Tuesday, March 9, 2021, here is 
online and offline sharing, in these years, how much have you listened to?
After every sharing, do you call it out, but you are still the same afterwards? Or, do you feel that "you are talking about so-and-so truth again"?
This article, I just want to talk about why the more we listen to sharing, not only fail to live our own life, but also produce a kind of "why I also understand but not achieve the excellence of others" and so on The sense of pressure, and what is the high-quality sharing that is worth listening to.
In my opinion, the so-called sharing is actually a kind of subjective and condensed process of 's sorting process of the past experience and experience of a particular field of the sharer.
1. The subjectivity of sharing
The so-called sharing is subjective, that is to say, there will be subjective elements in anyone's sharing. Even if it was something he experienced personally, when he shared it, he was deviated due to time factors and choices.
In this era when knowledge can be easily shared, the sharing of each family can be described as overwhelming. If you join an online group, you will be notified by the group owner in the way of @ all members at what time and who will share it with everyone What the content of the subject. Ever since, you remembered a few pages full of papers at the time, shouting that you were addicted and fulfilled, but after , you were still you, the great person who shared, and the one who you thought was unattainable. After the past, you will continue to listen and share, and enjoy the emotional pleasure of listening afterwards.
However, this habit of listening to sharing has a great disadvantage, because enjoys the pleasure of feeling,Under the action of time, a chemical reaction will occur! That is to say, you will have the feeling of "after listening to a lot of dry goods, but still having a hard time living your own life", or "after all, you are still talking about a certain truth" that seems to see through the nature of the content of the sharer.
This is the reason why I don’t like it or recommend to listen to the sharing frequently, because this kind of reality is refreshing after listening and life will be the same afterwards. What you generate is not motivation, but stress and anxiety, and even self-doubt.
The subjectivity of sharing also means that the sharer is likely to unconsciously mix in a lot of unreal and objective ideas during the sharing process . For example, the other party shared a successful sales experience, how to use interpersonal communication and other knowledge, after repeated confrontation, finally convinced the customer by himself, but is the truth really the case? It is very possible that the other party’s consent and “being persuaded” were just because his needs were met at exactly this time. The reason why people think about dealing is actually only because they are entangled in how to better satisfy their needs.
2. Concentration of sharing
The so-called condensed, in other words, the content and opinions shared by the sharer, is a reduced version of the personal MV. Just like we people can live for decades, but a 120-minute movie can show a person's life.
Concentration is inevitable, because no one will take out all their actions every month, every week, every day, every minute and every second. They will only take the most representative of 365 days Take out the behavior and share it through examples.
Since it is an example, it is destined to be an individual. You will not see countless diving behaviors behind the establishment of the supporting example. It's like I successfully passed Subject One today, and it only took 13 days before and after. The testmate asked me how I did it, and I said that I had to do it every day.There is a sense of title. But during these 13 days, how I secretly grabbed time between work and used all the traffic signs to reinforce my memory experience, only I can experience it.
Here, I am not advocating that everyone should not listen to sharing. Of course, we have to learn from the experience and theories of our predecessors, but we must learn to recognize the quality of sharing and balance internal and external Find the relationship between.
3. Choose high-quality sharing
Here, combined with my own harvest, I will share my understanding of high-quality sharing.
First, it must be from personal experience. Without experience, there will be no particularly strong emotions. Therefore, to judge whether a sharing is real, one of the keys lies in whether the sharer has high and positive emotions.
I believe that everyone has a feeling that when you experience something, you will have a strong right to speak. When you talk to others, you will be particularly "talkative", and there will be a kind of temperament between the words, and the listener All can be infected by your aura, which creates a feeling of "you are shining." Later, I discovered that this phenomenon is actually due to the emotional excitement that I have done, experienced, and produced. Only when you do it yourself will you have a unique emotion when you share, and feel that you want to say, can say, and know how to say it.
Second, we must look at the content to be shared, whether it stays on top of the iceberg or goes deep below the iceberg .
To be honest, when many people share, sharing is actually the result and the process of achieving the result. However, after listening a lot, I have a more insight: good sharing is not about sharing the results achieved and the process of realization, but sharing on your way to achieve it.Why can you do things, this is what is under the iceberg. How you achieve this result and why you choose this way is actually revealing your way of thinking and the way to obtain this way of thinking. This is where the listener should learn and think seriously.
After writing this, I suddenly found that I had brought a strong sense of emotion this time, and even a feeling of entering the flow of writing . In fact, it was just because of these words, I I have experienced and thought personally, and benefited me a lot.
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