We all know that language is very important in interpersonal communication. Everyone pays special attention to their own words and deeds, but we ignore the body language, but this is where we can see a person's true intentions.
First introduce the law of 73855, which was proposed by the professor of psychology Albert Melabin. When he analyzed the importance of verbal and non-verbal information, he came to the following conclusion:
People vs. a person Of your impressions, only 7% are from what you say, 38% are from your tone of voice when you speak, and 55% are from your appearance and body language.
That is to say, when people communicate, 55% of the information is visually conveyed through , such as your look, appearance, gestures, dress, etc. 38% is conveyed by voice, that is to say the tone, tone, and speed of the words. Another 7% is communicated through what is said.
Therefore, when we communicate with others, we must pay attention to not only improving language skills, but also improving our own control over voice and body language.
Voice
Some people speak very quietly, and others cannot hear what they are saying. Some people have loud voices, wishing everyone would notice him. Some people speak fast, like a machine gun, others can't keep up. Some people speak too slowly, making people anxious. Some people say that there is always a sense of superiority in their discourse and they look down upon others. Some people say that their voice seems to please others, and they don't have their own opinions.
It can be seen that the size of the voice, the tone, the speed of speaking, etc. all affect our expression.
So what kind of voice makes people feel friendly?
Deep voices are more powerful and believable. Not every one of us has a magnetic voice, but we can make our voice deeper through practice.
Speak at a suitable volume. The light and fluttering sound makes it difficult to create a sense of trust, and the loud and loud sound makes people feel aggressive.
Be gentle,Sincere, not cold.
The speaking rhythm should be appropriate, pay attention to the intonation, and pause.
Sitting and standing posture
When people are relaxed, they are often open and strong, but when they are tense, they are weak and unconfident.
If you want to be more confident, you can do this:
Sit and stand upright, stand upright, keep your head straight and don’t hunch back. Don't just sit on the chair a little, it's conscientious.
Your arms should hang down naturally and relax. Don't cross your arms in front of your chest. This is a posture of refusal.
Do not cross your legs when standing, just stand naturally, and don't sway back and forth while standing.
Open your body when sitting, but don’t encroach on other people’s space. Putting your hands outside the chair handles is not appropriate.
Eyes
We all say that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and the eyes can speak.
When you speak, look into the eyes of others, look up at the other person, and convey that you are listening carefully, indicating that you are paying attention and you are interested.
Don't let your hair cover your eyes.
Don't hesitate and evade your eyes, avoid shiningly, and look very unconfident.
Gesture
Most people like to use gestures when speaking to deepen the audience’s attention. Some people use them very well to add the finishing touch, and some people’s arms are swaying in a way. Feeling erratic, the effect of his speech is greatly reduced.
gestures can convey content, but only by doing so can it be the icing on the cake.
Don't cross your arms. Crossing means self-protection and defense, as well as rejection and distrust of others.
Don't sway your arms, and swing them vigorously.
Don't make fists with your hands, don't rub your hands, and don't press on Zhuozi and look down on others. This gives people a condescending feeling.
In interpersonal communication, we must maintain the consistency of oral language and body language, so as to give people a sense of sincerity and credibility, which is more conducive to the development of relationships.
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