Is Twilight Love really reliable? How to protect property before marriage?

Narrator: Aunt Zhang (pseudonym)

Age: 52 years old

Occupation: Retired

2 years old, my mother is two years old and retired this year The monthly retirement salary is 4,000 yuan. My wife died of illness when my son was over five years old. After that, I lived a life of being a father and a mother, not to mention how hard it was. Fortunately, my son worked hard to pass the entrance to a 985 university in the south.

My son went to university and I retired. Everything came together. Suddenly, I became an old man living alone. After a leisurely day, I felt very lonely. Fortunately, my son is very sensible. He often said to me: "Mom, it is not easy for you to raise me by yourself. You have worked hard for a lifetime. Now I have grown up, you can find someone who is suitable!"

Whenever I hear my son say this, I am always moved. Indeed, over the years, my life has been really hard. It's not that I haven't thought about starting a new family, but as long as I think that my newly formed family may bring grievances to my son, I hold back all of it. No matter how hard it is, I want to give my son a warm home and a complete love. Now, since my son supports me to start a new family, I am willing to give it a try.

The relatives and friends around me introduced several objects to me, but either I look down on others, or others worry that I am a burden. I need to do pre-marital property notarization, or something, so I didn’t succeed in the end. Later, when we were still dancing the square dance together, I met Lao Li. After a few conversations between the two, we learned that we were in the same community.I'm familiar with each other when I come and go.

Later I learned that Lao Li is 5 years older than me and is a retired worker, but his retirement salary is not as high as mine. Lao Li's wife died 5 years ago. His only son went to work in the South because he was not very good at school. Now he is the only one living alone.

Because we live in the same community, we often meet to go out, buy groceries together, dance square dances together, etc. After all these years, there is finally a person who knows the cold and heat by my side. They all became radiant.

We have been dating like this for a while, and no one has pierced the layer of paper. About three months later, Lao Li suddenly asked me to watch a movie. Although I was a little embarrassed, I was still looking forward to it. , So I agreed and went to see it with him. After watching the movie, he bought me another bouquet of roses. What surprised me more was that he actually took out a ring from his arms and asked me to marry him.

I did not agree to him at the time, nor did I refuse it, because I think that although it is a matter for the two of us, we still have to get the consent of the children anyway. Later, we specifically asked the children to take the time to come back. We had a meal together. Seeing that both children supported us together, we got the certificate the next day.

After marriage, Lao Li handed me the salary card and said that it was at my disposal. It’s been only a month since we got the certificate. Last night, when I was going to bed after taking a shower, Lao Li suddenly pulled me to the balcony. I thought he was going to surprise me like a young student, but unexpectedly he laughed. After a few sounds, pointing to the distant building and telling me: Either sell your house and buy a big one again, or vacate your house first.

I was blinded all at once,Ask him what this means? He said: Now that we are married, it is enough to live in my house. My son has talked about a girlfriend now, and his girlfriend asked him to have a house, but I can’t spend so much money to buy a house for him, so I’ll either sell yours and we’ll change to a larger one. Or just vacate it for my son to get married first.

I certainly don't want to: That is all my hard work in this life, and part of it is left by my ex-husband to my son. How can I sell it? Otherwise, vacate your house for your son to get married, let's go live in my house!

Unexpectedly, Lao Li turned his face and refused to recognize him, saying that I did not regard him as a family or his son as my own. He moved to the study that night and went to bed. I didn't let go of how I coaxed him. He also said that if I really love him, I should share the joys and sorrows with him. The story is over, but the problem has arisen. It is a big question of how to protect the property before Twilight Love.

My opinion:

Middle-aged and elderly remarriage generally have some property and money. After the combination, the two people’s property and money are a very sensitive and realistic treatment. Many middle-aged and elderly people fell in love when they fell in love again because of poor discussions on this specific issue. Especially for the middle-aged and elderly people in rural areas, the handling of these problems is more sensitive and prominent. How to solve this problem? You can think about it from the following aspects.

First, society must understand and care about the elderly. After the middle-aged and the elderly are widowed, if they can join hands and form a happy family, it is a great thing that will help reduce social burdens and reduce social problems, and should be supported.

Next, we must do our children’s work well.Children should be considerate and understand the elderly. You know, no matter how filial to the children, it is not as good as a partner's care.

Finally, in terms of property, if the children of both parties do not intervene in their thoughts, and the two are in agreement, there is no harm in using them together. Otherwise, the current pre-marital property registration procedures can be adopted to achieve clear ownership and common use.