My husband came home from a business trip for three months and found a pair of men’s shoes at the door, turning his face on the spot

There needs to be trust and sincerity between husband and wife, otherwise, even the best marriage will become shaky because of suspicion.

mentioned in the book " Marriage Psychology": After marriage, women can put aside some restraints, don't always be a passive party in communication, practice more use of coquetry, praise, humor, and happily requesting And other positive communication methods; reduce complaints, nagging, emotional complaints, cold war and other negative communication methods.

Real communication is not to rush to emphasize your own reasoning, but to learn to listen to others first. Only when the other party feels that he is understood can you listen to what you say. Your reasoning can be effective and problems can has been solved.

In daily life, both husband and wife will also have misunderstandings and conflicts. Some women who are unreasonable and unforgiving, knowing that they are right, will end up having troubles and break up in the end, but smart women are not, they will be clever Solve the problem properly, even if you are wrong, you will be able to solve the problem satisfactorily.

Of course, if you do it right, you will get things done more satisfactorily.

01. The husband returned home from a business trip for three months and found a pair of men's shoes at the door. He turned his face on the spot.

This is a real case. Because of work, Xiao Liu often travels on business and leaves his beautiful wife alone at home.

Because the parents are not around, there is only the wife at home, which makes Xiao Liu very worried.

On his business trips, he sends video chats to his wife almost every day. One is to keep his wife from being lonely, and the other is to observe the situation at home.

His wife is also more sensible. She keeps the house clean, and video chats with him on time every night, so that he can travel and work at ease.

Xiao Liu was very satisfied with his wife's performance. After three months, he wanted to give his wife a surprise, but he did not tell his wife when he would be back.

When he got home, he found a pair of men's leather shoes at the door, and he was going crazy.

He immediately opened the door,His wife was sleeping in the bedroom, everything was as usual. He checked each room and found nothing unusual.

But he still had doubts in his heart. He woke his wife up, and when the wife woke up seeing her husband standing by her side, she immediately stood up excitedly and gave her a big hug.

But Xiao Liu pushed her away and asked with a cold face, "Did you do something I am sorry?"

The wife was confused and a little confused!

Xiao Liu pointed to the door and said, "What's the matter with those men's leather shoes? Where did the man go?"

His wife said with a sigh of relief: "You! Are they not your leather shoes? Me? A person feels unsafe at home. Put a pair of men’s leather shoes at the door, and I have a bottom!"

When Xiao Liu listened, he was relieved. After thinking about it carefully, aren’t they just his leather shoes?

Knowing that I misunderstood my wife, I quickly apologized, and the two reconciled as before! "

This Xiao Liu’s wife is very smart and very safe. This behavior is actually worth promoting.

If a bad guy comes and finds a man’s leather shoes at the door, he knows that the male owner is at home. Under normal circumstances Don’t dare to fool around.

Through this incident, the wife’s performance is remarkable. When the husband questioned her, she explained calmly instead of being unreasonable. After effective communication, the contradiction was resolved reasonably and let Xiao Liu loves her even more.

This is what a smart woman does.

02. The husband is outside with the female classmates, and the wife goes to grab the bag, and does not give face on the spot, and the scene is out of control.

A real case, Xiao Wang and his classmates reunion, there are male and female classmates, everyone in the private room chats and reminisces about the funny things when they went to school.

Sitting next to Xiao Wang is her at the same table, two People chat very happily and toast each other from time to time.

The atmosphere in the private room is very warm, and the students are very happy.

But at this time,A discordant voice came in, the private room was opened from the outside, and a woman with a broken horse rushed in, grabbed Xiao Wang by the collar, and started cursing.

This woman is Xiao Wang’s wife, she doesn’t want Xiao Wang to attend the class reunion, but Xiao Wang feels that she hasn’t seen her classmates for many years, and it’s okay to get together,

When I quarreled with my wife.

Xiao Wang's wife is more powerful. After Xiao Wang left, she called everywhere to inquire about the meeting place.

After she got the specific location, she drove up immediately, so the previous scene appeared.

In front of his classmates, Xiao Wang feels that he has no face. Normally, he still has a three-point fear of his wife, and he usually ends up being soft.

But today, in front of his classmates, his face can't be hung up anymore. Seeing his wife making troubles so unreasonably, it made him faceless.

The grudge hidden in his heart broke out completely.

This time, he waved his fist for an unprecedented time and beat his wife to fatness. If it weren't for his classmates, the consequences would be disastrous.

Because of this incident, the wife filed for divorce after returning, and he went through the divorce procedures without saying anything.

However, after calming down, Xiao Wang's wife regretted a bit. She was able to do so because she really loved Xiao Wang too much.

But Xiao Wang is unwilling to get back together. He has had enough of her.

This incident caused Xiao Wang's wife to be hit. She cried repeatedly and said that she would no longer doubt Xiao Wang, so Xiao Wang reluctantly agreed to give her a chance.

Finally, under the mediation of their families, the two remarried.

03. Marriage is not a trifle, love needs trust.

Through the above two cases, the communication between Xiao Liu and his wife is fairly smooth. I am not afraid of misunderstandings.As long as there is good communication, it can be solved.

And Xiao Wang's wife is more extreme, making a fuss, and finally divorced. If it weren't for the relationship and the adjustment of the two families, I am afraid this marriage will never go back.

Actually, marriage cigarettes are different from love. It should have a more mature way of getting along with each other. When young couples are in conflict, they will only find it ridiculous.

If you still deal with problems in an immature way after marriage, then as long as one person matures and grows up, you will feel that this marriage is not suitable.

It is very difficult to completely avoid the cold war, but we should still try our best to avoid it, at least not to initiate the cold war actively. When the quarrel is heated up, some techniques can be used to ease the atmosphere.

In the book "Marriage Psychology" it is mentioned that women are perceptual thinking, and men are rational thinking. As a rational animal, men will gradually come to a conclusion in the subconscious-since we can't communicate at all, it is obviously not a good match. And women will simply discuss matters.

Because of the difference between these two kinds of thinking, it often leads to contradictions.

Therefore, whether you are a man or a woman, you must learn how to communicate with your significant other.

04. How to solve the communication problem between husband and wife in marriage?

gives a solution in the book "Marriage Psychology":

First, look for the lost common language.

Second, avoid unnecessary emotional attacks.

Third, accept the wife's "gossip" and understand the husband's "inner drama"

Fourth, after the Cold War, we must find a way to solve the problem as soon as possible.

Fifth, don't talk about unnecessary nonsense.

In marriage, mutual understanding and trust are the cornerstones of marriage. Life after marriage is different from that in love.The plainness of firewood, rice, oil and salt obliterates passion.

At this time, husbands and wives must constantly break in, communicate frequently, and look for the lost common language.

As long as the two people trust each other and communicate well, there will be no problems.

Once you encounter a contradiction, don't let it ferment, let alone carry out unnecessary emotional attacks, because you are a family and you will live a lifetime. The redundant attacks will only increase mutual disgust, and avoid restraint as much as possible.

Women are born to love gossip. Men have things in their hearts. Men and women are different. They must understand and trust each other. Only understanding and tolerance can make marriage go further.

Couples are caught in the Cold War because of their contradictions, and they must find ways to break this situation. The longer the Cold War, the easier the marriage will disintegrate.

Husband and wife need to understand and tolerate. Don't say anything too much, because that is the person who accompanies you through your life, and hurting her will not do you any good.

If you have problems in your marriage, you can refer to the above methods to solve them. If you still can't solve them, I suggest you read the book "Marriage Psychology".

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