This is a big trouble that many introverted friends often encounter!
I often feel shy, blush, and dare not talk more when I encounter something. I have to think about some reasonable things for a long time, but I choose not to say it in the end. As a result, others said it first and missed a great opportunity!
Many people have been thinking about this question: Why do you have a thin skin while others have such a thick skin? How should I exercise myself?
thought a lot and read a lot of books, but in the end there was no result! No matter how you do it, it doesn't help you much, and you can't make any progress!
is here today to tell everyone what is going on? How can I thicken my face!
What is the root cause of a thin-skinned and often shy person?
Some people say that it is due to the character, the introverted character!
Then I have to ask again, why do people with introverts have thin skins and those with extroverts have thick skins?
Many people will definitely not be able to answer.
So let me ask again, why are some people outgoing and some people introverted?
You must not be able to answer even more.
Actually, this is not the answer.
Whether a person has a thick skin has nothing to do with his character!
What does that have to do with?
In fact, thin-skinned people are caused by lack of self-confidence.
Imagine that an ordinary person with outgoing personality and strong personality is sent to a dance party that is full of upper-class society and nobles. Is he also shy, thin-skinned, and afraid to speak?
Therefore, thin skin is caused by lack of self-confidence!
So, why do others have so much confidence and talk about it?
Why do you have no confidence and not much to say?
Because you are introverted, you didn’t feel much warmth when you were young, so in the subconscious you formed since childhood,Always afraid of the negative effects of saying the wrong thing! If you say something wrong, no one will help yourself, and no one will help you out of your embarrassment!
So you develop the habit of speaking very carefully, so when it comes to the occasion to speak, you can’t make a fart!
The less you speak, the less likely you are to speak. The less you speak, the less you speak. If you don’t get exercise, you will be less and less able to speak!
Then developed the problem of blushing as soon as he speaks!
This is a vicious circle! You must get out of this dilemma! What about
? Look at other people with thick-skinned people, why do they talk so much?
If you want to become as talkative and thick-skined like them, you have to analyze the reasons for them! Rather than learning from what they said, that would be a squeeze effect!
Why do they talk a lot and have a thick skin? Because they are outgoing and confident.
So when they leave home and go out, where does their confidence in speaking come from?
This is an important point! If you understand, you can become thick-skinned, talkative, and never blush as soon as you speak.
The point is that anyone who speaks will choose what he thinks is right. The difference between you and them is that you don't know what to do when you say the wrong thing! And what about them? They said the wrong thing, there are 10,000 ways to save the scene!
This is why they are confident!
These ten thousand ways to save yourself from saying the wrong thing can be summed up as a universal formula !
is what should I do if I say something? How to deal with it?
The omnipotent method: If you say something wrong and offend a strong person, quickly say a good thing or apologize. If you say the wrong thing and offend a weak person, then leave him alone. If he dares to resist, he will go back. It is easy to deal with a weak person, and he appears to be powerful!
There is another reason for self-confidence, which is that thick-skinned people usually always have a sharp edge.As soon as someone else hurts yourself by speaking, you can immediately attack, or plan to fight back! In this way, he can always take advantage of speaking! He has become more and more talkative and talkative!
Master these two speaking rules, practice slowly, and you will gradually become a thick-skinned and no longer shy person.
But you have to think carefully, don't become what you hate!
Do not say much about intentionally hurting others, but it is an exception for some people.
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