When I was in middle school, there was a text about Wife Xianglin. This character comes from Mr. Lu Xun's short "Blessing". Fleeing to work in Luzhen still cannot escape the fate of being sold by her mother-in-law.郎 The husband was exhausted to pay off his debts, and his son was eaten by a wolf. It can be said that Mrs. Xianglin suffered the most painful injury in her life. After experiencing these things, Mrs. Xianglin became mentally ill, and she told people about her tragic fate.
At the beginning, people would sympathize with Xianglin's wife, and some aunts and aunts would shed a few tears. But after crying day after day, people began to tire of Sister Xianglin, and finally Sister Xianglin came to an end. Mr. Lu Xun described the tragedy of Xianglin's wife. One was the influence of feudal thought, and the second was the coldness and ruthlessness of most people in society at that time. Mr. Lu Xun wanted to use these stories to awaken the sleeping people in the iron house.
I sympathize with the tragic experience of "Xianglin's wife", but I have no sympathy for Xianglin's wife. I hate the "Xianglin's wife" in real life. Such people, especially in the workplace.
There is a kind of people who can't hide a single thing in their minds, no matter who is good or bad, no matter who they are talking to, they are naturally familiar with themselves. Just like "obsessive-compulsive disorder patients", tell your own story to others: "What happened to me, how miserable I am, what should I do, what should I do?"
Some Talk to friends and colleagues about the harmless things, and forget it. Please note that the focus of what I said is "innocuousness". If it is related to privacy or may become a laughing stock, please take care of your mouth and rot in your stomach! In the workplace, no one cares about your joys, sorrows, sorrows, and joys. It may be cruel to say it, but it is true.
Now the pace of life is getting faster and faster, and the competition is getting fiercer. Who cares about you?
Especially when you are like "Xianglin's Wife", telling over and over again, do you think the other party is your parents? Your statement will not be of any benefit to solving the problem. Instead, it will become a laughing stock, endure the indifference of others , and may even become a handle in the hands of others.
Appropriate confession and innocuous voicing can narrow the relationship between colleagues , but frequent confession and non-bottom-line voicing will arouse the boredom of others.
我们人生中会 Encountered all kinds of unsuccessful things, such as being broken in love, being scolded by the leader, losing your wallet, unfair treatment... Maybe you can’t let go of it in a short time, you have been entangled in your heart, but please Take care of your mouth and don't talk nonsense.
Don’t evaluate the quality of others, because they don’t affect your meal;
Don’t evaluate the virtues of others, because you are not necessarily higher than him;
Don’t evaluate other people’s family, because it has nothing to do with you;
Don’t evaluate other people’s knowledge, because the most indispensable thing in the world is knowledge;
Don’t evaluate anyone, even yours People who look down on;
Don’t be arrogant, because tomorrow you may lose your power.
Being a human being, don't explain meaninglessly, this is the choice of the wise. It is inevitable that we will be misunderstood by colleagues and managers. It is normal to have thoughts that we want to explain. , but the explanation is often pale, and it may even become darker and darker, which will achieve the opposite effect.
The mountain does not explain its own height, and does not affect its standing up to the clouds;
The sea does not explain its own depth, and does not affect it to accommodate hundreds of rivers;
The ground does not explain its thickness, but No one can replace her as the carrier of everything.
