Everyone has the potential to achieve great success, and the obstacles that prevent your dreams from coming true are wrong thinking habits and logical analysis skills, and ultimately lose the correct understanding of the people and things in front of you.
So, there is a kind of thinking that is essential for us to live in the world, that is, community thinking.
Community thinking is also circle thinking. The multi-person thinking mode mobilizes collective wisdom and forms a powerful thinking mode.
As a humanized survival law, community thinking is related to human survival and values.
Entering the Internet era, it has become a trend to effectively ignite users and detonate product dissemination.
success does not lie in what you know or do, but in who you know.
So, I think you must know the value of social thinking-the "network of relationships".
Let's calm down and think about it carefully. In our work and life, how many valuable people have been cultivated?
Now, you have to connect an impenetrable and all-encompassing super network, and then mobilize all kinds of relationships for your use, to deal with various problems, to open the current deadlock, and to live in the world with ease.
First, you have to turn strangers into friends. But when you need others to help you, you must also be valuable to others.
Second, find the key person at the critical moment. When it’s critical, on what basis will the people you need help you? Of course, you have to "raise" these people in peacetime so that they are happy to provide you with more valuable human resources.
How to "raise" these people?
1. Understand the real needs of others
One of the most effective ways to win friendships and influence others,It is to take other people's ideas seriously and make him feel that he is very important.
The only way in the world that can influence others is to give them what they want and tell them how to get them.
If you want to persuade others, the best advice should be built in the other person’s mind and stimulate their urgent needs. If you can do this, then the whole world will be in your hands.
If you want others to play basketball with you, don't say: "Every time I play basketball, I don't have enough manpower, and many people have poor skills, which makes me bruised and swollen. I hope you will play basketball with me tomorrow night."
You have to say: "Tomorrow we will go to play basketball together and exercise. You will be stronger, your skills will be better, your boring days will become more interesting. And I will invite everyone to dinner."
The process ofeating is another opportunity to deepen your network of relationships and further expand your network of relationships.
2. It is very important for to remember the name of the other person.
Remember a person's name and blurt it out naturally, showing that you have a subtle compliment and appreciation for him.
Many successful people know one of the easiest, most obvious and most important way to gain a good impression is to remember the other person’s name and make others feel important.
Napoleon 's nephew, French emperor Napoleon III , although the country is very busy, he can remember the names of everyone he met.
When he repeatedly memorized the other party's name, he also connected the person's name with his look, face, and appearance in his mind.
3. Try to make everyone happy
Among the people we meet, regardless of their status or appearance, we should give them the most basic respect and gentle face.
Regardless of whether the person is in front of or behind, we should praise the strengths and personality charm of others.Because of the invisible power of language, it can sometimes destroy an earth or rebuild a universe.
In Russia, Moscow and St. Petersburg, those aristocrats who were once very polite and educated have a habit.
If you are satisfied with the food and find it very delicious, you will surely ask the host to invite the chef to the dining hall and try to praise the chef.
It may be difficult to make everyone happy, but at least don’t let someone “knot” on your network that cannot be solved because of your language barrier.
Then, the individual ideal must be fulfilled in the collective.
How to deal with the relationship between individuals and groups? The smartest way is to look at the two together and realize personal ambitions through groups. This is a kind of wisdom in handling the relationship between individuals and organizations.
For example, geese flies south together, why is it in the shape of "one" for a while and "eight" for a while?
It is scientifically proven that the formation of geese generates aerodynamic forces, which makes the "eight"-shaped geese fly 70% longer than the geese flying alone.
The geese flying in formation can create more labor-saving opportunities for others while flying by themselves, and everyone will fly farther.
In addition, the wild goose's call is full of passion, which can inspire and encourage the companions so that the whole team can continue to maintain the confidence and perseverance to move forward.
In a team, Dayan can not only gain a sense of belonging, but also be full of vigor and vitality.
When a wild goose leaves the team, it will immediately feel the hardship of flying alone, so it quickly returns to the team and uses the buoyancy caused by the previous wild goose to fly forward.
When the lead goose gets tired, it will retreat to the flank of the team, and the other one will take its place and continue to lead the flight.
like this,Dayan gains a new life in the collective and finds its own value in collaboration.
Everyone’s wisdom is limited. We have to use the power of others instead of blindly revealing our talents.
This requires us to share internal information with the people around us, and build a close relationship with our surroundings to establish a friendly atmosphere.
mobilize various resources in our network of relationships, give play to collective wisdom, and finally achieve the expected development goals.
No matter how much wealth and status a person has, he must put down his body and build a good relationship with everyone. Be good at keeping a smile, don't engage in small circles, take into account the interests of the other party when doing things, learn to empathize, and know how to cooperate and win-win to reach the hearts of the people. Achieving yourself in the collective is always the only way to succeed.
With community thinking, you can purposefully export your value and carry out the fission and multiple growth of your career. In the middle, of course, you need to manage carefully, think quietly, and draw a virtuous circle of mind with the keen sense of detective.
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