In 2011, I met an Indian doctor in Shanghai. I was attracted by his erudition and fell in love. After two years of dating, I married in India. I currently live in New Delhi, the capital of India. During these 9 years, I have experienced It’s really incredible to see the legendary

I, a girl from Xinjiang, have been married to India for 9 years. I saw my father-in-law drinking water from the Ganges and insisted on taking my children back to China.

Narration: Anal Guli

Organizing: Mr. Xiao Han

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My name is Anal Guli, from Xinjiang, is 35 years old. In 2011, I met an Indian doctor in Shanghai. I was attracted by his erudition and fell in love. After two years of dating, I married in India. Currently, I live in the capital of India, New Delhi . During these 9 years , it is really incredible to see the legendary Indian "culture".

My previous impression of India was not good. Dirtyness and chaos seemed to be imprinted in the hearts of Chinese people, and I was no exception. But because of love, I chose to accept all these.

But one thing made me insist on choosing to return to China with my children, because I could not accept this kind of ignorance, and it happened in a so-called intellectual family. However, due to the epidemic, I still cannot realize my wish to return to China. As long as the epidemic is over When it's over, I will take my children back to China.

I was born in Wusu City, Xinjiang Province in 1987. My father is a primary school teacher and my mother is a housewife. I have received a relatively good education since I was a child, and my parents are very simple and frugal people. We have four children. It is not easy to raise Zhengda, and three of them have gone to college, and I am one of them.

Xinjiang people are born to dance, and my favorite is folk dance. I started learning dance from my aunt when I was 9 years old, and continued to study in college. My aunt runs a dance school, the only one in our area.

I am not only good at dancing, but also very good at studying, especially mathematics. I always ranked first in the whole grade. As a Chinese teacher, my father studied in my father's class from the first grade to the sixth grade. When I entered junior high school, my uncle became my class teacher. In short, my studies were always watched by my family and I didn't dare to relax.

Dad is a very serious person. He has laughed almost a few times in his life, but he is very kind and treats every student well. Even though he is retired now, students still come to visit during the holidays. There are so many intellectuals in our family, which is inseparable from the contribution of my grandfather. He served as a soldier in the last century and was also a platoon leader, so the family has the conditions for several children to study.

Since junior high school, I have participated in many dance competitions in Wusu City , and I have won prizes every time. When my father saw the certificates, he rarely smiled, but he smiled and never showed it in front of our children. Too much for his joy.

Later, when he entered high school, dance was basically in a state of neglect and he only practiced two or three times a week, because in the eyes of his father, learning knowledge is the most important thing in life, because knowledge can change destiny.

I did not disappoint my father. After graduating from high school, I was admitted to a dance school in Shanghai. I studied here for four years and saw the prosperity and charm of big cities. I did not choose to return to Xinjiang, but stayed in Work in Shanghai.

My first job was as a dance teacher. I had to take 60 classes every month. Although it was not very tiring, it required a lot of concentration. The next year, I met my husband, Mathur, who was studying for a PhD at Fudan University at the time. He was a knowledgeable and cultivated man. In India, there is a caste system, and Mathur has a higher surname, which is why he can enjoy a good education.

Mathur is very tall, nearly 1.9 meters tall, and his love for Chinese culture far exceeds his love for Indian culture. This is why we can have a common topic. We were just friends at the beginning, but I was always reluctant to agree to his pursuit because there are many customs in India that I cannot accept.

Later, almost a year later, I felt Mathur’s sincerity and I agreed to him.

The premise of agreeing to Mathur is that he can only marry me one wife, and she is not allowed to betray her for the rest of her life. Mathur agreed, and I believe he can do it.

We dated for almost 8 months and we chose to get married. However, Mathur hoped to return to India to get married. At that time, my father could not accept this foreign son-in-law, let alone allow me to come to India. But the power of love is great, and finally convinced my father to come to India.

When I first arrived in Mathur’s family, it was difficult to integrate into them. There were more than 20 people in their family, and everyone had their own things to do. My mother-in-law was a very virtuous woman, but she didn’t know a single word and was illiterate. , our communication relied entirely on Mathur’s translation, but he was very kind to me.

India also requires betrothal gifts. My father-in-law and mother-in-law were very generous and bought me a lot of gold jewelry. This is also a must-have etiquette for wealthy families with high-class surnames in India. I feel that Indians are very respectable. When I got married, my parents did not come to attend. , only my best friend traveled thousands of miles to come to India to bless me on the spot.

In the second year after marriage, we had our first child, a boy. My father-in-law was very happy and gave me a car as a reward. In India, it is difficult for women to work, even if they have a high-ranking surname, basically They are all doing full-time home blessings at home. Fortunately for me, although I don’t work, I don’t have to do housework at home and I don’t live according to the traditional Indian customs.

My husband and his family all respect me, but one thing happened that I couldn’t understand. Every year during traditional festivals, many Indians would go to the Ganges to bathe, and drink Ganges water while bathing. I’ve seen Once, my stomach suddenly turned upside down and I felt like vomiting.

It is unimaginable that this kind of thing would happen to a good family with a high-class surname in India. Mathur explained that this is the tradition of their country and there is nothing unusual about it, but I cannot accept it. Later, I gave birth to my second child, a daughter. I would not accompany my father-in-law and his family to bathe in the Ganges. Instead, I would take care of the child at home. This also gave rise to my plan to return to China.

Tell me clearly what’s on your mind, Mathur. Mathur respects my wishes and agrees to return to Shanghai with me. After all, Mathur also likes Chinese culture. If his father hadn’t let him go, he would have come here long ago. China is working. We had just planned to return to China, but we did not expect the epidemic to hit, which also caused us to postpone our return plan for several years.

Regarding Indian culture, Mathur has been to many countries and knows some bad habits in India. In addition, Indians are good-looking, so even though Mathur is aware of it in his heart, he dare not speak out because he feels that there is something wrong with it. It was against traditional culture and would be scolded by his father-in-law, so he also wanted to leave India.

Although my father-in-law was very opposed, as a Chinese, he had no choice but to agree to let us return to Shanghai when the epidemic was over, and also gave me 4 million rupees, which is about more than 300,000 yuan. Sometimes I feel that my father-in-law is not so stubborn. After all, he is from the older generation. Some customs are developed since childhood and cannot be corrected overnight.

But these uncorrected customs are unacceptable to me.

hopes that the epidemic will end soon, hope that not too many people will be tortured by the epidemic, and hope that they can return to the embrace of the motherland as soon as possible.