’t be able to pay me back in the future!”
Chen Hailong was immediately confused, let alone. As a "transvestite", he didn't even tell his family about engaging in cross-dressing performances. Besides, he already has a girlfriend. Once he gets breast augmentation, how can his family and girlfriend accept him as neither a boy nor a girl?
The 50,000 yuan that Chen Hailong paid was quickly used up. Seeing that his family could not borrow the money, the hospital had to stop taking the medicine. After stopping the medicine, my mother, who had just emerged from the critical period, suffered from sharp pain like daggers all over her body. She even bit her lip, but she couldn't help but moan in pain.Seeing his brother and sister sadly preparing for his mother's funeral, Chen Hailong's heart was bleeding. In the end, filial piety overcame everything! With trembling fingers, he dialed the cell phone of the nightclub owner in Guangzhou...
After hanging up the phone, Chen Hailong pretended to be relaxed and said to his brother that a friend was willing to borrow 200,000 yuan, but he had to pay it back within 7 days, and he had to pay it back immediately. Go borrow money from other places to "fill the hole." My brother believed it and thought he was very capable. Little did he know that he was going to Guangzhou to undergo humiliating breast augmentation surgery!
Chen Hailong did not expect that the nightclub owner who lent him money actually persuaded a large hospital in Guangzhou to perform breast augmentation surgery for him for free, but the price was to use his before and after breast augmentation photos for publicity. Although he was extremely unwilling in his heart, he had to bow his head in front of reality.
On February 21, 2004, when Chen Hailong walked onto the operating table, he couldn't help crying. From now on, he will be a "shemale" who is neither male nor female, and love may not be with him in this life! Sure enough, after the operation, when he called his girlfriend Xiaoli anxiously to tell him the truth, Xiaoli hung up the phone sadly... and the two reluctantly broke up.
The only good thing is that with this 200,000 yuan, my mother received timely treatment and finally survived! However, the Chen family still owes the hospital more than 50,000 yuan in medical expenses, and the mother still needs lengthy follow-up treatment before she can gradually return to normal. Just bone grafting and skin grafting on his right leg required several surgeries. In order to completely cure his mother's injury, Chen Hailong had to start performing again soon after the operation, running 5 shows every night. However, since having breast augmentation surgery, people no longer regard Chen Hailong's performances as cross-dressing art, but as tacky "shemale" performances! People who come into contact with him. They all regarded him as someone else, with contempt in their eyes. His heart was deeply hurt!
The most humiliating thing for Chen Hailong is that when he performs, the nightclub host always tells the audience that he is a "transvestite"! Once, when Chen Hailong was performing "The Queen", he asked if any audience members dared to come up and be "loyal ministers". A male audience member was encouraged by his girlfriend to go on stage and cooperate with Chen Hailong's performance. When the performance was about to end, Chen Hailong "rewarded" the male audience member with a kiss on his forehead as usual. This action has always attracted a lot of applause and screams in the past, but this time, the male audience member felt that he had been "violated" and gave him a slap in the face. Chen Hailong was in great pain, but he had to hold back his tears and apologize to the male audience in public... When he walked out of the nightclub, tears of humiliation burst into his eyes. This was the most serious blow he had suffered mentally after being physically tortured. !
How can we not let others regard ourselves as just a "monster"? While Chen Hailong continued to run, through the introduction of friends, he went to the Central Conservatory of Music and the Central Academy of Dance to further his studies in order to comprehensively improve his performance talents. Since then, with his outstanding performances, he has gradually regained a little dignity as a human being.
It's heartbreaking. Can we only do " transsexual " to perform filial piety?
On August 5, 2004, not long after Chen Hailong's mother was discharged from the hospital, she accidentally fell downstairs while drying clothes on the balcony on the second floor. As a result, her healed right leg was fractured again, her esophagus was ruptured in her chest, and her stomach was perforated. It is estimated that it will cost more. 200,000 yuan. Chen Hailong's old debts had not yet been paid off, and he could not afford the expensive medical expenses. He had to borrow money from his former nightclub owner again.
The owner of the nightclub agreed to borrow the money, but said to Chen Hailong: "Transgender people are popular in nightclubs nowadays! Korean transgender singer Ha Lixiu is popular all over the world, you know? If you are willing to undergo transsexual surgery, it must be China's appearance fee The best nightclub singer!" Chen Hailong couldn't believe it after hearing it, my God! Do you want me to have sex reassignment surgery? This cuts off my last bit of capital as a man!
Chen Hailong gritted his teeth in hatred at the nightclub owner's cruel temptation, but he did not dare to walk away, nor did he dare to agree on the spot.Just when he was hesitating, his father kept calling him and urging him to go back quickly. His words were very ugly: "Your mother is about to fall to death! Even if you can't lend money to your mother for medical treatment, you still have to come back for the funeral!" He cried and said: "Dad, of course I want to go back! But I can't borrow money at home, so what's the use of going back? I have to stay in Guangzhou to borrow money and save my mother's life!" His father then urged him in a gentle tone: "Then hurry up!" After hanging up the phone, Chen Hailong felt like fish on the chopping board, only to be slaughtered. In desperation, he bought a bottle of " Erguotou ", got drunk in a rental house, and then decided to bow to fate again.
html On August 20, while Chen Hailong was undergoing sex reassignment surgery, his mother underwent emergency rescue and was temporarily out of danger. But misfortune never comes singly. His father relapsed due to the stimulation and was paralyzed in bed. He was also admitted to the hospital. Chen Hailong didn't have time to wait until he fully recovered, so he started performing under the stage name "Lin Feifei". Sure enough, after his sex change, his appearance fees increased steadily, with a minimum of 1,500 yuan per game, and he soon became "famous" all over Guangzhou!
On October 25, 2004, Chen Hailong's parents were discharged from the hospital one after another, and his brother urged him to go home to visit the two elderly people. Chen Hailong missed his relatives so much that he secretly returned to Hainan. He made up himself into a completely different woman from before, rented a small tricycle, drove slowly around the house, and then left in a hurry. This kind of pain of having a home and not being able to go back made him suffer all his life. Heart-piercing!
That night, because he could not withstand the warm invitation of a nightclub owner in Haikou, Chen Hailong agreed to perform. Unexpectedly, after his performance, the captain of the French Moulin Rouge performance team who was performing here sincerely invited him to join his team and said that the monthly salary during the probation period would be 40,000 yuan, which would increase in the future. The performance team will return to France in a few days, and I hope Chen Hailong will go to France with the team. Chen Hailong knows that France's Moulin Rouge Cabaret is the world's top song and dance troupe, and many artists regard joining the troupe as a shortcut to fame. Such an opportunity is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity! However, Chen Hailong remembered that his parents might pass away at any time, and he would leave his hometown and go to France, where he might not even be able to see his parents for the last time, so he declined the captain's kindness.
In April 2006, the column team of the variety show "Mermaid" invited Chen Hailong to be a guest performer. As soon as he came out of the live broadcast, he received a call from an old classmate: "Is the transgender singer Lin Feifei on TV just now you?" Chen Hailong immediately denied it. The classmates repeatedly sighed: "It's so similar, it's really so similar!" After hanging up the phone, Chen Hailong was filled with fear. If his parents knew that he had undergone sex reassignment surgery, how could they, who had always been conservative, bear such a heavy blow? After that, Chen Hailong tried his best to avoid appearing on TV. He thought that if he could hide it, it would count for one day!
However, before the Spring Festival in 2007, my brother called Chen Hailong and said: "My parents are almost 60 years old and their health is not good. How many years can they live? Come back and see them! They will meet you." One side is missing!" Chen Hailong was heartbroken. He wanted to meet his parents as soon as possible, but he was also worried that they would not be able to accept the fact that he had transitioned. He was suffering from pain. In the end, he could only deal with his brother: "I have to work overtime during the Spring Festival, so I can't leave!"
This continued day by day, and on September 3, 2007, Chen Hailong's father, Chen Tai, suffered another stroke! His brother called and repeatedly warned Chen Hailong: "You must come back this time! I'm afraid dad is really dying! If you can't die for him, no matter how much money you make, what's the point?" Chen Hailong burst into tears. !
He really didn’t have the courage to meet his parents, fearing that they wouldn’t be able to bear the blow! I didn’t get to see my parents until they passed away!
Chen Hailong gave everything for his parents and this family, so much so that he lost his love, family, and dignity!
Chen Hailong's motive for "acting filial piety" is noble, but his practice of performing filial piety by being a "shemale" is definitely not worthy of promotion and encouragement.In order to save his critically ill parents, Chen Hailong had to pay the price of becoming a "shemale" and even having a sex change. Is this love too heavy? Is this filial piety or self-abuse? But is there any other way he can do it?
