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Some people don’t think she is very old, but they are pretty accurate at judging people.
may be due to intuition or accumulation of personal life experience. Some people can vaguely feel that their character is not good when they see some behaviors of others.
But My daughter-in-law thinks that her sister-in-law has a bad character, so it is not convenient for her to speak out. can easily cause trouble.
Aunt Wang’s (pseudonym) daughter-in-law is very good at judging people, and she was immediately implicated in serious problems.
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Aunt Wang has a son and a daughter. The son is 31 years old and the daughter is 27 years old.
My son is already married, and my daughter-in-law Xinxin has given birth to a boy who is already 5 years old. The couple's living conditions are quite good. The husband has a better job and earns over 10,000 yuan a month. The wife takes care of the children and the elderly at home.
Although this daughter-in-law looks like a housewife taking care of her children at home, before resigning, Xinxin was the head of the human resources department in the company.
Xinxin has a very powerful intuition. After a very brief contact or seeing one or two small things, she can judge a person's general character and quality. This advantage helped her avoid many bad friends, which was very beneficial to her life. The previous company boss of
was Xinxin’s old classmate. All acquaintances knew that Xinxin had this “special power” and was good at judging people, so she was specifically asked to be the head of the human resources department. While working at Xinxin,
"filtered out" many employees who were cheating and cheating.
Once, a supervisor did not believe in evil and refused to fire one of his team members. As a result, not long after, the team member was dissatisfied with the arrangement of the small management and stole information and ran away. Since then, everyone in has believed in Xinxin’s ability to read people.
Now Xinxin has resigned and is at home, but her "skill" is still the same as before. She can tell at a glance that there is something wrong with her sister-in-law's character.
My sister-in-law is 27 years old and not yet married. Her seven-year relationship with her boyfriend has not yet ended, but they are already living together.
She did not do well in school, so her education was not high. The job she found after graduation only paid more than 3,000 per month. This situation has continued for so many years, and she has not been promoted or raised at all.
If my sister-in-law lives a more frugal life, she can save money. She always says that she has saved money, but she is short of money and always asks her mother for money.
It is a bit outrageous for someone at such an old age to ask his mother for money. But the reason my sister-in-law found was "sufficient".
She said: "My boyfriend and I planned to get married, but neither of us had much money, so we decided to buy furniture and appliances first, and get the certificate after the house was tidied up." The small house she and her boyfriend live in was bought by the husband's parents.
So the mother-in-law gave her daughter a monthly subsidy of 3,000 yuan to clean up her new home.
Xinxin’s mother-in-law’s monthly pension was only 3,000 yuan, and she gave every penny to her daughter. The living expenses for several months were spent on her savings. But the mother-in-law was also helpless. After all, it was her biological daughter who wanted money.
When Xinxin saw this, she often bought fresh vegetables for her mother-in-law to save her some living expenses.
As time went by, Xinxin saw her sister-in-law asking for money twice, and she felt something was getting more and more wrong.
Xinxin found an opportunity to talk to her mother-in-law about this matter. She said: "Mother-in-law, don't blame me for talking too much. I don't have any objections to my sister-in-law. I mainly think about your life in your later years..."
Mother-in-law asked: "What's wrong with my daughter? Isn't she just cleaning up her new home? Doing What's the big deal if my mother gives me some money?"
Xinxin said: "Most of us who need help from our family will feel grateful and be polite, or we will stay and help, otherwise we will feel bad. Even if she is a biological daughter, she still has to keep her home, right? Look at your daughter, when has she ever been able to say a few thoughtful words after receiving money? "
The mother-in-law thought about it, and her daughter's attitude was indeed wrong. Every time she took the money and left, saying she was in an emergency, what emergency could she have?
My daughter’s job is very ordinary, and the salary is not high. She gets off work on time every day, and there is little room for development or opportunities to work overtime.Moreover, she and her boyfriend are homebodies, have no money, and don’t know how to go out to play. What could happen to her and why she doesn’t want to spend time with her mother?
Xinxin added: "I don't worry about anything else, but seeing how she takes money so confidently, I'm just worried about what excuses she will find to keep asking you for money. Then you won't be able to save for retirement. Money."
After hearing this, the mother-in-law realized that her daughter would probably keep eating her until she grew old!
Xinxin said: "We as husband and wife earn a lot, so it is no problem to provide for you in old age. Even if you have no money, I don't think it is a problem. We will take care of you. But, is afraid that my sister-in-law will be too much." Greedy, what if she relies on her brother again?"
The mother-in-law felt that her daughter-in-law's words were reasonable, and she also noticed that something was wrong with her daughter.
The mother-in-law asked: "Then I think, why not test her attitude? I will give you one thousand less next month. If she treats me sincerely, she won't have any ideas just because of this thousand yuan, right?"
xin Xin said: "It's okay, it's a way, you can try it."
A month later, the mother-in-law had not given her daughter any money, and her daughter came to ask for it in person, looking very impatient, like asking for debt Urging mother to give money.
The old lady hesitated and said: "Daughter, let me discuss something with you. My monthly pension is only 3,000. Now I have given it to you. I have to spend my savings... My daughter, you give me a monthly pension Is it okay to leave 1,000 yuan for food?"
The daughter was angry when she heard this, and asked her mother loudly: "Why? My brother earns so much every month, how much can I earn in a month? We are planning to have a baby, what should we do if we don’t have money to raise a baby? I don’t care, you have to give me your monthly pension, I didn’t even ask you for a deposit, you are not even willing to give me this little money!”
The daughter insisted that her mother was a partial brother and forced her mother to give her all the money.
The old lady couldn't help but shed tears as she listened to her daughter yelling and swearing, which became increasingly ugly.
She said: "My daughter-in-law's words really came true. This girl is just a white-eyed wolf!"
She figured it out and never gave her daughter a penny again. As a result, her daughter insisted on severing relations with her and regretted it. She gave her money and scolded her brother and sister-in-law for instigating the relationship between mother and daughter, making her family's affairs known to everyone.
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Some smart people will also do "confused things".
The relationship between sisters-in-law is quite sensitive. Sometimes there is a layer of relationship between some things and oneself, so it is inconvenient to point out, otherwise it will implicate oneself.
Even if it may threaten the interests of your own small family, it is best to let your husband do and say it. Blood relationship is the best "shield" and is more convincing than the truth.
1: As a daughter-in-law, you should stay away from your aunt and mother-in-law’s affairs.
The identity of a daughter-in-law is very delicate. Although everyone says that they are a family once they enter the house, many people are influenced by traditional concepts and always think that daughter-in-law and son-in-law are like this. Identity is "outsider".
So from the perspective of her status as an aunt, her sister-in-law and younger siblings are not worthy of being on an equal footing with her.
If an aunt wants to compete with her brothers for family property, and the sister-in-law or younger siblings express their opinions, it is most likely to make the aunt angry and intensify the conflict. It can even intensify the conflict to a higher level and make the quarrel irreconcilable. For example,
becomes a quarrel and feud between several families, and then people will stick together and attack each other.
Especially those families with many brothers and sisters, the relationship between uncles, sisters-in-law and sisters-in-law is very complicated, and the daughter-in-law has to be careful not to overstep her own identity. If gives random suggestions and involves the interests of others, something will happen.
2: When combining with a family with multiple children, you must know your position
Although people say that marriage is the union of two families, after all, everyone will have their own small family, and the relationship between each other will not be too close.
Every family has a difficult scripture to recite. Everyone is busy with their own affairs and cares more about the interests of their own small family.
Therefore, among families with multiple children, there will be some interests involved or "checks and balances."
When marrying someone from this kind of family, you must position yourself correctly in the entire big family. Take good care of your own small family and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. If you don't understand something, you can ask your partner more and don't express your opinions at will.
After all, other people's affairs may be more complicated, and may involve grievances from more than ten or decades ago.
Therefore, as a new family member, it is best not to involve yourself in these grievances, so as not to be thankless and complain.
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