With the development of society and the acceleration of social rhythm, people's pressure has increased, and negative emotions have also increased. It is necessary for young students to alleviate negative emotions by learning some emotion management methods. Here are four books related to alleviating negative emotions. I hope you can get some inspiration from them.
reconciliation and true to yourself
Author: Tim Desmond
Press ： Taihai Publishing House
Published: March 2018
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Three years ago, when I was still studying at the Shanghai School of Health Medicine Affiliated Hygiene School, I started a high-level life. I want to apply for the Midwifery Major of the School of Health Medicine, but the number of students enrolled in this major for secondary vocational students in the city is very small, with only three places. It is difficult for me to imagine myself being shortlisted in such a fierce competition, so I was very anxious at one time.
After realizing my anxiety, I thought of the method in this book, and immediately stopped self-denial, and instead responded to my inner anxiety with self-compassion: "You are afraid of failing in the exam. It’s normal to have such an idea. It’s very important for you to be admitted to the School of Health Medicine. After all, this is your long-term desire and a prerequisite for becoming a midwife. But even if you didn’t pass the exam, you got admitted to another school. You can also find other interests in other majors. No matter what happens, your experience can make you grow."
As a result, my heart calmed down and I focused on reviewing and preparing for the exam. In the end, I was admitted to the School of Health Medicine with a score exceeding the score by one point.
Reinventing oneself: How to be a very happy person
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Publisher: Jiangsu Phoenix Literature and Art Publishing House
Publication time: February 2017 _strongsp2 1 _strongsp2 _span_span0 The moment,So how to get rid of the bad mood in the difficult days? There are many practical methods in this book.
One way is to wake up from sleep every day and find a card with the meaning of life placed next to the pillow, and we will know where the direction of life is. This looks a little funny, but if you think about it, it makes sense. For a while, I woke up and felt very confused: What should I do in the new day? This method tells me that I can write down what I want to do this day-I want to travel, I want to cook a dish, I want to raise a flower... Then, do my best to do this thing well, and use fluorescence when finished. Stroke out, or tick. One day in the future, when you see that you have done so many things, you will feel a sense of accomplishment in your heart.
In addition, it is also important to change the inertial way of thinking—sometimes we want to do something, we must first confirm that we will do it; secondly, we have to want to do it; then, we can really go Do this. But this way of thinking often leads us to dare not make new attempts. At this time, it's better to change the order-start doing it first, and then you will do it, and then you will have confidence and motivation to continue doing it, so that you can enter the positive cycle without blindly indulging in confusion and delay. Yu was in a bad mood.
live out their most optimistic
Author: Martin Seligman
Publisher: Wan Volume Publishing Company
Published: August 2010
Optimistic people can always recover quickly after being hit. So, is it possible to become optimistic through learning? This book introduces the ABCDE model that makes you optimistic.
A represents a bad event (adversity); B represents the resulting negative thoughts (belief); C represents the possible consequences of these negative thoughts (consequence); D represents a dispute (disputation) , Refers to refuting one's negative thoughts; E stands for energization, which mainly refers to a person's ability to deal with setbacks better after positive thinking is stimulated.
I once encountered such an incident: I invited a group of friends to see my calligraphy works, but I found that a friend who had a good relationship with me hardly took it seriously. At that time, I felt very embarrassed: On the one hand, I felt very embarrassed-is it because my handwriting is so ugly that my friends simply look down on it? On the other hand, how can she be like this as my friend? I remember I blamed her at that time. After reading this book, I thought that if I had adopted the method of "rebuttal" at the time, maybe the result would not be that way. First of all, I knew that my handwriting was not ugly, and secondly, there might be many reasons why she didn't read it carefully, but It has nothing to do with the friendship between us. This is indeed the case. She is not interested in calligraphy. I don't have to deny myself or even doubt our friendship because of her performance.
From this we can see that a person’s negative thoughts are likely to be distorted and incorrect. We can challenge it and not let it control our emotions. And when you develop the habit of refuting negative thoughts, you will feel a lot happier.
universities do not confused
Author: Li Shanglong
Publisher: Kyushu Press
Publication date: August 2017
in college life,There are many opportunities waiting to be discovered, but I am very confused about my future when I entered university. Every time I see people around me have clear goals and work hard for the work I want to do in the future, I am both envious and annoyed. ——Besides the established short-term goal for college promotion, I don't know which direction to go to, and I don't have a definite idea about the future career. It feels like there is a fog in my head. The more I tried to clear the fog, the more I couldn't see clearly, a sense of powerlessness surrounded me tightly.
After reading the book "University Is Not Lost", my mentality has changed. There are some practical methods in the book, such as which certificates are worth testing and which things are worth doing during college. More importantly, it tells me that instead of entangled in what the dream is, it is better to take the first step: if you are not sure if you are interested in this matter, then try it. Why not try it wrong? So I tried to leave the feeling of powerlessness behind me and actively participated in various activities and competitions in the school. In the process, I often reflected and summarized and felt very rewarding. From this, I realized: If you want to find a way of life that suits you, you cannot rely on fantasy; if you want to clear the fog, you must first move. Such a talent is more likely to obtain a positive mental state.
