"You know? There is no passion between us anymore." I was surprised when I heard my friend say this. In my impression, their relationship has always been good, and they will be seen in the army of love displays in Moments on every festival. But from my friends’ narrations, I can

"You know? There is no passion between us anymore." I was surprised when I heard my friend say this. In my impression, their relationship has always been good, and they will be seen in the army of love displays in Moments on every festival. But from my friends’ narrations, I can understand the situation they encountered at this moment. "It seems that after falling in love, life suddenly becomes dull. Apart from eating and watching movies, there is nothing to do." Love is like a Möbius strip. We are all like an ant on the Möbius strip, and we can never escape. The arrival of the dull period. When you are young, you will feel that the dull period is a very scary thing. But actually, that's not the case. Because "plain" never means "separate". In reality, there is still a lot of desirable love. They are still together well after the dull period and have a sustainable relationship. To this end, we interviewed four couples to see what special secrets they used

to "preserve" their love.

1

@Xuxu: Do you know " Love Blind Box "

My boyfriend and I have been together for the fourth year. It can be said that it has been dull from the beginning of the year to the end of the year. We are both workaholics, and it is common to work overtime until late at night. The only comfort we have is lying in bed and scrolling through our mobile phones. Going out on a date over the weekend? Those who don't exist are basically lying dead at home. One time my boyfriend couldn't help but tease me: "We look like an elderly couple." I smiled and replied, "Every relationship ends like this, isn't it?" Having said that, when I thought about this paragraph before going to bed, I felt like I can't help but sigh: Why is love so dull when we are young and beautiful?

Until that time, after I won the hidden money in the blind box, my boyfriend casually said, "I have never seen you so happy when we were dating." I was stunned. Yes, why can a small blind box make people so happy? Is it because the unknown is so fascinating? So can we also refer to this similar method to rediscover passion in love? After that, I designed a love blind box game exclusive to us. Find some white paper, cut out a dozen strips of paper, and then write down your wishes and things you want to do together. Agree that each person will draw once a week to implement the plan on the note. Just like a blind box, you never know what the surprise will be before you open it. There are no restrictions on the content, from dinner menus, date methods and even DOI methods: "Today I am watching "Love Actually" at home!" "This is for you The LEGO I have always wanted, happy weekend..." "Go buy a new pair of couple cups"

It is undeniable that when there is more unknown and randomness in love, each other's hormones will be secreted quickly, and it will feel like having a partner. Fresh lovers. So, since there is no way to prevent the arrival of dullness, we might as well make loving each other more interesting.

2

@云生: "Listen to together" is not just about songs. I have been dating my current girlfriend for 2 years, and 3/4 of the time was spent in different places. Like most people, I was initially apprehensive about a long-distance relationship. The days when I can't see each other seem to be no different from being single. Invisible and intangible text connections on the Internet make it difficult for people to truly enjoy love. One day I was riding home from get off work, with the song "Sunset Speed" playing in my headphones, and I looked at the sunset outside the car that was dyed crimson.

I really want to share my joy and relaxation with her at this moment, but I feel that sharing through words is too barren. Later, I didn’t know what I clicked on, and I found that my avatar and another person’s avatar appeared in the same interface, and the song playing in the headphones was not from my playlist. I was a little surprised and a little curious. After searching online, I found out that this is a function of NetEase Cloud-listen together.

After that, I seemed to have discovered a new world, and "listening together" became a little secret for me and my girlfriend to maintain our relationship.It's a bit like the feeling of "I share half of my headphones with you" when you were a student. Although you are not physically close together, as long as you put on the headphones and listen to the same song, the other person seems to be right next to you. I also created a shared playlist for us. The name is her nickname:

"Little Xinxin". This playlist has grown from a few songs at the beginning to hundreds of songs now. Not only can we understand each other's current emotions from the songs they are listening to, but sometimes some interesting things will happen: "So when you confessed to me, you copied my jinji's lyrics, only you can conquer my time." " This is called plagiarism, this is called reasonable application, Sunset Speedy yyds hahahaha. "2160.6 kilometers apart, we listened to music together for 300 hours, 3 minutes and 3 seconds. The same frequency and shared time made each other exist every minute.

3

@Hanner: When you fall in love, you need to blow more rainbow farts. My boyfriend and I don’t seem to have any so-called dull periods, because he is really good at it. He always gives me all kinds of compliments and always thinks that I am the prettiest and cutest person in the world. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing to do with the word "beauty". Ever since I was a child, the highest evaluations I have received in terms of appearance have been "gentle" and "attractive". But as a girl, who doesn’t want to look better? For so many years, even my best friend didn’t know that I actually suffered from deep appearance anxiety. I almost never post selfies in Moments, and even if I post them, I will hide them quickly. Maybe essentially, I still don’t have confidence in myself. But such an ordinary me seems to have turned into a sparkling existence in my boyfriend's mouth: "Bao, how can your cooking be so delicious?" "Bao, you look good dressed like this. Today His style is different from usual." "Baby, don't look at Douyin , you are in good shape now."

Even if he is occasionally in a bad mood or has a quarrel, he can always do something bad. The magic of return to the world. "Don't talk to me, I'm angry." "Okay, beauty." Look, can we still get into a fight? Friends all said that after getting together with my current boyfriend, I have opened up a lot more than before, and I am visibly more confident and confident. Girls are always cuter with compliments, but don’t forget that boys also need praise and encouragement. I have now learned to be more of a customer, and I always brag about him, which makes him feel embarrassed. Falling in love is about discovering each other’s shining points in life.

4

@Anxi: PPT can also be used for emotional review

My boyfriend is a straight man with a science background, and he often doesn’t understand amorous feelings. In this relationship, I often felt like I was being punched in cotton wool. For example, every time we had a fight, I would deliberately delay replying to his message. But he never noticed that I was angry. Sometimes when I look at his advantages, I comfort myself: no one is perfect, and if he is not romantic, then he is not romantic. But a while ago, because of the urgent project cycle, he missed our second anniversary with me, and the grievances that had been accumulated for a long time completely exploded at that time. Everyone understands the truth, but if emotions are ignored for a long time, they will get tired.

I went home very late that night. When I entered the door, I found that the house was dark, with only the projector on. I was a little stunned at the door. I looked at the curtain and saw the PPT cover page reflected on the big screen: Huang X's apology report. Then the slides played slowly one by one. The slide is not only an apology for this incident, but also a review of past quarrels and future relationship plans. The last page reads: Mr. Huang solemnly apologizes to Ms. Zhang and will never make such a heavyweight mistake again. When the PPT was finished, he walked up to me, holding an anniversary gift that he had already prepared, and sincerely apologized, "I'm stupid, so I made the PPT. Can you forgive me?" Looking at his clumsiness, most of his anger disappeared. .Later, I asked him how he came up with the idea of ​​using PPT to apologize? He said that when I was chasing ", love is delicious, ", I commented that this method was very solemn. If I were the person involved, I would definitely forgive it.

would be lying if he said he was not impressed. After the effective effect of the apology PPT, this elm-headed person seemed to suddenly have an enlightenment, and started to use PPT to review emotions every time he quarreled. We will also conduct a point of view battle on his PPT content. The relationship has gotten better, perhaps because we have found a way to get along that makes each other comfortable.

Finally

In the above stories, what can be seen is:

——Love is activated again.

It is not that every relationship cannot escape the endless cycle of dull periods and quarrels, but they often need to "recharge" their love and inject a little fresh oxygen. The above tips may not be suitable for everyone. After all, relationships still require you to slowly accumulate experience and summarize a methodology that suits each other. As the saying goes: Real love is not that it never has cracks, but that it is full of cracks but never collapses. Remember to find your own love pass code.

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