What would a man think of his junior?

A person derails for two reasons: either greedy or desperate.

Let me talk about despair first. Many original partners, regardless of male and female, suffocate the other half for various reasons, and make the other half unbearable and desperate to derail. Of course, I must emphasize here that this approach is very, very wrong! If the relationship between the husband and wife is incompatible, they can be negotiated, or divorce if the negotiation fails. But we tend to overestimate human nature. After all, the cost of divorce is too high, and the low-cost thing like derailment has become the choice of many people.

Besides being greedy, this is easy to understand. A man's physical characteristics determine his tendency to have multiple sexes, and it has nothing to do with whether the original partner is good or not.

Is there a small third who succeeded in the upper ranks and the two have been living happily? It's not without it.

Just like a famous director, his wife is a first-line female celebrity. He fell in love with his wife six years before his divorce, which means that his wife is a proper junior high. It is said that the director’s ex-wife is a nurse and a big beauty. Different people have different opinions on who is more beautiful and more talented.

However, what the ex-wife does not have is the current wife's status, fame and money in the entertainment industry. A famous director and a first-line female celebrity, the two complement each other, and in the end, the junior is in the position.

However, do you want to say that they will have a happy life in the future? Not necessarily. When the wife was asked about the director’s cheating during the interview, she directly said: "Anyway, our family is a male, and we don’t suffer." Although this sentence is very good, but the person really doesn’t feel like it. Mind?

There is also a successful case of a junior high ranking - 琼瑶, Ping Xintao is a very discerning publisher. His greatest vision is to discover Qiong Yao. It can be said that without Qiong Yao, there would be no him. Publishing Kingdom.

So in the end, he risked the world to divorce and marry Qiong Yao.

At first glance, whether it is in the entertainment industry or in life, many juniors have defeated the original match.But actually? Poorly low probability.

From a man’s point of view, there are only two possibilities for divorcing and marrying a mistress. One is that he is really disappointed in his current marriage, which was originally accompanied by bad behaviors such as gambling and cheating; the other is his ambition Vigorous, just as Xiaosan is rich, powerful and resourceful, and can help him realize his dream.

From the perspective of a junior, there is only one situation in which you want to be in position, that is, you have superior strength and will provide emotional value, which can bring men greater benefits than divorce, and even directly lead men to turn over.

But in most cases, it is sad for Xiaosan. I believe every man has said to Xiaosan that I have no feelings with my wife. I and you are true love. Give me some time and I will get a divorce. marry you.

But what is the real situation? Is the relationship between a man and Xiaosan true love?

e·Aronson’s book "Social Animals" divides emotions into four categories: like, passionate love, partner love, and perfect love. These four are progressive relationships.

The difference between liking and love is: love is exclusive, dependent and intimacy, but liking is not.

The difference between passionate love and partner love: partner love is characterized by acceptance, trust, stability, and reliability, but there is no trust and acceptance between a man and a mistress, so this is passionate love at best, away from true love It's still early.

In addition to the vast majority of men who have cheated, although they may have a lot of dissatisfaction with the original marriage, but they are not to the point of being incompatible. After finding a junior outside to adjust the nightlife and spiritual life, he breathed out. , So he returned to marriage.

At the same time, most of the juniors are just ordinary people, maybe just a little younger and a little more beautiful than the original match. Such a little advantage is not so great that the man will give up the original match at all costs.

So in fact, too many juniors have made two mistakes, overestimating the power of passionate love and overestimating their own strength. The juniors who can really succeed at the top are all ruthless roles.

For men, there are only interests, not pure love. After all, scumbags only like themselves.

The analysis of the angle between Xiao San and Zha Nan is finished.Let's talk about it from the perspective of the original equipment.

I sent a private message to my reader Lemon before and told me about her case.

Lemon has been with her husband for six years. Her husband is dumb and honest with Lemon and children. Although there is no romance and sentiment, it also gives enough care and warmth. Lemon once thought that his husband was a good example of a good man, but a few months ago he suddenly filed for divorce with Lemon.

Then her husband confessed to her that he fell in love with someone else. He said that Xiao San has always been a good girl. It was because he loved himself too much that he overcame Lei Chi, and the two did immoral things.

Lemon was so angry that he hysterically asked him: "Where do you put my child and me!"

Husband was silent, after a long time, he dropped the sentence "Then calm down for a few more days"

The next day, Lemon heard her husband in the study chatting with Xiaosan on a video, and her speech was so soft that she was not like her usual dull husband! Lemon couldn't help crying, rushed into the study, slapped her husband a few times, grabbed the phone and glanced at Xiao San, which was a bit unexpected. Xiao San is not a pretty girl, her appearance and clothes are below her, and she even looks older than her.

Lemon couldn't help but scolded Xiao San with the harshest words, but Xiao San did not respond, and even apologized to Lemon, saying that he loved this man too much and did not intend to destroy the family. When Lemon heard this, he was even more furious. He smashed his phone with a choke, and sneered at her husband: "Why is your taste so bad?" , She never said anything bad about you, and kept letting me return to the family. Now that we are torn apart and I am sorry for you, then I can’t be sorry for her anymore.”

This is a relatively high-ranking junior, The trick of retreat for advancement is really incisive. In fact, in the face of a derailed husband, it is most appropriate to divorce with maximum benefits. However, due to practical reasons, Lemon cannot divorce for the time being, and can only keep the marriage, she asked me How to do.

1 Let go of your feelings and do not love him

If you still love him, you can’t control your emotions.You will accuse him, complain about him, be hysterical, and constantly flip through old accounts, all of which are to push the other party to the mistress.

2 Thinking of partners

Regardless of whether the final divorce is derailed or not, in short, remember the principle of maximizing benefits. If we regard each other as a partner and think from the perspective of a partner, how How about maximizing benefits?

No love, no hatred, no opposition, you treat him as an enemy, he is definitely not willing to give, so there is no need to be stiff, sweetheart is cold, even if he is asked to bring more children, it also helps us share the housework, let We have time to do our own thing.

Just like lemon, if your husband cheats, you can't stand the strength of lemon. Lemon can no longer care about her husband. Whenever something happens, she will be sweet and coquettish and ask her husband to help. If nothing happens, she will never find her husband, nor will he bother him with the mistress. Occasionally, lemon will cook a table of dishes for her husband to have dinner together. Lemons have never been cooking before, but they are all made by her husband. Therefore, lemons’ initiative to cook surprised her husband.

The atmosphere of the two gradually improved. Lemon also took the initiative to ask the children to ask her husband to accompany the children. Lemon took advantage of these free time to go out to practice dance. She herself has been a dance lover for more than ten years. Because the child is growing up slowly, and the time to spend with the child is too long, so I was delayed dancing for a while. Now I just have a chance to regain my hobby. Lemon is happy every day and looks more and more radiant. My husband is also in the eyes.

My husband has stopped mentioning the divorce, and even sometimes he wants to make love to Lemon. Lemon also listened to me and refused. Here must be the focus! Don't easily forgive men who have cheated, even those who have not yet asked for forgiveness and have to repent. Forgiveness easily is a lesson of blood and tears.

3 Find the right opportunity to prepare for negotiation

The premise is that we are no longer afraid of divorce at this time. No one knows the outcome of the negotiation. The worst outcome is a divorce. We must be psychologically prepared and dare to divorce. If we do not dare, the other party will pinch us and continue to have the dream of a threesome.

At this time, Xiao San is already uncomfortable. No matter what she said before, she doesn't want to break up other people's families, but is there really Xiao San who doesn't want to be in the position?

I told Lemon,We must stay calm. When the junior is in trouble, we can push him out with our lips, but we still assume the responsibilities of wife and mother, and pull the husband back in action. It couldn't be more appropriate to deal with Xiaosan with this method of Xiaosan.

Finally, during the negotiation, Lemon said that because he loves her husband, he wants to let him be free so that he can be with the mistress in a fair manner. But my own orphan and widow also need material protection, and I hope my husband can benefit from it.

Unexpectedly, my husband began to disagree with the divorce. Maybe he had quarreled with Xiaosan several times before, which made him give up the idea of ​​being with Xiaosan. He confessed his mistake with Lemon and signed an agreement on the division of the marriage property, and the house was immediately transferred to Lemon.

It is really difficult for Xiaosan to be in position. As the original partner, as long as you pay attention to yourself and do what you need to do, you can get what you want, whether it is to get the most of the benefits by divorcing directly, or keeping the marriage and regaining the marriage , You need to have a calm mind, a strong heart, and a stable mood, as well as the independence to dare to divorce.