Let me tell you the unpleasant truth. In love, regardless of men or women, as long as they are over the age of 26, those boys who dare to take the initiative must have the capital to settle down and live.
For example, if there is a boy next to you who has an average family background, average appearance, and average income, and there happens to be a pretty good girl next to him, then you will definitely say to this boy: Why don't you take the initiative to pursue it? If you are brave, Won’t love just come?
But the fact is, you think too simply. Boys at this stage must be rushing to get married once they fall in love. And once he takes the initiative, do you know what problems they will face?
A house, betrothal gifts, and a stable career are all the basic conditions he needs to prepare for marriage. Otherwise, what else can he do to convince your parents to marry you?
So when they reach a certain age, it’s not that boys are unwilling to take the initiative, but that they have to have the capital to take the initiative.
Secondly, with the rise of the Internet, boys have already seen through the views on love conveyed on major networks. They know that when they have no house, no car, and no savings, it is useless even if they like a girl again. Because people may not necessarily be willing to be with you, and even if they are together, they may not be able to marry you home.
Therefore, in the current environment, all career-minded boys will recognize their current disadvantages. Before their personal value does not match their own vision, making money is their primary goal. Of course, making money will not Divided into men and women.
In addition, there are some boys around me who are willing to be Buddhists and be salty fish. As for these boys, they also underestimate their own disadvantages and think that if they can meet the right person, they will be together. If they can't, they will be alone. Never take the initiative in life and never be a licker.
Sometimes you may also say to the people around you: Not everyone is realistic, you go try it, what if the girl doesn't mind this, what if she likes you as a person?
But what were their thoughts? What they think is: Why should I take the initiative to pursue it? What if I fail?
So to be honest, for many boys nowadays, love is really not a necessity. House, career, and social status are the real capital. If you don’t have these, you will definitely not be able to compete with others. But if you have them, you will not be able to compete with others. , why worry about not having a wife?
Society is such a reality. The so-called love, wealth, freedom, and respect are just accessories after realizing one's own personal value, and love obtained by gambling and kneeling will only die in the end.
Because many boys, after being severely beaten by the marriage and love market, gradually discovered the unspoken rules: instead of rushing to get out of singles, it is better to first understand why others love someone other than themselves, solve this main contradiction, and naturally meet true love. .
As a boy, let me tell you the truth. Today’s boys are all human and ghost spirits. They have long wisely realized that all the time and money I spend actively pursuing girls are used to improve myself. Value, because the rewards and benefits after this are often much higher than the cost-effectiveness of falling in love.
Some girls may still have the traditional pursuit model and think that in love, boys should take most of the active responsibilities, be careful, take care of girls' emotional changes, and work hard through actions, and then in the end Only then can you be with yourself.
But in this era, this method obviously does not work. You must know that the competition pressure is so great now. What is before marriage is the satisfaction of various material needs. At the same time, under the epidemic, the elimination of the workplace is very cruel. So boys really don’t have that much energy and financial resources to focus on falling in love.
Their key task is to build themselves up and prevent themselves from being eliminated in various competitions.
Of course, I also know that many girls have age anxiety. In fact, boys also have age anxiety, but what’s the use? Age is certainly a big issue, but what makes them more anxious is "money".
Because they know that in today's society, a relationship that simply "powers through love" is unrealistic, so it is better to work hard while you are young and wait until you have some capital to find a wife who is well matched and evenly matched, isn't it? Better?
Psychological Test: Test what your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you quarrel over small things when you are together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
I seldom argue over small things —2
Occasionally, but I can reconcile quickly —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes self-reflection and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
No —4
3. Will he take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
often say—5
seldom say—4
4. Will you tell your parents about the process of your love?
Does everything in detail and often complains to my parents -6
Occasionally, they will talk about it when they ask -5
Almost never talk, there is nothing to say -5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to spend to get it?
Everything is left to chance, what is mine will eventually be mine —7
If you work hard, maybe you can succeed —6
Try your best, I will get everything I want — B
6. Did you break up because of the appearance of a third party?
Yes - A
No - 7
7. Has the other party taken the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes — D
No — C
