The Spring Festival is coming. For young people who have been urged to marry, it is not easy to go home, and the feeling of being close to the hometown is even more timid. This is their general mood. Year after year, I can only urge impatience and perfunctory, because who can they say to their heart?
year after year they can’t complete their parents’ tasks. There may be many reasons, but most of these reasons can be changed. Yes, the most difficult thing to change is the pressure of "marriage" that is as heavy as a mountain, and it is difficult to say such pressure. Parents can only hear perfunctory words, all of which may be completely unknown.
At that time, the concept and environment of "marriage" of the two generations were different. Let’s compare the changes in the "marriage" of the two generations from the perspective of my common people:
(1). marriage has gone through the threshold in the past, and now it has climbed the mountain
I have a lot of "marriage" in the past. I am deeply impressed that there are four brothers in my family, and they are within a few years of age. Once they enter the marriage age , that is the threshold one after another.
At that time, still in the collective period, life in the countryside was very difficult, food was a problem, and marriage could only be bought by borrowing. I still remember the sadness of my mother at that time. I did the calculations, and finished the previous marriage account, which happened to be the next marriage. Even so, the average family with a few children can complete the task in ten or eight years. But compared to today, the marriage of a child may last most of his life.
I said that the marriage at that time was like crossing the threshold, two years of hard work, and it was just over. The current marriage is like starting a mountain climbing, and it cannot be crossed in one step. So now the pressure of marriage is obvious. Who doesn't desire good things? But when this kind of hope is difficult to realize, they may choose to escape. This may be the mentality of many young people.
(2). If 's previous parents are better than Yugong, but now parents are like Yugong
's previous marriage,After crossing over, the parents, like the fishermen, can play and catch fish, dry the nets, and take a rest. And now parents, like Yugong , have to dig mountains every day. Parents have no regrets or regrets for the sake of their children. But all this is sad in the heart of the child.
In the heart of a child, the parents who don’t want to see the foolish formula most, want to see their parents’ happy life like a fisherman, so when facing the mountain of marriage, they have no choice but to choose escape.
In view of the current situation, let me talk about my personal thoughts on this break:
(1). Choose the place where the cost-to-value ratio is the lowest for your first job and career. The urban dreams of the past few years are now slowly changing. With the rapid development of my country's transportation, logistics, Internet, and self-media, people's career outlook and values have also begun to change. The city is no longer the only destination for young students' career choices. On the contrary, in the idle villages, unique resources have more opportunities. Look at the Internet celebrities who have succeeded in starting their businesses in the past few years. Are they all in the countryside?
You must have a realistic evaluation of your own strengths and core competitiveness, and compare it with the cost of living to see where it is suitable for development. Blindly chasing the city dream can only be scarred.
(2). Make ordinary work its own color. As the saying goes, three hundred and sixty lines are the best. Look at the halls of honor over the years. There are security guards who walked into the classroom of Peking University, as well as masons and welders who won the championship at the World Skills Conference. No matter how ordinary work, as long as you focus on it, your achievements will be wonderful. With the plane tree, the golden phoenix will be recruited.
(3). Put your home in a happy place. If life is heavy as a mountain, there is no happiness at all. We must do what we can and put our home in a place where life is easy, so that home is the harbor of love and the paradise of happiness.
(4). Don't force the wind or compare, my life is my master. Life is a solid life, not for the performance of others. Even if the applause is received at this moment, the applause will soon disappear. For a moment of vanity, it may take a long time to pay. The car chasing the good one, the house chasing the big one,The wedding is luxurious, does all this matter? When the banquet dissipates, all this is quickly forgotten. If you want to continue to receive applause, it should be the height of life.
These immature opinions are just my personal thinking, and they are enough to serve as an inspiration.
