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Maintain a heart of relief and tranquility.
Zhou Guoping : From a philosophical analysis, fate is the unity of contingency and causality. It is accidental. All encounters, including friendship, love, and marriage, are accidentally brought together by many factors. It is also causality. In the dark, every encounter has causes and consequences that we can't ascertain, and cause and effect are different in depth, so fate is also different in depth. From these two aspects, people cannot control fate, so they can only follow fate.
How do you follow? In fact, you have already said very well. First, it is not easy to meet people with fate, so cherish them. Second, whether there is fate between people and the depth of fate is basically determined. You have to know it in your heart and don't force anyone. You can’t control fate, but you can control your feelings and mood, right?
Q: Are you happy and happy? First of all, I want to make a distinction between the two concepts of happiness and happiness. Happiness generally refers to the emotional state when a certain desire is satisfied or when a certain desire is fulfilled. Correspondingly, pain refers to the emotional state when the desire or desire is frustrated. Emotional state is constantly changing, so when people have happiness, there are also painful times, and there are many times when neither happiness nor pain is in an intermediate state. The same is true for me.
Compared with happiness, happiness is a big vocabulary. People often use it to express their overall evaluation of their own life state, that is, whether they are satisfied with their life in general. If you understand it this way, I can tell you that I think I am happy because I am more satisfied with the two important aspects of life, career and family.
Q: Teacher Zhou, what should I do if I am often in a state of anxiety? For example: I feel anxious when I read a book, why I haven't finished reading it, and I don't even think deeply. I think there are still a lot of things. Is this an example?
Zhou Guoping: I think there are two possibilities. If you have been like this for a long time, it may be a personality problem. Your personality is irritable and impatient, especially impatient to do things that require a long time of concentration. If you have not been like this before, and have been doing this for a while, you may be suffering from mild chronic anxiety disorder, which is characterized by nervousness and uneasiness without a clear target, sometimes accompanied by symptoms such as dizziness and panic. In either case, you can consciously correct yourself. For example, when you read a book, you stipulate that you can only read 20 pages an hour.Read repeatedly and take notes. In short, consciously train yourself to be slow, quiet, and attentive. Try it for a while, I believe it will be effective.
Q: How much is love worth this year? What would you use to measure the value of love? Please give an analysis and talk about your reasons.
Zhou Guoping: I believe that when you asked this question, you already had your own answer, that love cannot be measured by money. What can be measured by money is not love, but show, such as show off an engagement gem of how many carats, show off a luxurious exotic wedding. True love, you can say that it is priceless, you can't buy it for much money, or you can say that it is worthless, and it won't make the people who own it and those who get it rich a little bit. How to measure the value of love, this question can be specifically: A falls in love with B, what is the value of this love by B? Mainly look at two points, one is the authenticity of this love, and the other is the overall evaluation of the person A. If both score high, it does not mean that B will definitely fall in love with A, but he will definitely respect A's love.
Q: Teacher Zhou, in the end, you said that B hadn't finished talking about the true love of A. Did you feel happy and moved, and produce psychological value?
Zhou Guoping: I mean,A very nice person in my heart loves me sincerely, this may not make me fall in love with him (her), but I will feel the value of his love. This not only refers to the value in the psychological sense that I am moved by, but also refers to the very positive evaluation of his emotions, which belongs to the positive value of truth, goodness and beauty.
Q: Teacher Zhou, what do you think of the rumors of polyandry? In the future, do you think it is possible for women to subvert the weak position of the patriarchal society for thousands of years and become the "new master"
Zhou Guoping: I don’t understand this rumors. Men who have unconstrained power will practice polygamy, and vice versa, women who have unconstrained power will practice polyandry, Wu Zetian has proved this. Regarding the relationship between the sexes, the general trend in the future is to transcend patriarchal and feminist rights and present an individualized and diversified form.
Q: What is your opinion on the end of long-distance relationship in university? Is long-distance relationship only synonymous with youth? Zhou Guoping: My opinion is: 1. You are in the season of love.Whether it is a long-distance relationship or a same-place relationship, love is the blossom of youth, and it is very beautiful. Second, not all flowers will bear fruit, not all love will eventually become a family, long-distance love and same-place love are like this. You are so young, there is no need to think too much about whether or not to get married in the future, you should enjoy the joy of love as much as you can. However, if the two people love deeply, they must be eager to meet and meet frequently. If there is no such desire, whether they love deeply will have to be questioned. You should strive to work in the same place after graduation. Fourth, human nature is fragile, and it is the basic law to cause emotional changes in long-term different places. Of course, the same place can also change. The method of preservation is to be intimate, and there must be a distance when you love each other, but intimacy is the prerequisite, and you can talk about it.
Q: Want to ask about the interpretation of happiness?
Zhou Guoping: Happiness is a big topic. I have published a book called "The Philosophy of Happiness", which is more specific and you can only check it now. Say something. I think happiness is to make the most precious things in one's body have a good state. The most precious things are life and spirit. Happiness lies in the simplicity of life and the excellence of spirit. The simplicity of life allows you to enjoy the ordinary happiness of life, such as love, affection, and friendship. Spiritual excellence allows you to enjoy the high-level happiness of life, such as reading, creation, and work. In layman's terms, there are two great happiness in life, one is to do what you like and be able to support yourself by this, and the other is to be with the people you like and make them feel happy.
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